Okay it's been over 3 months now since I found out the affair of my so called husband soon will be my ex This ***** who is married as well, still trying to harass me. Let's see, he hasn't seen or talked to her since last December when he asked her to apologize to my 3 kids,I already called my two cop friends, talk to her employer and she got fired, her husband filled for divorce, I met with her thought it will be my husband that will meet her in Temecula but not, had fun messing her face.
With all the things I've done to ruined her face and her life, she still trying to fight what she thought will be her's,the love of my dear husband. I've changed my number(home and cell),and now calling my kids cell? The police says she's not sick in a head but what is wrong with the picture here??
1) What will you do if this is your case?
2) Will you let your spouse fix his mess even though that you've done all the things to scare her?/
2007-04-03 07:44:00 · 12 answers · asked by islandgirl06 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is NO reason for an affair, first and foremost! Your husband evidently doesn't respect you or your marriage and as for her............she ain't worth jail time! And no girlfriend, there is NOTHING he could do to make it right. "Sorry" is not excuse for adultery. You're doing the right thing. Get out and go on with your life.
2007-04-03 08:12:21 · answer #1 · answered by TS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here in Texas we'd just shoot the woman. We've all got guns here. Seriously though there's nothing you could reasonably do other than what you've already done. She sees you as the root of her problems. In her view if it wasn't for you she'd still be having an affair with your husband and still be married to hers. She'd also still have her job. Is it possible to get a restraining order? Look into it would be my suggestion. I wouldn't recommend a lawsuit though. Since you got her fired she may be able to use that fact to tie up the court proceedings a bit. You'd probably win, but it would cost you and she'd probably still be harrassing you. Maybe you should talk it over with her and work something out. If you meet her somewhere, make damned sure that you don't go alone. Bring one of your cop friends with you. I doubt she'd try anything with a cop around. If she did anything like that then she would have to deal with the police and she would definately go to jail for a very long time.
2007-04-03 14:54:17 · answer #2 · answered by big_dog832001 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my...what a mess this is. Well, I think the both of you, meaning you and your husband need to take legal steps against this woman for harassment and get a restraining order. During the time of her being served, change all phone numbers and leave listed as "private" to where the phone company won't let her calls come through. Get new cell#s for your kids. It may not come to this, but do it anway, put blocks on your credit reports for potential fraud; they last for 90days; what that does if she decides to get smart and tries to open accounts, the stores will see the fraud allerts once they pull credit reports on either of you; prompting to call you to verify it's you. If this happens, then this is a federal offense. But not to get carried away here~
If a restraining order is filed, she goes to jail for x amount of time, that goes on her record permanently, and she'll still be on probation once she's released. At this point YOU BOTH are responsible in this unfortunately. Make sure to DOCUMENT EVERYTHING and keep any legal documents you already have. This will help for legal purposes later.
2007-04-03 14:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well has he told her to back off i think she might need to hear it from him i mean it is his fault and you dont know her very well so she didn't betray you but your husband did it also seems like you are putting all the anger ON her dont forget that he was exactly half of the problem and he let this women into your life so be mad at him to
what does she say when she calls and change your kids numbers to
also if she is calling your kids there is a major problem
try a new thing i dont know if it will work with this crazy women and buts worth a shot
so maybe she likes that you are all getting mad and she likes that now she is the center of the attention i know you didn't put her there and she doesn't deserve it but maybe try just saying that's nice and hanging up make her feel like she is a little child
you are giving her fuel so her fire when you get mad cus then she knows you think about her and that she is ruining your life
so just hang up and change your kids numbers and if she keeps calling get it on tape and take it to the cops so they can tap your phone line
good luck tell me how it goes i hope everything turns out all right for you
2007-04-03 14:54:24 · answer #4 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a fatal attraction which could be fatal to one of you involved. Now your children are involved. Stop doing things that can get you arrested like fighting, so far it hasn't worked for you. Go to the police station and get a restraining order on her and then when she gets within a certain distance of you, you can call the police and she will get arrested. If this happens a few times I think she'll give up. Be careful people in these kinds of situations do very crazy things, people have gotten themselves killed for less.
2007-04-03 14:56:42 · answer #5 · answered by SusiQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you made your spouse's mess even bigger. You took away the woman's job and marriage. No wonder she is focusing on your husband - she has nothing better to do.
I think your revenge has come back to haunt you. Your husband did something terribly wrong but you went out and made it even worse because you let your emotions get the better of you. It doesn't even sound like you want your husband you just want to make him pay. All the anger and bitterness will eat you up inside. Let it go. It's called being the more mature person.
2007-04-03 14:53:32 · answer #6 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who is harrassing who?
YOU got her fired?
You messed up her face?
She's actually got the right to have you arrested at this point...
Why is the cheating only HER fault? Your husband was cheating with her... she didn't hold a gun to his head, did she?
He asked HER to apologize to your kids?
Did HE apologize to your kids?
This question is either a joke, or your husband knows a fool (you!) when he sees one!
2007-04-03 14:57:33 · answer #7 · answered by aspicco 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't waste a second of my time on her or the soon to be ex. I'd set a better example for my kids than that.
2007-04-03 15:02:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all this is not your fight this is his. I had a guy I was seeing and his sons mother would call me she said to just talk since I was talkinh to him she had the right to call me. We sat on the phone for about 45 minutes until she got mad. My therory is "kill them with kindness". She knows she is pissing you off and making your life a living hell so she is not going to stop till you stop reacting to her.
2007-04-03 14:52:15 · answer #9 · answered by mommysgirl78 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
obviously she thinks your husband is going to go back to her. she is nuts period. This is stalking, harassment and the police should be involved and do something
2007-04-03 14:48:34 · answer #10 · answered by bbinqueens33 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋