Any regrets?
2007-10-27 06:45:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Life may not be a fairy tales for most of us.
I hv met the love of my life. We both knew that we match each other perfectly in any other way. Timing is the issue. I missed it.
I knew that the one I am going to marry will not be the one I will love most. Deep down there is someone I cannot let go for good. Unfair? Life is never fair in certain way isn't.
2007-10-27 07:10:35 · update #1
Life may not be a fairy tales for most of us.
I hv met the love of my life. We both knew that we match each other perfectly in any other way. Timing is the issue. I missed it.
I knew that the one I am going to marry will not be the one I will love most. Deep down there is someone I cannot let go for good. Unfair? Life is never fair in certain way isn't.
2007-10-27 07:10:38 · update #2
I thought (mind you thought) that the love of my life had been a person I dated in high school (on and off for three years). I realized soon after marring my my hubby that HE was the love of my life and all I was remembering was my first love but not the love of my life.
2007-10-27 06:54:23 · answer #1 · answered by Spring 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first marriage, I thought my hubby was the love of my life, cause we'd met in high school. How very wrong I was! He ended up being a wife abuser, drug abuser and drunk! I spent too many days in the hospital from him beating me. Thank God, we never had kids.
My second hubby wasn't the love of my life either. I was only physically attracted to him. He gave me 2 children, and then felt sleeping with his own cousin was more important than his family.
My third was an abuser also. All of thse were over 18 years ago. I have only tried 1 relationship for a total of 5 months during all of these years.
Back in the last 80's I was seeing a married man. NOW, he was the love of my life! He was even leaving his wife, but I ran before he did, and he ended up leaving her anyways. I loved him with my whole heart and soul, even though he was a cheater on his wife. He treated me with respect, made me laugh, loved my kids, and I truely believe he loved me too. It was like WE knew when the other was going to say something or what each of us were thinking. I'll hold him in my heart forever.
2007-10-27 07:00:36 · answer #2 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I thought I did the first time, but after a year, he became abusive, after a couple of more years, he became an alcholic, after seven, he told me he was gay, but that did not mean we needed to get divorced.......
Eight and a half years ago, I DID marry the love of my life. I like to think that I could really appreciate how wonderful he is because of what I went through. I take NOTHING for granted with this man and I still get butterflies when he walks into the room.
Please don't become involved with a man that has a problem with addiction, unless he can prove to you that he can remain clean for at least a year....even then.....be careful. There are too many wonderful men out there that DON'T have a problem with addiction.
2007-10-27 06:59:58 · answer #3 · answered by Helen T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I found the love of my life before I met my husband. He was seeing someone else at the time so I backed off. I started dating and then got pregnant.. wasn't planned. but I had to deal with it. I married my baby's father 4 years later. It felt right at the time and we wanted to create a great life for our son. I have no regrets about the life I have now and how far we've come together.. however, I regret not spilling my guts out to that man I fell in love with a long time ago... It was no secret I had feelings for him. Even my husband knew.. He'll ask me if I still think of him.. that sucks!!
2007-10-27 06:57:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first time I got married for all the wrong reasons and knew, from the very beginning that I wasn't marrying the love of my life. Now I'm married again, but I've become a non-believer in the "love of my life" c.r.a.p. Don't get me wrong, please. I'm immensely happy and content with my married life and my husband is an unbelievable man who loves me and gives me everything any woman could desire. But I've learned to live the present not expecting too much, not to idealize people or things because nobody and nothing is perfect forever...I guess it's the only way I can protect myself from heartbreak.
2007-10-27 07:49:11 · answer #5 · answered by MiaMonique 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not in my first marriage, and I already knew it when I walked down the aisle. I married him because we already had 2 kids, and ended up leaving him 2 years later, when living with him became intolerable (and dangerous). 2 years later, I'm still paying for my mistake - I just filed for divorce, and he attacked my stepdad, who served the papers.
I have found the love of my life now, and can't marry him until this divorce goes through; and we can't live together without marrying, because he's European. So yeah, huge regrets.
2007-10-27 06:52:58 · answer #6 · answered by Mich 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I met the love of my life when I was 14. we were together for 2 years --- he went off to college- and we grew apart. we both married others.
to put a long story short-- 20 years later- I finally married the love of my life- Was it late? yes, but, we have so many great years ahead of us... do I regret not marrying him 20 years ago? Hard to say- because everything happened the way it did for a reason - and if it happened differently, I wouldn't have the children I do today!
he is definately the love of my life.
SO- moral of the story is: It is never to late.
2007-10-27 08:45:21 · answer #7 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I did not marry the love of my life, I married the nightmare of my life. Yes I regret it. But I'm out of it now. I didn't meet the love of my life till after my ex and I split up. Sadly, I won't be able to marry the love of my life because he has a problem with addiction and I can't live with it. But I still love him with all my heart.
2007-10-27 06:52:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the man i married instead of the love of my life turned out to be a trainreck waiting to happen. the man i married was the same man who sabotaged my relationship with the man i loved. i believed a lie and made the wrong choice. yes loads of regrets, but now i am with someone good, not the love of my life and not the nightmare, but someone good. god doesn't always give us what we want but he certainly gives us what we need in life. sometimes we end up with the one who was best for us.
2007-10-27 07:21:51 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The girl I was in love with dumped me....I then married someone I was in Lust with....and after 24 years of marriage, she decided it was time to quit...10 years ago I married the most wonderful gal in the world...This I find is my REAL true love. And to you I say Good Luck.
2007-10-27 07:02:07 · answer #10 · answered by Oldmansea 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋