But my brothers are in my wedding party and I want a wedding party dance, a parents dance and a father daughter dance, all of it my parents aren't paying for very much of my wedding I say its my day they should honor my request any suggestions or comments?
2006-07-13 11:40:37 · 12 answers · asked by grizzliesgurl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My parents might be paying for the food at the most everything else we are doing on our own.
2006-07-13 11:42:39 · update #1
I think that the best thing to do in this situation is sit down with your family and have a nice long talk. Tell them how important this is to you and what it means to you (but before this, you should think about it. It will help you immensely if you have a better reason than "because I said so").
I honestly believe that on your day, they should bite the bullet and dance at your wedding if it's what you want. But I also believe it should be them to do it. If you force them to do it despite their protests, chances are your brothers will just stand there on the dance floor and not dance, because they'll feel awkward about it and they'll end up looking stupid and ruining the dance anyways.
With your dad, find out why he doesn't want to do it. My dad HATES dancing, but he knew that it was an important day for me and he didn't complain one bit about dancing with me. It was really special for both of us. But you also don't want to humiliate your dad - and he might feel like dancing is humiliating.
You could always offer to teach them how to dance. Sometimes all it is, is that they are self-conscious. And even though it's your day, they're your family for a long, long time afterwards.
I really hope that once you talk to them they'll agree to dance. It really is the nice thing for them to do. Good luck!
2006-07-13 20:14:37 · answer #1 · answered by ykokorocks 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh have the dance! At weddings you just have to go out on the floor and move around. It is the Bride and Grooms Day everyone else are just extras and no one will pay attention to them. Have the dance even if the only ones in the wedding party that dance is you and your husband. It will be YOUR wedding.
2006-07-13 18:46:14 · answer #2 · answered by Augie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say something to the person that said dancing is customary at a wedding, because it's not. We did not do any of the formal dances at our wedding, because we (the bride and groom) did not want to. It's your day, so you tell them what they need to do. Do the father/daughter and mother/son dance and also the bridal party dance and leave it at that. They will do whatever you tell them to do. It's your day, so you are the boss.
2006-07-14 08:28:00 · answer #3 · answered by SweetPea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sign everyone up for an introductory class at a ballroom dance studio and specifically elaborate on learning some waltz moves. Just a few basic moves which are easy to pick up and learn and you should all look well at the wedding.
2006-07-17 22:59:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really think merely getting married somehow gives you the power to bully your parents and brothers into doing something they find embarrassing or humiliating? Nothing like a wedding to bring out the little Hitler in a girl. If you push too hard with this notion that "It's my day; it's all about me; I can have and do whatever I want", you may well find that it is YOU who will be embarrassed and humiliated. Get over yourself.
2006-07-13 19:37:07 · answer #5 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I had a bridal party dance and a father daughter dance. My dad is pretty shy but he sucked it up and danced with me! And we looked so cute. The bridal party dance is fun because we had 4 couples and everyone "cut in" with each other and had a good time.
2006-07-13 18:43:26 · answer #6 · answered by Courtney T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree. dancing is customary at weddings. and since it's your special day, i don't think that dancing is an unreasonable request. i have know a few couples that took dancing lessons before the wedding. you should try it as a family, it might be fun.
2006-07-13 18:43:55 · answer #7 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if you all took ballroom dancing classes??? I know it sounds corny, but its actually pretty fun. They might be a little leary about it, but if your brothers are single, its a way to meet cute girls, and if they're not single I'm sure their girlfriends would love them to learn to dance. IF they are really young, they will thank you for it someday. As far as your parents...my dads a manly man and when my mom decided she wanted to do it, he did it for her...AND they took extra classes. He loved it. Just a suggestion. Good luck!!!
2006-07-13 20:37:31 · answer #8 · answered by gcpom02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you should put your parents in an awkward situation. If they are not dancers, they will be completely embarrassed in front of everyone. Yes, it is your day but why cause problems making them do something they are not comfortable with doing.
2006-07-13 19:38:01 · answer #9 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep they all need to dance for this one occasion
time for a family group lesson at a dance studio
2006-07-13 22:45:45 · answer #10 · answered by Library Eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋