My husband says mean things to me all the time. He says he is ony with me because I have inherited millions from my mom's estate. we are very wealthy and he takes over 50,000 and spends it on whores and strippers. What should I do? I love him so much but I can't take it any more. I put 500,000 in his personal account last week and he only has 1,000 left. I asked him were the money is he said i spent it on bills. I pay all the bills and our morgage is 25,000 a month. What do i do? Please help anyone!
2007-08-13 09:34:05 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sweet Pea it sounds like he his just using you for you money. I say don't give him anymore money in his account and let him make his own money for now. Good luck!
2007-08-13 09:49:37 · answer #1 · answered by b n real 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt you still love him as dearly as you think you do.
Yes, you still want him but not for love. You may be stuck in a co-dependency situation. You are unconsciously seeking approval and love but in the wrong place.
Let's say if he was only a friend or an aquintance, would you have put up with his nasty words and exploiting behavior? If you would not allow that from friends, why would you permit this from him? Think hard! He's indeed a problem but you have to figure out your role in it which is allowing this to happen. It isn't about your fault or anything wrong in you, but dig deeper inside yourself to see what is causing this alarming situation. Don't simply say it's because you love him, not unless you have a liking to pain and enjoy his abusive behavior. You didn't sound like you do, or else you won't be seeking help here. I hope you can get in touch of whatever (fear, insecurity, approval seeking, etc....) it may be so that you have the strength to move on.
Thing number one if you can is to get rid of him. Once he's out, you may be able to see more clearly. Once he's out the door, you will likely wonder why the hell was he ever in your life. Get rid of the toxin.
Don't be afraid. I am sure you have a lot to offer to the world. Be strong. He is not everything. In fact, no offense, he's nothing. No gentlemen (lady), no dignified man (or woman) behaves the way he does. He's not worth your while. NOT WORTH YOUR WHILE. Walk! The world is full of life and beauty waiting for you to explore. Don't waste your life on a thug. You deserve better. Much better!
Good luck!
2007-08-13 11:50:35 · answer #2 · answered by cck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have any concrete evidence of his behavior, start keeping it somewhere safe. (receipts to hotels, phone bills with calls to sex lines, etc.) it seems that you still control the money since you gave him some last week and you pay the bills. start putting the money in a separate account with only your name on it so that he can't access it. also, secretly record him saying those mean things to you, especially about using you for your money. you can do this with nanny cams and other small hidden devices that you can get from any electronics store. perhaps you should record phone calls. as you begin to collect this evidence, consider hiring a private eye to trail your hub for a week or two and gathering photo evidence of your husband's philandering. talk to a lawyer and don't reveal your activities to your husband. a lawyer will advise you how to best use the evidence to divorce your husband and keep him from getting your money. until then, pretend everything is the same as always.
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2007-08-13 10:01:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you giving him money?
I see from your other question that he beats you?
please, go speak with a lawyer, find out if he is able to touch any of your inheritance or not...
if you have life insurance policies, make sure that he is not a beneficiary on them.
Don't let love make you so weak that you think there is something you are not doing right to get his love. Stop trying to buy his love because obviously it isn't working, and he is using his money on other women!
don't be blind anymore, this man DOES NOT LOVE YOU and no matter how much money you give him, he isn't going to love you--he is only going to want more money.
get out of this marriage and start over with yourself so that you become stronger and happier and love yourself enough that you will find someone who will keep making yourself happy.
2007-08-13 10:47:08 · answer #4 · answered by Twizzle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have him killed, you have the dough.
2007-08-13 09:46:16 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋