He hurt me so bad. Ignored me, cheated on me...ect ect.. we seperated 2 times and not the hearing for the divorce is coming soon. I resent the fact he lied to me and manipulated to get what he wanted and is still doing so. He had people following me and playing games on the internet. Of course I can't prove this but we all know things like this go on. I asked God to help me and I decided to not fight him at all because I was hurting so bad and so were our children. I love them enough to just stop the fighting. I signed away all I invested and what I know I should fight for. It's not worth it to me anymore. I feel it would taint me and in 2008 I really want to start fresh. All I can hope and pray is that God knows I tried and wanted to do the right thing by just letting it go. Am I crazy for doing this? I am putting my trust in God for my future. My family and friends think that I was crazy for just letting it go.
2007-10-27 06:54:10 · 8 answers · asked by new life abundant 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should always have faith in the Lord. He can help you move those mountains that you need to cross. I had faith in God and prayed that while my husband and I were separated that he find is way back to me, and he did. Now I ask the Lord to give me the strength to deal with my husband's supposedly infidelity and he is. Whenever I feel down or get the urge to scream and cry over the whole issue I ask him to help me not go there and he does
2007-10-27 08:46:03 · answer #1 · answered by ????? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depending on where you live and where in the process your divorce is it may be too late to ask for things now. If you think you want to "change your mind" about the property division, speak to an attorney and do it soon.
If you want to start fresh, then do it. Sometimes, it is worth giving up the material "stuff" and starting over with your dignity, self respect, and the love of your children.
You don't specify, so I'm going on the assumption that he is the natural father of the children. If you're the custodial parent, make sure he's providing child support. If he's the custodial parent, make sure you pay yours. Like you said - the kids were hurting and it sounds like you did what you did because you put them first. Good for you!
You made what you felt was the best decision you could make at the time. Don't waste precious time by second guessing yourself. Accept what can't be changed and make the best of what can.
Good Luck and God Bless.
2007-10-27 17:12:49 · answer #2 · answered by Asked and Answered 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the end, you have to be happy with the situation. If you will be content with everything signed away, then that's fine. Really, you have to pick your battles too. Fight for the things that are important to you. If you are willing to give up other things, then getting what you really want is probably easier. But if it's more important to you to be free and clear than to have some of the assets, then move on with your life and rebuild.
Good luck.
2007-10-27 14:17:36 · answer #3 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I lived with a manipulative psychopath who undermined me in every way and who took far more than half our joint assets when we separated after he had beaten me up seversly. . But I was so mentally low the legal wragling was making me even more ill and he ws playing mind games with me as well that for my own sanity I just had to walk away.
Now years later I have replaced the material things I lost and my real victory was to have him out of my life forever.
I hope you are successful in rebuilding your life and you are as contented in the future as I am now.
2007-10-27 14:10:17 · answer #4 · answered by bri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should of tried and been stronger for not only yourself, but the children too.
You should of insisted on alimoney and child support. You should of fought to keep the home and kids.
It sounds like he was so mean, that he's drained you of everything! I'm sorry you allowed this to happen.
You can't depend on God to help lead the way. He gave you a brain to use and by not useing the brain, you have offended God. LOOK upon yourself to live the right life God intended you to live.
2007-10-27 14:05:39 · answer #5 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Money isn't everything...if that is your choice to be free and have a mind that is at peace then I say the same thing that SPOCK on TV used to say "Live long and prosper."
2007-10-27 14:07:24 · answer #6 · answered by Oldmansea 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel but get a lawyer and get half and you
will feel more respect for yourself and get the divorce and
make him pay child support and you may get spousal support but i don't know anyway then start your new life and
God will be there, right behind you..You will be okay..
2007-10-27 14:05:41 · answer #7 · answered by Ell 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i got ripped off in my divorce...dont give him everything...get a lawyer to help you out..
2007-10-27 13:58:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋