I have a friend that constantly talks about how she doesn't think her and her boyfriend are going to last. I really hope that it works out for them for their baby (he's 1) sake, but I am so tired of listening to her talk back about the guy. He puts in 70 hours a week and she complains he works too much. Then he finds another job and she talks about how he is home too much. Should I say something to her or just keeping listening to her. (She gets defensive and is very sensitive person) What should I do because I don't want to make her mad because my husband and her boyfriend are best friends and she is a great friend she just threatens about leaving him all time and it's old.
2007-04-03 08:10:02 · 7 answers · asked by MommyofTwo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I can understand your frustration but what if you are to only person she feels comfortable venting her frustrations to. If you tell her how annoyed you are hearing the same old things from her she might chose to hold it all in instead and that could cause more problems. She probably just keeps repeating herself becuase she feels that you are listening and are understanding because you haven't complained to her about her complaining. Your friend seems kind of insecure and you might be a source of security for her. As her friend, you should just continue to be there for her and if her talking really becomes a problem try to find a way to tell her that you have a problem with it it just do in a way that doesn't insult too much. This would be a terrible reason to lose a friend.
2007-04-03 08:32:03 · answer #1 · answered by dreamer.rc42 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, honestly; I've been in your shoes before. Here's the thing; friendships are one thing, but having a friend who on a consistant basis talks bad about the spouse and chooses not to resolve anything with them, deserves to have something said to them. Either she'll get it or she won't you know? Then after that, if it gets worse; stop communicating with her. I had to do that recently and I've had no issues =) the other person that I know of still does, but it's too draining to listen to someone complain ALL of the time.
2007-04-03 15:21:22 · answer #2 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain - the pain in the *** that this woman sound like. Wow! Is she really that into herself?? I wish I had some great words of wisdom for you but quite honestly I don't think she would hear anything you have to say because she only thinks of herself. You could try not to hang out with her so much unless all four of you are doing something together. However, if it gets unbearable, just explain to your husband that you can't take her anymore, however, he is free to remain friends with his best friend - you have no obligation to take her on as your best friend in this situation. Good luck.
2007-04-03 15:15:41 · answer #3 · answered by Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling, I have heard a similar story over and over again. It does get really old, but I think they only do this so that you can feel for them or may be even complement them all the time.I say let them know how you feel and hope for the best. Good Luck!
2007-04-03 15:17:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter how sensative she may be you need to tell her how what she is saying sounds to you
and people should never stay together "just for the kids" it's the wrong thing to do your child will be happier if both parents are actually happy not just pretending to be....kids are very smart and will pick up on that sort of thing........also the baby is 1 which means if they break up now the child wont know the difference
2007-04-03 15:17:49 · answer #5 · answered by soccer_star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly she needs to make up her mind does she want the boy to work or not? Sounds like to me nothing makes this girl happy. You do need to sit her down and explain to her that he is supporting the family and if she keeps thinking badly about their relationship, they may not last. Ask her if she truely loves him. If so to be more supported, and more positive about their relationship.
2007-04-03 15:16:08 · answer #6 · answered by Sweetie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to get her priorities straight.
I would tell her that you are friends with both of them and don't want to get involved in their problems.She shouldn't be telling friends about her personal life anyway.
If she is so sensitive then she should be sensitive to his feelings also.
Tell her you want to remain friends and stay neutral.
2007-04-03 15:18:36 · answer #7 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋