Marriage & Divorce - 18 December 2007

Okay so husband and are really young, I am 20 and he is 24- We just got married last June- he wanted to do something I wasnt intrested in Im not ganna go into detail- I wanted to leave him- I didnt come home or talk to him for 3 days- That was childish of me I know- We are raising his 16 yr. old brother and it makes it even harder- I dont want to be with him but he called my whole family and all of my friends looking for me and told them all of our business- I told him that I wasnt in love with him and I was even talking to someone else and he doesnt care he didnt eat the whole time I was gone and he said he even had thoughts of suicide- The only reason I am staying there- is b/c I feel so bad for him- I will always love him I am just not in love with him- SO my ? is how do I get away from him without terribly hurting him- I just want to be 20 not 40! But I did make my bed and I guess now I must sleep in it.

2007-12-18 02:17:10 · 21 answers · asked by JessieA 2

I got engaged in May of last year. The planning was a whirlwind of chaos. Suddenly my fiancé lost his job and because of an earlier accident will need surgery. He didn’t want me to cancel our plans, which we had to with no money coming in on his side and he is now not setting a new date, though he does talk about “our wedding”. If pressed, he’ll yell at me and tell me I am being selfish for asking. So I don’t anymore. Before we met, he dated his sister in law’s sister. Her picture is still in his Mom’s livingroom being as she IS family and all. Now it’s been decided or rather I’ve been told, when he goes for his surgery he’s asked his sister in law to go to the hospital and take care of him. He said I work and can’t get time off and she offered so he accepted. Then he was telling me how he filled out paperwork and while he put me as an emergency contact he did not put me down as his beneficiary. Until now, he always did. He was saying that his sister in law pointed out that we’re not married and even though we live together, I am not entitled to any of his assets should anything happen, because I am not his wife and his blood family should get anything. Ok. Fine. I have my OWN stuff I don’t want his. I depend on his income and we live as husband and wife. Until now, no one’s seemed to have an issue. I do suspect he has issues with being told what to do, she is always right, she knows what she’s talking about. He will even go to her with advice I’ve given him and takes hers over mine. She’s not even older or wiser… or even has a job of her own, she lives off his brother. Should I run far and fast from this situation or just accept it and love him anyway? HELP… I don’t know how to read this…

2007-12-18 02:15:55 · 40 answers · asked by Just Me 7

if a man pays the money that the child can live off only his money and there is some extra left over that the mother is using for house or rent payments why shouldnt the child just live with the man?

if the man can raise and take care of the child after work and during work can afford a babysitter to take care of the child, why does the father lose the child and the mother gets it when she cant even pay for the apartment herself not even including paying half for the child

2007-12-18 02:15:09 · 13 answers · asked by Peter P 1

2007-12-18 02:05:14 · 35 answers · asked by K 1

2007-12-18 02:04:04 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

I shook a guys hand and when I tried to pull it away he pulled my hand back and squeezed it a little. And all day he was around me He would jump into conversations I was having with other people. What's up with that?

2007-12-18 01:50:38 · 14 answers · asked by Golf Chick 3

My husband picks on my when I'm trying to sleep- plays w/ my hair or touches me w/ his feet & he's driving me crazy! I'm pregnant & tired all the time but he won't listen- I don't work so he thinks it's ok but I'm up before him everyday dealing w/ our kids! How do I get him to understand I have no energy when pregnant & I just want to sleep

2007-12-18 01:47:38 · 25 answers · asked by Maggie 4

did i do the right thing

2007-12-18 01:36:18 · 34 answers · asked by janey1971 2

I feel like he doesnt fancy me anymore. Were together 2 years and we moved in together a few months ago. Don't know what I should do

2007-12-18 01:14:12 · 24 answers · asked by Hot Momma 3

a few days ago i recieved a letter from my exes solicitor stating he wants to see my daughter... again, this will be the 3rd time he has done this, the last time we went to mediation and i agreed he could see her 1 day a week while im there- cos she doesnt know him- and we both signed an agreement to state what we're agreeing to and all i aske dis that he'd be consistant, the contact only lasted for 2 months. that was 2 years ago. for the past 3 years tho my daughter thinks my husband is her dad and i feel that if he is to be allowed to see her again he'll just let her down and will confuse my daughter. ive told my solicitor i dont want to go to mediation again so ilargue it out in court, what do you all think i should do? i just want my daughter to be settled and happy and ive got her best interests at heart cos i think he'll just let he down ...again . she's only 5. please help!!!

2007-12-18 01:09:51 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

On the average like with children and a mate?

2007-12-18 01:04:46 · 19 answers · asked by Gypsy Gal 6

for us?how come i didn't see any?but then i knew when someone like me for who i am or just want to fool around?they said there is true love but how come i never seen one?i realize i don't fall easily or people...can anyone tell me whats the reason?people thought they can just take me that easy but i just don't see anything that people catches our heart..why is this so?am i too picky?but then i really didn t have that feelings for others.and i m looking for faithfulness it just don't seem anyones is. there any faithfulness and true love exist nowadays?

2007-12-18 01:04:24 · 7 answers · asked by truth set free 1

my friend has been married over 4 years to this man she think is gay....they sleep in seperate rooms,he does not care if she comes home at night and he refuses to have sex with her...he even told her she was disgusting for trying to turn him on...but...he is weathy he pays all the bills..she works as well but she get to pocket all her money..should she stay or leave....i told her to stay for the free ride

2007-12-18 01:03:56 · 43 answers · asked by =lost soul= 2

he said he loved me and he wanted to spend his hole life with me but no were not together and hes messin with someone else

2007-12-18 00:50:16 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

her wife and Ex and just becoz of their child they still live together. Wife is addicted of alcohol and and most of the day she been drinking and also fight her all the time.....

2007-12-18 00:46:29 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

I left my husband of four years because he was lazy and hadn't had a job the whole four years we had been married. When I left, he finally got a job...and not just any job...a good job with state benefits and salary pay. The problem is that although I did not leave him for another man, I fell in love with someone else. But I still love my husband and I miss everything about him. I want him back, but I do love this other man too and I don't want to hurt him. I'm torn between both of them and I don't know which way to go. I feel like I didn't give my husband a fair chance, but at the same time I feel like I haven't given this other man a fair chance either. I also feel as if the relationship with this new man is going way too fast...we've been together for two months and we already have a place together, but I'm still not over my husband. What shoud I do? I would prefer responses from others who have been in the relatively same position. What would or did you do? Thanks!

2007-12-18 00:45:39 · 25 answers · asked by Nicole W 1

if you found out after your children were born and you were married for 15 years that your spouse had cheated and a kid was a product of the cheating affair. what would you do? guys and gurls please answer.

2007-12-18 00:36:18 · 14 answers · asked by mimi 2

my girlfriend moved a year ago into my house which i owned already before i was with her and i`m the only one on the mortgage.we had 4 month ago a baby and since we fight more and more.she won`t leave and says she got the right to stay. she also has a 9 year old child from a previous relationship which lives with us.my partner makes my life hell and is threaten me with false assault charges incase i don`t behave and do what and how she wants.any chance someone can give me proper advise how i can get her out preferably from someone who got legal knowledge.thanks

2007-12-18 00:27:03 · 11 answers · asked by THE POWERCIRCUIT 1

hi! iam deeply thinking about a woman whos already married .. i even think that she is missing me and she also wants to be my friend . we ave never spoke to each other but believing in telepathy i assuming that she also likes me... can it be true?

2007-12-18 00:17:19 · 17 answers · asked by caaant2000 1

My husband and i are seprated and i wrote him a letter telling him how i'm shocked by the way he has treated me. Anyways i go to his brothers to give it to him he never comes to the door i don't know if he is home or not because there are 2 cars outside the third one is gone. Anyway i go and put it in the mailbox without even an envelope! do you think his brother will throw it in the trash orwill read it then give it to him my sister and law i think will jst hand it to him. I really wanted him to read it i texted him asking if he got it and he never answered but lately i can't reach him by his cell he hardly answers ect.

2007-12-18 00:11:01 · 17 answers · asked by poo~poo 1