I've put some weight on since I strated going out with my boyfriend?

Question

I feel like he doesnt fancy me anymore. Were together 2 years and we moved in together a few months ago. Don't know what I should do

Answer 1

Here's the way it usually goes, When a girl is single( looking to bag a man) she will be trim ,fit, well dressed and made up.
Once she gets comfortable in a relationship she will let her looks go, weight gain, nice outfits become sweats and baggy T-shirts, hair tied up in a lump ,etc.
He will try to be nice, ( Too nice ) about asking her to get her weight in check, dress nicer, comb her hair ,etc.
She does not take him seriously, eventually they break up.
She goes back to the gym, gets tight and fit, cleans up her appearance and seeks out a new guy, gets comfortable and the cycle begins again.

The question I so often ask is " Why does she not have the respect for her man to maintain her appearance so they stay together?"

You should diet, hit the gym, get your hair done and prove to him that he is worth keeping and that you have some respect for him, rather than telling him " all you deserve is a fat chick!"

Answer 2

The best thing you can do is ask him how he feels about you having put on some weight. Tell him you want an honest answer. Why do you feel like he doesn't fancy you anymore? Is it because he doesn't tell you or is it your love life is less passionate? He must feel a good deal for you if he decided to live with you not long ago. Maybe he does really love you and feels secure and settled with you. Sometimes people forget to say I love you, etc the more comfortable they feel together. This isn't an excuse to become complacent! Relationships always require work and communication of feelings and appreciation. Tell him how you feel and he may well be surprised you feel he doesn't fancy you and tell you he fancies your socks off! Most men don't mind a bit of extra weight anyway but if you want to lose some weight try cooking fresh food, not take aways or ready made meals. Have plenty of fruit, vegetables and non fatty meat. Avoid cakes and sweets and make your own treats with fruit sugar or sweeteners. Walk everywhere! Best wishes. I'm working on losing a few pounds too. Most of us put on weight in winter! x

Answer 3

Do what will make YOU happy. If you want to lose weight do so, but because YOU want to do it not just because you think it will make him happier.
Have a good think, if putting on some weight has put him off do you really want to be with him long term. Talk to him, maybe he loves you to pieces but has a bit of an issue with the weight from a sexual attraction point of view.
Have you put weight on because you are content or are you comfort eating because you are unhappy.

If you are happy (content) and he does love you maybe you need to do something together to lose the weight. That way you know he wants to be with you and help you and it could be good fun together.

Answer 4

Yeah..it happens. That means that you're settling into the comfort zone.
So...make the time to walk. Get some excercise. It doesn't have to be marathon running. Walking briskly and watching your fat intake. Not starvaton diets but limit the fats in your diets. No more clotted cream, no more spotted dick, no more lemon curd.
A pint of Guiness is okay now and again but watch that too. Roasted chicken (remove the skin after cooking), fresh vegatables (lower salt than canned) and easy on the potatos. Try some Batsmati rice simmered in chicken broth instead.

Hey..before you know it you'll be trouncing around Brighton Beach in that bikini in no time flat.

Answer 5

You're probably just feeling a bit self-concious at the moment because of the extra weight and it's making you feel as if you're boyfriend doens't fancy you as much. The reality is he probably hasn't even noticed. Do something to make you feel better about yourself and I'm sure your doubts will vanish.

Answer 6

Are you being over-sensitive hun?
What makes you feel like he does not fancy you anymore? Has he said anything that would make you think that way?
If you really feel this insecure then talk to him and maybe watch what you eat? I am sure he loves you for who you are and not for what size you are anyway. A Woman with curves is nicer anyway than anorexic stick thin.

Answer 7

If YOU feel uncomfortable than do something to lose the weight but ONLY if it is for you.

I am sure he is still attracted to you ... but only you know for sure. If you are in doubt just ask him ... but be prepared just in case!

We never want to hear the worst ... BUT and this is a big but ... if he has lost interest in you because you put on a little weight .... you need to question the love he has for you!

Answer 8

This will probably be because you have become comfortable.

If it really bothers you that much join a gym! I lost 2 stone in less that a year by joining the gym and now I'm addicted! It's great and really helps boost endorphins!!

Answer 9

When it comes to sex men are visual. Does not mean that he does not love you, it just means he needs visual stimulation to get aroused. Most men have a problem with expressing this to their girl for fear of coming off as vain. Lose the weight, you will not only look better, but you will feel better.

Answer 10

I feel the SAME way. I've gained a little bit of weight, but I'm definately not as skinny as I used to be (not fat at all either). But is it fair to do that to them? I don't believe so, I don't believe it's right to do to ourselves mostly. Just because we're comfortable and having fun, doesn't mean we should be fat doing it! haha! Good luck, you need to do it for you, not him.