what actions will you take if you find that someone is talking behind your back?

Answer 1

confront them. and if that doesnt work just blow them off

Answer 2

Find out how they talk about you to your face. Then when the person who told you that they where talking behind your back is present, confront the the person. Alot of times the trouble maker in these situations is the person who told you someone was talking behind your back, not the actual sh*t talker. Everyone has gripes, but do not tell the person out of common courtesey. Most people who hear sh*t are talking **** themselves. By confronting the person who talked behinded your back in front of the person who told you, they cannot say I never said that, and it gets the person who told you in troulbe with the sh*t talker. This destroys thier trust based **** talk network, and reasserts the fact that you will set things straight when you hear stuff.

Answer 3

I'm not a violent person or confrontational, but if someone does have something to say behind my back that isn't true; I do confront them. But I'm not nasty about it nor do I attack them. The way I've done was ex: "Why would you say that I took something when I wasn't here that day".....doing in that way, this way you let the person know YOU KNOW what they've said and that you aren't AFRAID to get things straightened out. Even if they lie and say they didn't mention things, you gain more respect that way and it stops, you know?

Answer 4

Noprmally it doesnt faze me a bit! If I know someone has been saying things about me I usually will say in front of them " wow who am I sleeping with this week? Or something like: " God Iam just so honored that I have been picked out of everyone else to be talked about! I feel soooo special!" Things people say doesnt bother me cuz I know the truth and the people who know me know the truth so hey let em talk!

Answer 5

Depends on who it is and what they've allegedly said:

If it's a friend or acquaintance I'll ask them straight to their faces. More often than not their words have been twisted around by sh*t-stirrers to cause a little needless drama-rama in their otherwise empty lives.

If it's someone I hardly know, then I'll ignore it, or laugh. After all, if they don't know me they can't judge me with any accuracy, so what's the point of worrying? We can't win 'em all.

Answer 6

I addressed it. Confronted the person in calm and collected mannor and let them know what I heard and how I felt.
Didn't start an argument or anything like that just made my presence known.

It was settled and it was ended right then and there....You have to act like a reasonable and respectful person when you do it...You act a fool and start some mess then you are going to continue having problems...

Answer 7

I have never tolerated people talking behind my back, I would march right over to that person and let them know that if they have something to say, you would like to hear it face to face, not second hand.

I hate people that have nothing better to do than talk about someone else.

Good luck.

Answer 8

I think I would confront them non-combatively. Ask if there is a problem that needs resolved between the two of you. If you've done something to offend the person, apologize & move on. If they're petty they'll keep back-biting you, but if not, you've made peace & it won't worry you anymore.

Answer 9

None. They only talk behind your back because they want to be like you!

Answer 10

Confront them. It won't just go away, I usually do it over AIM 8) It saves plenty of drama but it's awkward the next time you see them. I prefer to act like it never happened.

Answer 11

Depending on how severe it is, I may confront them and ask about it. Mostly though I would just ignore it. People are going to talk, its human nature. I have always found it best to "pick my battles wisely".