My boyfriend and I met this guy at a biz conference. The guy ended up finding me on Myspace. We started talking via email b/c well, work gets boring. I told my boyfriend that we were talking. He didn't mind at first, then he decided he didn't like that we talked. When I said I wouldn't stop, he hacked into my account . He found a inappropriate joke that I had laughed off from the guy. He assumed that I was untrustworthy w/o asking what had happened. I feel betrayed. He says he doesn't trust me b/c even though he knew we where talking, its equal to if I had kissed the guy. I was just trying to make my work day go faster, and yes. my bf had been ignoring me for the last few months. I can't remember the last time we kissed unless it was goodbye. So it was nice to have someone interested in me. We live together, and have fought nonstop. I think he should move out. he says that he won't unless we break up. He checks my phone... Says hes not sure he can trust me. what do I do?
2007-04-03 07:38:02 · 18 answers · asked by cmv359 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he has trust issues and he's trying to tell you ... you might at least appreciate that ... but he's not dealing with it in a healthy or appropriate manor
know that its not about you
but honestly I would get out ... once you find yourself in the situation where you are sneeking a peek at e-mails and phone calls it becomes a self fullfilling prophecy ... he's gonna drive you nuts until you finally do cheat on him ... jelousy is a two-faced fiend that cannot hear reason ... he is emotionally immature, and may need some time, or some more hurt, before he decides to help himself
but know this, if you stay ... you're just as sick as he is
2007-04-03 07:43:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like things are heading down a bad road if he don't want you but does not want anyone else to have you. He is probably scared to lose you, and probably still has feelings for you, so don't beat him up too bad on hacking your e-mail. Most guys get a little jealous when their girl talks with other guys (you said you like the attention).
It seems like you both need to sit down and have a serious talk to see if it is worth continuing the relationship. If so you need to find some way to rekindle the love and intimacy.
2007-04-03 07:48:29 · answer #2 · answered by david 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be time to call it quits it appears your BF is controlling, extremely jealous, and has shown and told you he can't trust you. It's time to find a man who is grown up rather then a sceptical goof-ball. I think your somewhat to blame for all of this though it is very disrespectful and rude to be chatting with another guy when your in a relationship unless it is family or work related maybe he has a reason not to trust you?.
2007-04-03 07:44:53 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM PRONTO. He is immature and has no trust in you if he thinks your cheating. He seems to be very controlling or he could be looking for a way out of the relationship by doing this and wants you to dump him. obviously the relationship is not working so let it go and move on
2007-04-03 07:42:40 · answer #4 · answered by bbinqueens33 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeeaaah, this is good shiznit, I used to be the same way, INSECURE LIKE CRAZY, Ur boyfriend is crazy about u but he might be a LOW KEY PLAYER himself, cuzz he hasnt shown u love in the past few months and he's OVERPROTECTIVE, watch ur back and I think u kinda feel the Myspace dude????
2007-04-03 07:48:01 · answer #5 · answered by DJ B-Run 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack up his little ditty bag and send him on his way. He is jealous and controlling and his attitude and actions will only deteriorate. Don't become a statistic, it's time to open the door to the rest of your life.
Oh, and change your passwords on all your various email and bank accounts, etc.
2007-04-03 07:45:54 · answer #6 · answered by AK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should break up with him, hon. He needs to trust you, and if he doesn't thats not good, because the relationship isnt gonna be healthy, and if you don't break up now, it could lead to bad things.
Plus, he should have NEVER have gotton into your e-mail, because that is just an invasion of privacy.
2007-04-03 07:42:12 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Heather♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
O.K., this guy has trust issues. If he doesn't believe you change your password and tell him to grow up. If he loves you he will let this go. I invite you to email me back about this, but why the hell does he have your password? Everyone needs privacy.
2007-04-03 08:03:35 · answer #8 · answered by rockergrl15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any man who would get into your e-mail because they don't trust you needs to be dumped...and NOW!! There would be no life for at all if this is his way of handling problems, either real or just perceived.
2007-04-03 07:42:20 · answer #9 · answered by bevrossg 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You break up with him. He's a freak with serious trust issues.
2007-04-03 07:41:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋