virginity??!!?

Question

how long do u thing girls should stay virgin? should they keep it for the marriege?

Answer 1

If you want sexual intimacy to mean the most it can for your marriage, save it. Otherwise, you risk it being damaging for your relationship (especially if you don't end up marrying the person you are sexually intimate with.) Notice I didn't just say sexual intercourse. The more you save for marriage, the more it will mean.

Speaking from a man's perspective (since I am one), I know that the memories of events from the past, such as times when I was being close with a woman, may pop into my head at any time. Being married now, I only have one who is in my life, but it does not stop those thoughts from entering my head. If I had never made those memories in the first place, several things would be true:
1. I would have nothing to compare her against.
2. Given number 1, by default sex with my wife would be the best have I ever had.
3. I wouldn't have to worry about visions of others going through my mind when I'm with her.
4. I would've said that I waited for her, and it was worth the wait.
5. Imagine if you accidentally got pregnant. How would you deal with that?
6. Would you want your spouse to wait for you?

I say these things based on experience and from books read, seminars attended, and marriage counseling I've been to. Though I'm a guy, and it's supposed to be cool to get laid a lot, I can honestly say I deeply regret becoming sexually active and losing my virginity before I got married. If you want the most out of your marriage, you'll wait.

Answer 2

You Know The Average Person Is Going To Say Yes Save It For Marriage. But You Have To Think. Over Have The Marriages Now Adays End In Divorce. Meaning You Might Be A Virgin When You Get Married For The First Time. If You Do End Up Being Married Forever Then You Don't Wanna Live The Rest Of Your Life Wondering If It Could Be Better. You Never Know What Your Missing Unless You Have Something To Compare It With.

Answer 3

Most people will tell you "Save it for your marriage" well that isn't how the world works today. Most girls loose it by the age of 15!!!!! I don't think that is good. I wish all girls would save themselves till they are married but things happen. I am about to be 19 and I just lost mine not to long ago. So I would say at least wait till you are 18 years old. makes you look alot better and not so much a Whore!!! OK Good Luck
Kimimila

Answer 4

I believe that it's a girl's personal choice. True, many girls lose their virginity sometime during their teens, but there are also many girls who wait until marriage. Though it is a very special gift a girl can give to her husband, you shouldn't feel bad if you had sex earlier with someone you loved and were committed to at the time. I do believe that you should wait until you love someone, though, but as to when that is, I can't say.

I am a virgin (and proud of it), and my ultimate goal is marriage, but if I find a good man who I love, I'm open to having sex.

Hope this helps.

Answer 5

You should wait until you feel you are ready...completely! What if you get pregnant? What if you get an STD? There's a lot of precautions to take. There is no age standard as to when you should lose it, but i think you are more mature when you are considered an "adult" in this country...

Nowadays everyone is doing it, so don't go by those standards and think like that...do what's right for you.

Just wait until you are ready and you'll see you will enjoy it better.

Good luck! Take care!

Answer 6

I totally regret not keeping mine for my husband. There is not a person that I talk to that doesn't regret it. So just keep yours but if you feel its right do it. But don't do it because your bf is pressuring you into it. Do it because you want to. Virginity is a good thing. Make sure you KNOW what your doing. If your not ready for the responsibility ( pregnant, S.T.D.'s etc.) then don't. If your going to be ashamed to tell your mom then don't. Don't ever do anything you ashamed of. Good luck sweetie.

Answer 7

You know the average amount of people who say they practice abstience till marriage and ended breaking that 'vow' is somewhere in the seventy percent range? ( I couldn't help my self some people were irritating me) anyway, the wait till marriage thing is overrated and overhyped. Sex isn't that big of a deal, now little kids and young teens shouldn't be out and about. But for adults who are affectinate for each other, go ahead. Most people of yesteryears genration that preach 'wait till marriage' to their kids fail to see that on average they were being married right out of highschool, or in. In this day in age most people aren't marriage till their 30's or 40's after they have a career established. Waiting 30years? Are you serious? Wait untill your old enough to deal with the emotional reprecussions and know enough about protecting yourself from pregnancy and STDs, that could be late teens or twenties or however long it takes. Once you find a decent guy and are in a steady realastionship I say go for it. Some people are just too up tight....

Answer 8

when she can spell "marriage" shes ready....no, its a personal thing, theres no set age. its not an amusement park ride "must be this tall to ride" kind of thing. its whenever it feels right to you. waiting for the right person is key though, you don't want to just do anyone. you will remember that time for life and you don't want to remember a jerk. whenever it feels right, but keep in mind that condoms aren't 100% effective so if the condom broke or whatever and you got pregnant, could you handle it on your own? if the answer is "yes" then by all means. if not, wait.

Answer 9

i would say that when ever your physically and mentally ready, if you save it for marriage after a couple of years of being together you might wonder what is out there. and it may cause u to cheat on ur future husband. some works perfectly. you wouldn't buy a pair of shoes with out trying it it first, right? well that's what i believe, i think the question to ur answer is only for you to answer and not us. that a very personal question. and don't let people to tell you what to do. only you know that.

Answer 10

If you meet the right guy, and it feels like what you want to do. Alot of girls will hold off on losing their virginity to some guy that dated them all throughout highschool, and then turnaround and put out for some random scumbag in college.