2006-07-13 17:43:04 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think people should date as long as it takes to know for sure that you're with the right person, the one you can't stand to be without for the rest of your life.
But I would add to that, that even if you know right away, you shouldn't marry someone unless you've taken the time to get to know them. Whatever that means to you personally - you should really know what kind of a person someone is before you seriously consider marrying them. You always hear about people leading double lives and stuff like that...but overall I don't think there is a time frame or a set amount of time that people should be together before marriage.
2006-07-13 18:17:08 · answer #1 · answered by ykokorocks 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Societal "rules" will say 2-3 years before getting married and to an extent, I'd agree especially if both are under 25-27 years of age. I married my husband after only 6 months (knew each other for almost a year) and we have been happily married for a year now. Would I recommend it? Even though my situation turned out well, I'd still say no. You have to be 100% damn sure and we were but it's not for everyone. At 31 and 44 respectively we had been through all the bullshit and knew exactly what we wanted for life and marriage so we knew without a doubt we were right for one another. As a friend of mine pointed out yesterday there are many women who are so desperate to marry by a certain age (usually 30) they'll marry any guy who offers even if he's all wrong for her. In my case, I had no interest in marriage but it all came together well and is still going well. Long story short, I do believe it's up to the couple whether it's 1 year or 4 years. No one can tell a couple what is right or wrong for their relationship. For some, the right time without a doubt is 1 year. For others, it's 3 or 4 years. Despite society's "rules" I just don't believe there is one right answer.
2016-03-27 04:38:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it totally depends on the couple, my brother is newly engaged, I think he and his fiancee have known each other 3-5 months, and are planning a March wedding. My husband of 18+ years and I were friends for about 1 1/2 years before we dated, we dated for a few weeks, got engaged, and got married 7 months later. My sister has been with her guy for almost a year now, and they've just moved in together, but are thinking about getting married in another year or so. I think when you know it's right, it's right, and you jump.
2006-07-13 18:01:02 · answer #3 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question ! First how old are you both ? Second you have the rest of your life to rune it. Don't be in a big hurry. I would put it off as long as I could. Rember this is for the rest of your long , long , long , life. If this person is not the right person for you , your life will seem even longer , and full of hurt. Take your time and make real sure this is the right thing to do !
2006-07-13 18:18:56 · answer #4 · answered by ldp999000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as it takes to really get to know the other person. I believe you shouldn't marry someone without knowing everything about that person. And not until you fully trust him, can talk to him about anything, and both of you are willing to compromise about stuff. If people followed these ideas, there wouldn't be so many divorces.
2006-07-14 01:14:51 · answer #5 · answered by SweetPea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it feels right. If you know this is it (and you know deep down if it is) then go for it. My husband and I were together for 1 year, then moved in together and got engaged, got married 9 months later. However, we knew from about 2 months into the relationship that THIS WAS IT!! ....and it is all good!
2006-07-15 01:50:41 · answer #6 · answered by tanwil_73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no hard and fast rule of thumb. It all depends on the couple. Some couples only know one another for a short time and others have been together for ages.
2006-07-13 18:27:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends. I know people that were only together a few months and others over 10 years
2006-07-13 17:57:10 · answer #8 · answered by Great Gifts 4 Everyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
acording to me two people should date each other N- No. of time because as they are about to start a new life with each other so, y not know each other better coz after marrige kya pata kal ho na ho dating so do that today.........!!!!!!
2006-07-13 23:31:45 · answer #9 · answered by Muskan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the people theres no time bracket on marriage
2006-07-14 00:35:08 · answer #10 · answered by beautiful_disaster1122 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋