I am going to be in a wedding in a few weeks. Of course, first comes the bachelorette party. The maid of honor is hosting, and she is planning this lavish evening. I have already spent more than every penny I have on the dress, shoes, gifts, and plane tickets, not even to mention the time I'm taking off work. I really want to be a good friend and take part just like everyone else, but I have nothing left to give!! We are all pretty fresh out of college, and everyone's parents still help them except for mine.
How do I work this? Do I mention something to my friend or to the maid of honor? Or just kind of tactfully try to avoid certain costs of the party?
Just to clarify - it includes a limo, an expensive dinner, and "club-hopping" at various places, complete with various cover charges. Aaaaahhh!
2006-07-13 16:13:11 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would explain to the maid of honor that you can't do it, you just don't have the money. You could fly in the day after the bachelorette party and say you had to work.
2006-07-13 19:52:00 · answer #1 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with all those who said to talk to the maid of honor.....the ultimate responsibility for the bachelorette party falls on her. She is responsible for all the planning and costs for the party. Including the other members of the bridal party is good of course but it was wrong for her not to ask what everyone could afford, especially if she is assuming that everyone will chip in for the party. Let her know you are strapped for cash and you've already met your limit as to how much you were planning on spending for this event. I would still attend the party though.After all you are in the wedding, and it wouldn't be right if you can't be there for the bride on her last night as a "single" woman. Don't worry about not giving anything.....being there for the bride and sharing in her night will be enough.
2006-07-14 04:19:37 · answer #2 · answered by jes81_99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all the Maid of Honor should have asked what everyone could afford. She was inconsiderate in her plans. Second of all don't go to the bride with this situation go to the source...The Maid of Honor. If she doesn't suggest anything or is a real B**** about it then go to the Bride. If worse comes to worse beg the parents for a loan and promise to pay them back. If they are like my parents you might have to sign a promissory note to pay them back.
I learned at my best friend's bachelorette party I could haggle with the guys at the door and got in free to most of the clubs we went to. One we went to allowed the Bride and Maid of Honor in without charge. And flirt and sweet talk the bartenders tell them why you are out. Most of the time they just might slide you a few freebies. Make sure you wear a low cut shirt that night.
2006-07-14 02:20:02 · answer #3 · answered by deltazeta_mary 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is actually happened to me last year. i had recently lost my job and didnt have alot of money. i was in the bridal party and spent all this money on shoes,dress,gift,hair......etc. i was just honest with my friend and told her i didnt have the money. she asked me to borrow it from my parents (which bothered me) but i told her i could not. she was a little upset but in the end there were no hard feeling and we had a wonderful time at her wedding. based on this experience when it is time for my bachlorette party im going to to have a catered dinner and movies at my home so that no one feels a strain on their wallet. who says you have to spend alot of money to have fun!!
2006-07-14 11:34:31 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ missing a soldier in Iraq ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just be sincere and honest about your finances. Explain the situation to your friend and if she is your true friend, she will certainly understand.
2006-07-13 23:50:07 · answer #5 · answered by rodaerc06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with creador06. They will understand
2006-07-14 01:02:09 · answer #6 · answered by Great Gifts 4 Everyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give something from the heart......you can find some reasonable gifts...that really move people...if from the heart.....
2006-07-14 00:00:00 · answer #7 · answered by stlquetea76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋