Marriage & Divorce - 27 October 2007

Me and my husband have been arguing a lot. I know that because I am pregnant my hormones are out of whack. But at the same time we argue over small things. I just dont understand it. I have told him time and time again that I dont like getting along this way and I dont think its healthy for the relationship. We discuss the small argument, but before you know it we are arguing again. I hate it, its getting the best of me. I am even considering counseling. I really want this marriage to work.
Any advice.?

2007-10-27 09:06:26 · 17 answers · asked by Tru_New Orleanian 4

My friend just married a childhood sweetheart after knowing him for years, but marriage and friendship is totally different and she realises she has made a major mistake. marriage took place a month ago - how easy will it be to get a divorce? Do the same principles apply as a british wedding being dissolved?

2007-10-27 09:04:15 · 8 answers · asked by Jojo M 1

We have been married for 3 years and friends for over 7. We just don't seem to enjoy being together anymore. And want to try and get help before we are no longer able to even have a friendship. We thought some counseling would be the way to exhaust all options befor just divorcing but don't know what to expect. any advice would be helpful

2007-10-27 09:03:53 · 11 answers · asked by Jen 1

Today my husband finally talked to our neighbor about the tree that needs to be cut in our backyard. It took him 3 weeks and I constanly reminded him. Anyways he realized we need to get ahold of our landlord so they can do it. Well I am busy cleaning the house, and he needed the number so I found it for him. He asked me to call, but I said since you're about to drive for half an hour you should call because I still have cleaning to do. Then he got all mad and said that I never help him out. Which is bull because I cook almost everynight and clean the majority of the time, not only after him but his friend that lives with us too. Anyways he got mad about it and I got irritated and called him selfish then walked off. What do I do?

2007-10-27 08:58:56 · 19 answers · asked by crista p 1

I feel that I stay at home 24-7 with the kids. I am a SAHM and feel that I don't have a life. My husband is a part time firefighter and a full time EMT. I feel that his whole world revolves around it. Now he is trying to get on the Ohio Task Force. I guess I should be happy for him...I just wish he could fit in more time for us. Most of the time we don't have enough money for me and the kids to go out. I don't have too many friends because I babysit from home all week. I don't have a life. I don't know why it is so easy for him just to leave and do what he wants but I am stuck home all day. I know it isn't like he is messing around on me, and I know that he is trying to better his career...but what about me? Where is my "ME" time? I guess I am just frustrated in not EVER having any money. I barely had enough money to put gas in my car to make it to town... any ideas? I don't want to make him feel bad...I want to feel good though...like I could have a life too.

2007-10-27 08:48:00 · 14 answers · asked by sunnysideup 4

if you have sex with someone married but you are single, is that adultery????

2007-10-27 08:47:38 · 22 answers · asked by Sara Hitchens 2

2007-10-27 08:36:39 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Its my aniversary and im scared my husband will get me something stupid

2007-10-27 08:26:36 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-27 08:18:04 · 44 answers · asked by Page 4

when we are ill we have to keep going no matter what but when men get ill there dying and they just lay in bed all day wanting us to wait on and give them lots of tlc but they never bother then we are ill

2007-10-27 08:13:23 · 18 answers · asked by cabby 4

My husband and I had a court house wearing the jeans wedding,well I DON"T regret the day that we got married and I would never leave him.I kinda do want a real wedding not the big puffy dress something simple something small but I also don't want the outdoor bbq wedding either.Our friends llike the "club" type like you know mixed drinks dance music and that kind of thing.Now of courst the parents would absolutaly flip.So what do you guys think I could do that would be a nice compromise?

2007-10-27 07:52:13 · 4 answers · asked by what did you say 4

My wife left me after she has got an Airlines job.We are not in talking terms for 4 months,she wanted a divorce but since then she's hiding from me,even from her friends & relatives.I cant contact her since I dont know her number or address.I heard she's living with her brother.But her family is refusing to help me.I'm getting mad and memories are killing me.Should I wait for her or do some action

2007-10-27 07:45:41 · 11 answers · asked by betrayed2007 1

I know its not even about winning, but she could be 100% wrong, but always manage to have you sitting there thinking at the end about how wrong you were.

They change the whole argument to an old incident that happened in 998 B.C and have you lost

P.S- By saying 998 B.C, im saying something that happened a long time ago.

2007-10-27 07:42:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

http://store.playboy.com/Feelin+Lucky+Stretch+Denim+Dress/12327,default,sp.html?cgid=W3300&start=2&sz=1

~It's to meet my husband when he gets back from Iraq.

And don't worry, I'm pretty much the same size as the model in the picture (size 4), so nothing will be flopping around or hanging out. Do you guys think it's appropriate for the occasion?

And a question for the females~ What shoes would you wear with this?

2007-10-27 07:37:44 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just tested positive and I had not planned on getting PG. My spouse and I weren't doing well and I cheated on him with another married man. Yes I know judge all you want it's pathetic okay i admit it now lets go on to the question. Do I tell the guy I cheated with that it is his? My husband is sterile so he will know it's not his. And on top of that my due date is on my husband's birthday. I think he has a right to know...but my best friend says I need to shut my mouth so I don't ruin his family. What do I do besides not cheat again and make myself feel like junk? Judgers welcome...i know i'm pathetic

2007-10-27 07:33:04 · 23 answers · asked by ? 2

my wedding is coming up soon and i don' t know who i am going to have walk me down the asile. i have asked my step-dad but he has never really been supportive of us getting married. so i really don't want someone to walk me down if they don't even care for the guy that i am marrying espeically since there is no reason for my step-dad not to like him. So what am i suppose to do? i really don't want to walk myself down the aisle. so if you any suggestions please let me know.

2007-10-27 07:32:16 · 10 answers · asked by the bride to be 2

"NO WAY" , what are you after", and "no chance mate you are not going out with your mates ? Doesn't she love me anymore ?

2007-10-27 07:24:09 · 29 answers · asked by Floppy Dick 3

I was snooping on my boyfriend's computer. I found pictures of different. Not porn pictures (I could forgive that-what man hasn't looked a porn. I find it somewhat natural)

These looked like pictures you would find on myspace and other sites like that.

I don't know what to say to him. I was snooping through the files on his computer.

What do you think?

2007-10-27 07:21:43 · 21 answers · asked by J'adore 4

I was 18 the first time and although I loved him -we were too young to understand.(I still think about him every day).I was 36 the second time- I waited 17 years to get married again-I wanted it to be right. Somehow, I was fooled and lied to and cheated on and then left for another person.I don't trust my judgement now and I said this time it would be forever or nothing. Since I was conned I am not sure whether to follow that now or never "thing".

2007-10-27 07:19:10 · 10 answers · asked by R.Stafford 2

2007-10-27 07:17:39 · 6 answers · asked by sincere12_26 4

you are not the kind of person who gets too much jealous about your boyfriend.....not really a jealous type but maybe a little...does people see this as not normal or indifference?

2007-10-27 07:11:16 · 15 answers · asked by truth set free 1

Ok.I am happily married to a wonderful man.He likes to go walking around the mall with me etc.He has a awesome sense of humor and makes even a trip to the grocery fun.My ex never wanted to go shopping or do anything and that's part of the reason that I left.Does any of your spouses/bofriends do the same.

2007-10-27 07:08:40 · 14 answers · asked by what did you say 4

even if they used their own cash to do it??

Im asking because me and my husband had a situation arise a few days ago and it got pretty ugly (we're cool now, but i still dont understand why he got mad.... so i need you help)

My aunt came into some money last month and she gave me a nice piece of it (im her favorite niece). I didn't hide the money from him... he was the 1st person i told about it. I gave him some of it, gave my kids some, put a little in our household account.... and still had some change to play with.

Now back in Sept. I told him i wanted a new car for my birthday... nothing fancy. just a charger. He said no. I had 3 vehicles (all very nice) and none of them had a note... so why get a new one just because.

Well last week i went to the lexus dealership with my brother to get his oil changed and fell in love with the 2008 gs450 hybrid. I decided i want one and im gonna get it.

cont. in a moment

2007-10-27 07:07:53 · 17 answers · asked by Mrs Jackson - West 2

are nt mine. i have no kids. we've been together for 1yr &1/2. as things got more serious with her the problems started. the kids are hellions, they hit me & don't respect me & they have no bedtime. i tell her this & the fact that they need a bedtime & she tells them to stop but they keep on. we were supposed to save money for a house but she blew her $6000 income tax check. & now she's broke. i was pissed. more & more i wonder why i am here in this relationship. i love her but its too much. i've been thinking maybe i'm nt cut out for this whole dating a girl with kids thing. i didn't expect this to happen when i got into this relationship. i told her about my feelings & she put me through this whole guilt trip thing saying if i love her i wouldn't run out on her. but if i stay in this relationship i feel like i will be very unhappy. now i found out that she has been friends w/ & texting some guy she's communicating online. i'm fed up!! she tells me he's just a friend. am i being used

2007-10-27 07:07:44 · 17 answers · asked by petey 1

I have four child, married 7 years. When we married my husband and I had little money. So the ring was not well made, 3 years ago the stone fell out. i have no idea where it went.

these days he makes a substantial amount of money. and has showed no interest in getting me a ring.He has made no attempts to even look in a jewelry store, or brought up the idea of getting one. He knows how deeply hurt I am.
I am not sure what to think, maybe he has no long term interest in this marriage,and this is the reason he will not get a ring. ?
i cant figure out why there have been many big purchases and none of these in the 3 year coarse a ring,
I told him if year 2008 I start the year with a naked finger. I will have to leave him, this will truly show how valued our marriage is.
this is not like I am a girlfriend wanting a huge engagment ring. I earned this, I have been faithful contributed financially, stayed fit, had 4 kids, now what? is this enough to give the walking papers?

2007-10-27 07:06:44 · 20 answers · asked by no name 2

Can a person that has been passive aggressive for 57 years change? Is it passive aggressiveness to cause the other spouse to feel like what their feeling is their fault? I am so tired of always feeling like things are my problem, my fault.

2007-10-27 06:55:50 · 11 answers · asked by okie 2

26 and single.

2007-10-27 06:55:28 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous

He hurt me so bad. Ignored me, cheated on me...ect ect.. we seperated 2 times and not the hearing for the divorce is coming soon. I resent the fact he lied to me and manipulated to get what he wanted and is still doing so. He had people following me and playing games on the internet. Of course I can't prove this but we all know things like this go on. I asked God to help me and I decided to not fight him at all because I was hurting so bad and so were our children. I love them enough to just stop the fighting. I signed away all I invested and what I know I should fight for. It's not worth it to me anymore. I feel it would taint me and in 2008 I really want to start fresh. All I can hope and pray is that God knows I tried and wanted to do the right thing by just letting it go. Am I crazy for doing this? I am putting my trust in God for my future. My family and friends think that I was crazy for just letting it go.

2007-10-27 06:54:10 · 8 answers · asked by new life abundant 2

Any regrets?

2007-10-27 06:45:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

How do you know when a relationship is worth the tough times?

- Lack of affection - I am very affectionate
- Lack of interest with sex? My sex drive is a lil over the top
- Dealing with blended family
- Have two different style of raising our kids.
He says he loves the chaos. With four children in the house under the age of 6 I think its necessarry to have schedule.

How do you know when theres to much there are to many differences to make it work even if you try to fight for it and make it work.

btw..we currently live together in a to small apartment and looking to move to a bigger place. Is it the space that is making everything amplified or is it the fact that we are too different.

2007-10-27 06:39:41 · 9 answers · asked by me 3