Dear councellor,
I am undergoing a serious problem in my personal life.I will be very much grateful if you could help me cope with this.
I am a boy of 21 yrs. doing my graduation. This is about my love life. I am in love with a girl of my neighbourhood for the past 3 years since we were in school.She is also a graduate student of my age studying at a different college.We were in a steady relationship from the beginning but recently,problems seem to be creeping in out of nowhere.It seems that I have lost all interest in her.Now we seldom meet and I do not feel attracted towards her to such an extent that I have stopped taking her phone calls.She is not so much beautiful and my efforts to make her more presentable and attractive have gone to deaf ears.She is not willing to listen to any of my requests and argues with me on everything.I do not seem to like her anymore and cannot talk to her the way I used to before.But she is still deeply in love with me and I know that for sure.She says that she is very hurt from my behaviors but I cannot help it.Maybe this is because she doesnt want herself to get altered the way I want her to be.But I just want her flaws to be removed so that she becomes the perfect girl for me.Now, because of all this I am thinking of ending this relationship for the good of both of us as I believe that this relation will create more complex problems in the future.But at the same time, I know that she is a very good girl by nature & extremely loyal to me.So,on second thought I am thinking of continuing.So, as you can see,I am at a dillemma.I know her love is true but still I am not sure about continuing as I have lost attraction in her.So, if I continue, after sometime,the same problems can cope up again.I think I will not be able to forget her as this situation has already started giving me sleepless nights.We are both suffering at the same time but still I do not feel like meeting her.But still something inside me is telling that this relation will end up to no good. Again something inside me is telling that she loves me truly, so I should go back to her.I also will not be able to forget her if we breakup. I know that she will not be happy in life if I leave her and I know that her thoughts will come back to me more than often and I doubt that I will be able to stay happy with any other girl as we are stongly emotionally bonded to each other.But I have lost all attraction in this relationship.
Please tell me what I am supposed to do now so that we can be happy in the long run.
2006-07-13
18:11:00
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