Me and my husband have been arguing a lot. I know that because I am pregnant my hormones are out of whack. But at the same time we argue over small things. I just dont understand it. I have told him time and time again that I dont like getting along this way and I dont think its healthy for the relationship. We discuss the small argument, but before you know it we are arguing again. I hate it, its getting the best of me. I am even considering counseling. I really want this marriage to work.
Any advice.?
2007-10-27 09:06:26 · 17 answers · asked by Tru_New Orleanian 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well It's A Girl counseling certainly doesn't sound like it would do your relationship any harm. Certainly you are both under a lot of stress and your hormones are changing but this is a time to be overly happy and not arguing constantly. If you two cannot discuss these issues in a mature and reasonable manner then pick up the phone and seek the help of a professional marriage and/or relationship counselor. Best of luck in both your marriage and birth of your newborn child.
2007-10-27 09:24:13 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Counseling is a good idea. It never hurts, and it can benefit you tremendously.
You have no control over how he reacts to stuff, but when the little arguments start -- or are about to start -- stop and ask yourself, "Is this worth arguing over?" If it isn't, let it go. This is especially difficult when you're hormonal (been there, done that), but you have to pick your battles and know when to let it go.
There's also the possibility that there's an underlying, bigger problem that neither of you is bringing up....maybe only one or both of you is really aware of it...and so you're squabbling over little stupid things. This is another reason why counseling would probably be a good idea.
Good luck to you.
2007-10-27 09:36:14 · answer #2 · answered by War Games AM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a change? Did you argue BEFORE the pregnancy? If this IS a change, it may be due to the hormones and/or the pressure on both of you to come to terms with the fact that your lives are about to change in a MAJOR way.
If it is not a change, then it shouldn't surprise you...it probably just gets on your nerves more because you're touchy.
Either way, some counseling might be a great idea....particularly BEFORE the baby comes, when the pressure will just get worse.
HAPPY BABY!!!!!!
2007-10-27 09:28:31 · answer #3 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems u try really hard and u try to explain to him the problem with u but it doesn't help, Well what else can u do if the most common help like talk doesn't help, just try maybe not to argue to him even when he is not right listen to him in quiet and wait. When he is not right blame yourself and say SORRY. Make him satisfied with this and see how it goes and still wait. Sometimes this work better than arguing and trying to make him understand that he is not right, good luck
2007-10-27 09:17:13 · answer #4 · answered by Lost In Space 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-01-13 04:45:02 · answer #5 · answered by Sade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the problem is that you two dislike it when one is mad. When you feel yourself getting worked up, decide to take a break before it blows up into something big. Taking a break will help you both remember that you're on the same team and just want the other to be happy.
2007-10-27 09:46:32 · answer #6 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question. Counseling! Because there is a hidden reason why you'll arguing.
2007-10-27 09:51:44 · answer #7 · answered by colormelove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand the hormone thing its hard for you to control your feelings . You guys are young and think all grown up having a baby . Well if you are all grown up then one of you is going to have to show it and just shut your mouth . That's all part of being grown . Life is going to get harder before it gets better for you no time to worry about little trivial things. take life one day at a time and put the past behind you
2007-10-27 09:20:41 · answer #8 · answered by dad 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take a nice relaxing trip together. Pamper yourself and let him pamper his self. Maybe there is a deeper issue that you are ignoring. If that is the case counseling will help. Getting away and relaxing will also help. Also you should have a regular girls night, and let him have a guys night. This will help you vent and put things into perspective!
2007-10-27 09:12:21 · answer #9 · answered by Sansa 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
that would be an answer worth it's weight in gold!! i have found that if you make the effort to stay calm and collected and not let yourself get drawn into an argument.. that helps..! it's very hard for someone to rant and rave to someone who doesn't give them any response.. good luck!
2007-10-27 09:12:58 · answer #10 · answered by gingersnap6565 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋