but if you are nice to them then they walk all over you and you basically have lost the war, but like I said act uninterested or like you couldn't care less or even mean and they can get enough, why can't both sides just show equal love and admiration instead of the head games? Men can you tell me why, and women do you agree or not?
2007-04-03 08:09:54 · 21 answers · asked by kakylale 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well ive noticted that same thing, I guess its cause guys nowdays like women who can take care of themselves and also tell the guy exactly what she wil and will not accept...
bacially she should be able to put her foot down
2007-04-03 08:14:27 · answer #1 · answered by Franky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the bitchy women make clear "boundaries" with men...they make it really clear from the start what they will & won't put up with. The quiet, nice girls don't set those clear boundaries & men will, by nature, go as far as they can- whether it be walking all over someone, cheating, or whatever.
BUT I think it works both ways, like when the guy is the nice, quiet one....they usually get screwed over all the time because they never set those boundaries. Girls always use the nice guy.
I think people have to set boundaries (for lack of a better word) and they will get respected for that.
Human nature, I guess. We all get away with what we can.
2007-04-03 15:19:06 · answer #2 · answered by Sam F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its time for all women to start questioning themselves not men...What kind of men are you attracting to? Usually the answer is an A$$. What are you selling yourself has that they feel they can just go out a buy another one?....I was one who wouldnt date a guy who wasnt this or that...for black women its explained as our IBM Ideal Black Man...Maybe you should try dating someone a little outside of what you think is that dream guy "perfect" man cause the truth is one doesnt exist...and find someone who is really gonna adore the ground you walk on...thats what I did. I dont know if you are a christian women...but I will tell you this a man who truly loves God can truly love you. and If thats not your thing just remember sometimes we have to go through a few frogs to appreciate the prince thats just waiting for us.
2007-04-03 15:25:05 · answer #3 · answered by michelle H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are with the wrong man. No one will mistreat you unless you show some type of indication of weakness. You should consider being with another and leaving that man alone. Head games are so immature.
2007-04-03 15:18:50 · answer #4 · answered by I NEED HELP TOO! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont' know. Same with women. Nice guys is what they all say they want but when a nice guy comes along, they get pushed over for the badboy with no future in sight.
2007-04-03 15:16:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with others....i think that you're dating the wrong men.....i was once seeing this guy, treated me like **** one day, maybe was nice to me for little bit, then treated me like **** 95% of the time...finally i didnt want to deal w/that anymore, so i was mean to him, then HE questioned me on why i was being the jerk.....now i'm w/a man for almost two years now, he'll do anything for me, and is the nicest guy i've ever met...there are nice guys out there that wont cheat or treat you badly.....they're just very rare, and hard to find....but good luck!
2007-04-03 15:20:55 · answer #6 · answered by sweetxasxcandyx24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've noticed this for a long time too.
All the nice, or good-looking guys always have a B I T C H as a girlfriend.
I don't know...maybe that turns them on?! It keeps the sparks** in their relationship!
2007-04-03 15:17:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
funny ... I would say this about some women
I would guess it's the young men your dating, and your age
emotional maturity comes late for some, and not at all for others
what I will say is this, there is no such thing as a "fair" relationship ... one person will always seemingly give more than the other ... relationships are about what works, not about being fair ... so stop keeping score, accept others for who they are, and find someone that accepts you
2007-04-03 15:16:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In every relationship one person wants it more than the other. If you act like a b--- and he stays he wants you bad and will put up with anything. If you want them badly they know they can get away with sh*t.
Ideally you find someone who you really need and they really need you, then you won't want to hurt/take advantage of each other.
2007-04-03 15:17:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've learned with guys like that, they're usually players, selfish or immature. Men who are older, more wordly and wiser don't act like that. When I realized that guys I dated were acting like the above, I dumped them and realized after that I could do better alone than with someone like that.
2007-04-03 15:15:45 · answer #10 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋