Snooping and I found something..........?

Question

I was snooping on my boyfriend's computer. I found pictures of different. Not porn pictures (I could forgive that-what man hasn't looked a porn. I find it somewhat natural)

These looked like pictures you would find on myspace and other sites like that.

I don't know what to say to him. I was snooping through the files on his computer.

What do you think?

sorry pictures of different women.

And Yes....I know I'm not married. But, I like the mature crowd over here. Too many high school's asking, "do ya think she lizes me cuz we go 2 schol 2gether?" on Single and Dating.

So, should I not say anything b/c I was snooping. What if he's cheating on me.....even though I was snooping, isn't it better to find the truth. I don't want to look like a fool if he's cheating on me and I knew about it, but turned the cheek.

If you MUST know why I was snooping. I was looking to see if he had been looking at engagement rings.

One of his family members hinted about him looking around online/his computer. I wondered if he saved an images of rings on his computer.

Answer 1

STOP SNOOPING!!!

Answer 2

so you are saying that because she is not married she should not snoop. Try this on for size how about getting the feeling of being set up when you go snooping just to see if you get caught. I snoop all the time and then confront. Know what the next day those things that I find disappear, this tells me that my husband knew they were there and he knows me so well but when he removes them because it upsets me that's how I know that he loves me

Answer 3

I say snoop all you want ..... there is nothing wrong in finding out what is truly going on in your world. When you are involved with someone on an intimate level the other person should have nothing to hide! They are either on the up and up with you or they are not. He may be talking with these people on the net and keeping pictures of them? He may not be doing anything seriously wrong but if you confront him he may get upset and justify them to you and hide them from you better! I would just stay quiet and investigate it for awhile.You could also start talking to him about how wrong it is for people in a relationship to be talking on line to the opposite sex when they are in a serious relationship together. Let him know that you would never do that to him and you hope he never does that to you. Put him on the hot seat and see if he squirms?

Answer 4

Don't let these people on here who get on your case about snooping get you down!

Maybe it's a good thing you aren't married yet though. If you don't really trust him with all of your heart I'd suggest you think long and hard about a permanent relationship.

A few years ago I was looking in my husband's duffle bag who had been out of town, and I discovered some missing viagra pills. Yep, you got it. I went to counseling because we've always had trust issues, and guess what my psychologist told me! Stop counting those pills. Well, I did stop counting but deep down I don't really trust him. Life is too short to be in a relatioship without trust, but I've been married a long time and it's hard to make a change after this many years. I say to you, you're probably young and you have your whole life ahead of you. At 51, my story is different.

Hope this helps...it all boils down to TRUST!

Answer 5

You should fess up to being s snoop. then if this guy is really serious about marrying you, he'll already know the heads up on if your a snoop or not.

It's pretty likely he's already cheated or has plans to do so if he's getting and saving pics of other females. Let him know what you found and sit down and talk about it.

You'd be very immature to not mention it just because you think the guy may give you a ring! Really immature.

Answer 6

don't say a word to him..he shouldn't leave things in the house that he doesn't want you to see,if he does then look any way people lie and cheat and betray love. snoop on if he has nothing to hide you will have nothing to find. except that he is a good man that is treating you right and that deserves his trust. what would he find if he snooped on you. that road runs 2 ways

Answer 7

it depends on where you found the pictures on the computer. if you are looking at the internet cache, pictures from every site he visits are stored there.....

He may have been just checking out a web-site...

maybe you should discuss it with him and see what he has to say? if you're gonna snoop, you might as well come clean and tell him.... just don't accuse him of something unless you are sure of it...

Answer 8

I wouldnt say anything yet but if he starts leaving the house a lot i'd sit him down and ask whats he been doding when he's gone! If he's finding it hard to answer and gets VERY defensive I'd tell him your worried about your relationship! If your already worried then just tell him next time your alone with him!

I hope this helped!

Answer 9

Why are you all asking her why she is snooping? Thats her dude, and people are sneaky.

Dont say nothing to him though. You dont have enough proof yet. I look at pictures of women all day. When you see a message, then say something.

Answer 10

well im only 13, but dont judge me because of my age,
but i do hav an ok answer
i think you should talk to him about it
dont say something like who are these people
just pretend your going on the computer normally
and go to the historey and say
"hun, whats this, do you know any of these people?"
and see how he responds
if he says no then
thats when you start to actually snoop snoop around when hes not there

Answer 11

He's checking out lesbian sites. The pictures are of 'him'. If you know what I mean.
Just a curiosity thing really. Just like your episode of snooping.