Marriage & Divorce - 13 August 2007

My son (5 years old) has told me that when he visits his father on weekends sometimes women will spend the night. Over the last month, my son has met 4 different lady "friends". I'm not jealous and I don't have feelings for my ex anymore. How do I convince him that he's setting a bad example?

2007-08-13 11:06:45 · 22 answers · asked by Nikki B 1

I know this is personal but me and my husband usually have sex every other day but we have moved up to one or twice a day and it seems to last longer (not that i am complaining). Just wondering if he is lasting longer because we are having sex more often. thanks for the input in advance!!!

2007-08-13 10:44:46 · 18 answers · asked by Mrs. C 2

My husband and I have been together for several years, but in the beginning he didn't want to have sex often. He has cheated recently and that sucks, because how come he wanted someone else and not me? Now I find that he has more sex, like once a day as opposed to once a week before. I do anything sexually, so I think he was crazy! If it were that he wasn't physically attracted to me, then why would he stay and ask me to marry him? He says its the only time he's cheated and that he just didn't have a high sex drive before and now he does. Should I believe him? and what's normal for you guys?

2007-08-13 10:36:09 · 11 answers · asked by QT 1

There is this girl who has been initiating call to me over the past 12 days in casual chat ever since I called her to apologize for some of the misunderstanding we had over the past 7 months.

I was quite surprised that last night she had hinted quite openly that she hoped I will not have the misunderstanding that she is into me. (in fact this is the problem we had all these months as back in December-January she initiated me 200++ text and 15 calls in just one and a half month).

My heart is certainly not with her now and I do cherish her as a very good friend as its a miracle that we could possibly sit back and talk casually heart to heart. Something that is pretty unlikely after all these unhappiness.

Frankly, do you feel that girls at time may be sending false signals especially when guys may have feeling for them? I am just asking to clear my doubt. Or I am just too sensitive? I am getting to know another gal and i certainly do not wish to be distracted by her.

2007-08-13 10:29:18 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband and I have been married only a year... yes everyone says that the 1st year is the hardest but I think ours goes further than that... He has alot of past issues that he was going to counseling for but as soon as we got married he stopped and became a complete jerk. everything w/ him is a contest , he spends all of our money, i bought us a house.... but nothing is good enough anymore. he says he doesnt know what he wants anymore and he doesnt want to put me thru all of his problems. I say I want us to work and have tried to always be there for him and tried counselling but I think that he gave up on us beacause everything is always about him. how do I know when to call it quits and stop being the strong one all the time?

2007-08-13 10:13:01 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous

After 26yrs hes got all the clothes he needs ,has jewelry,smellies, pc,digi camera n cam,loves golf, but got all the stuff,cant afford car, plane or yatch,what do you suggest.What would you like?????????

2007-08-13 10:08:29 · 18 answers · asked by suze 4

My ex-husband, daughter and I were thinking of getting back together as a family. We would have to leave next week if we do since he lives in another state than my daughter and I.

He sent me a task list on Saturday of things that I should be doing like selling the things from my storage facility, revising my resume and packing.

I was busy with other things and did not do any of the things on the list.

I spoke with him today and he was upset with me.

I can not make up my mind as to whether to go and be with him or not.

But, I wonder if its normal for him to be sending me a task list or priority things to focus on.

My plan was to donate most of my stuff in my storage facility and not bother about selling them. He is pushing me to sell them.

I wonder if his behavior is still controlling or if he is looking out for my best interest. He was very upset with me this morning.

2007-08-13 10:06:20 · 5 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

I was in a terrible love-hate relationship for 4 1/2 years with my baby's father. I ended things with him and started dating his good friend who I thought was a match made in heaven. I thought I was gonna marry this man. He is so perfect for me. Then I started hearing a bunch of gossip about him like he's cheating on me, just trying to use me for what he can. I would always come to him with what I heard and he would always reassure me. Well, then I started catching him in lies. Just lieing about where he was and little things. I felt like I couldn't trust him. The last time I felt like he lied to me I told him that we needed to break things off and I just needed to be alone for a while. He instantly started packing his things. That just made me feel like all the rumors were true and he really was just trying to use me. I ended up having sex with my baby's father and when I came home I realized how hurt my fiance was and he really did love me. I took him back and told him what I did.

2007-08-13 09:51:11 · 12 answers · asked by Lisa 1

I have been paying what I can for child support to my children living in another state. I had a job where I made very good money. i was layed off. then I started doing something else that pay 3 times less to start. but they were trying to still take $2000+ out of me when i wasn't even making that in 2 months. i tried to get it change many times. a i got from them was you pay or you go to jail. Note: I have neveer been in trouble in my life. Always paid my taxes and yeah i might get a speeding ticket here and there. But they want to lock me up for something i can't pay for If you don't have how are you to pay? I pay something every month even if i don't have money to feed myself. Can anyone help me find a way make these changes I'm willing to go All the way to the white house with it. Don't get me wrong I love my children i would do anything for them. I just can't send what i don't have. They make me out to be a bad dad. When I wish I could just bring them here to live with me.

2007-08-13 09:47:06 · 9 answers · asked by Justin G 1

2007-08-13 09:47:04 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-13 09:46:21 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

If so what makes you the hottest? For some reason 2 hot girls gets me really hot but I am happily married and never even come close to being with another girl.

2007-08-13 09:42:47 · 16 answers · asked by Ester 2

We have a great relationship and for me is to soon. He knows I don't love him yet, so what do I say when he tells me he loves me?

2007-08-13 09:36:41 · 15 answers · asked by Susan G 1

My terrible wife moved out on me and took my jeep. I need it to go to town and buy stuff. I know where she is staying and who she is doing it with. (Trust me, her value is going way down!) Anyway, she has the keys and the jeep and i need it back. I called the police and they siad to try and work it out with her but she is crazy and the guy she is with now is black and kind of scares the shift8888 out of me.

2007-08-13 09:34:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband says mean things to me all the time. He says he is ony with me because I have inherited millions from my mom's estate. we are very wealthy and he takes over 50,000 and spends it on whores and strippers. What should I do? I love him so much but I can't take it any more. I put 500,000 in his personal account last week and he only has 1,000 left. I asked him were the money is he said i spent it on bills. I pay all the bills and our morgage is 25,000 a month. What do i do? Please help anyone!

2007-08-13 09:34:05 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

..you wondered if things were supposed to "perfect, perfect". From the people that have been there and are happily married now, any reassurance or words of advice that my "jitters" and doubts are normal? We are madly in love with each other. Marriage (1st one and hopefully only/last one for both of us - we are 27 and 33yrs old) is SO HUGE! Just a bit scared...What should I keep my focus on to make sure we do ok. Both of us feel that we belong together and have made it through our toughie times, etc. ala"nothing is a bed of roses all the time", I just don't want to make a mistake!!!

2007-08-13 09:27:16 · 34 answers · asked by rlfesty 3

I just mentioned that i have a celebrity crush on The Rock. my husband knows this. When i see him i cant help but blush and smile uncontrollably. He watches movies with him on purpose but yet he gets mad at me for liking him, i cant help it!!!! Or he watches movies with other guys i like on purpose. Why does he do it and then get mad?

2007-08-13 09:26:45 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok ..here it goes..

I have deep suspiciousions that my husband of 14 years is having sex with my best friend. All the signs are there, but I keep doubting my "gut feeling" so to speak. My friend is not an attractive girl at all and she is known to "get around". She brags about all the men she has all the time. Recently, my husband has changed his behavior drastically. We haven't had sex in atleast 4 months or so, he has been distant and cold and cancelled his direct deposit so I can 't see where his money is going. I also noticed that they act VERY strange when they are around me, which was never the case. They would always say hello, but now they act like they don't know each other. Sometimes I do catch them making eye contact behind my back. My friend is also treating much differently, we were very close, now we never hang out together....

Any suggestions as to what might be going on?? Am I jumping to conclusions or could I be right??

2007-08-13 09:21:42 · 71 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband was using the bathroom and our son was in there with him. I was out in the other room and my feet were sticking to the floor (someone must have dropped some food or something. So, I thought I'd mop the floor. I mopped some but I didn't get very far; my son came running down the hallway that I had just mopped and slipped backward. He hit his head-thank God he's okay- and he was crying. I felt very bad. It turned into anger, however, when my husband came in the room, grabbed my son like Idid something awful, and told me it was my fault for mopping. What would you have said?

2007-08-13 09:18:08 · 11 answers · asked by wawas7 2

2007-08-13 09:14:10 · 8 answers · asked by angie a 1

WHY DO MEN STOP FORE PLAY AFTER THEY HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 10 OR MORE YEARS ?
DRY INSERTION IS LIKE RAPE

2007-08-13 09:12:09 · 26 answers · asked by CINDYLOU 4

I'm about to marry the man of my wallet's dreams. He's 87 years old, a real estate tycoon with tons of moolah, and I was wondering. His health is rather stable, he can get up and boogie, but he has back pains and arthritis. How long do you think I will have to put up with him? I've already invested 4 years into this deal.

2007-08-13 09:09:39 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I met with a car accident 3 days ago. It was a chain collision. The car behind me hit me first & due to the impact my car hit the truck in front of me. On the day of the accident, this scenario was clearly stated to the officer by all the 3 drivers. The driver behind me also accepted in front of the officer, that he hit me first .
Now i got the police report today which states, that i hit the truck in front of me first!! But what happenned actually was the car behind me hit me 1st due to which i was forced into the truck in front of me.
My car is new and has the maximum damage, cos it was hit both on the rear & front. Has anyone been in such a sitaution or know any1 who has been in such a situation? What should i do about the mistake in police report?? I left a message to the officer and he never returned my call. I called up the police station and talked to the desk sargent, he told me that the officer should contact me in a few days. Do officers ever correct thier reports?

2007-08-13 09:09:30 · 6 answers · asked by Someday 3

2007-08-13 09:08:05 · 52 answers · asked by lovegirl 2

I am so unhappy. I am mexican and I married an american. Sometimes I think I made a so bad decistion to marry this guy. He drinks every single day, (he will drink 6-8 natural light can beers on weekdays) and 30 on weekends. He is very used to drink much, he doesnt fall like being drunk, but I see his behaviour changes. And that is the root of our problems, and I will get so angry at him that I want to hit him. Now I have been in mexico because my legal status, and I just found he has registered in a adult website to find somebody to "hockup". That makes me very angry. He blames me for our troubles of his drinking. What should I do?.. I am so hurted for everything. I just think if I had married other boy my life would be better. I am 27 years old and no childre. But I always believed I could build a happy marriage and family.

2007-08-13 08:54:58 · 16 answers · asked by dezgirl 2

Getting married soon - any advice?

2007-08-13 08:54:12 · 28 answers · asked by CoronaGirl 3

my husband and i have been married for a little over a year now, we have been receiving past due notices from collection agencys and credit card places. All of this debt he and his previous wife made together. They have been divorced for about 2 years now and i need to know if we can take me back to court for the cost of all these debts, they are in his name but we all made while they were married. I refuse to pay them, they were not mine and i did not know about them when we married but shortly after i did. He says he forgot about them. What do i do?

2007-08-13 08:52:59 · 6 answers · asked by Jessica B 1

I found a text mess on my husbands cell phone he said that he let his friend borow it because he did not have a cell phone when i found the text i called the # to find out who it was and she did not answered but then she text back & said god night love I asked hem about it but he is keeping to his story what should my next step be he is always getting out of the room when he is on any phone call and he will not let me see his phone or carrie it. I order the cell phone history phone #'s but he still dosent tell me who's the phone # for

2007-08-13 08:51:45 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous

If you were not happy in your marriage and you had an affair - did everything work out in the end? Did the new relationship last and were you happy? Did your spouse and kids eventually accept your decision and the other person? I guess the question is - was the grass greener?

2007-08-13 08:47:58 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I left my job 2 years ago and have slowly lost myself over time. I love my kids dearly, but my husband is pig headed and treates me like his maid, cook, secretary, and baby sitter and sometimes wh*re. We were in love once...please dont judge.

Im ready to leave him! if I am going to be with my kids 24/7 and not get to be my own person, better to not have an extra 2 year old to take care of and watch my loving husband become more and more of himself every day as I lose more and more of myself every day. I didnt marry him and have his children so he can be a kid again and have his mommy. He is so selfish!

Im sick of it, yes, Ive tried talking to him logically, nagging, crying, begging, etc. no matter how much I want to leave I know its not the best choice when you have 3 kids and made the commitment so that is out.

So, my question is, how do you make it work, what did you do to keep hold of who you are and any other advice??

2007-08-13 08:45:18 · 17 answers · asked by Lonely Turkey 4