am I wrong, what should I do, interracial marriage?

Question

I am so unhappy. I am mexican and I married an american. Sometimes I think I made a so bad decistion to marry this guy. He drinks every single day, (he will drink 6-8 natural light can beers on weekdays) and 30 on weekends. He is very used to drink much, he doesnt fall like being drunk, but I see his behaviour changes. And that is the root of our problems, and I will get so angry at him that I want to hit him. Now I have been in mexico because my legal status, and I just found he has registered in a adult website to find somebody to "hockup". That makes me very angry. He blames me for our troubles of his drinking. What should I do?.. I am so hurted for everything. I just think if I had married other boy my life would be better. I am 27 years old and no childre. But I always believed I could build a happy marriage and family.

Also he is 9 years older than me..

Answer 1

If you truly love him then take him into marriage counseling. If this doesn't work then you will have to leave. You are still young and eventually will find someone that respects you and desires to have a family to. You need to get strong and find the courage to walk away from him if you have to! Don't ever remain in a relationship if there is no happiness in it. You deserve to share your life with someone that brings you up not down and encourages you to be the best you can be. There's a great big world out there with a lot of good people to discover and would care about you because they care about themselves. Move on in life if you must and know you are worthy of more than this man is giving you. Take care and I wish all the very best for you.

Answer 2

THIS is not a race issue this is just a simple issue of getting to know a person before marrying them. How long did you two date before you got married? He is a couple of years than you so your expectations should been higher with him these really seem like problems you should of notice before the marriage. Also< I do believe that a percentage of mexican men drink also so it all about choosen who right for you not what race they belong to . We are all people you just have to find someone with the same moral belief as yourself. My suggestion to you is to end this marriage while there are no children involved this is not a healthy relationship to bring children into and your still young you shouldn't have to go through so much stress

Answer 3

That is sad, your husband should be a better man for you. He does have a drinking problem and this could be a bad thing. He may get violent sometime. And he is on a adult dating site, that dont sound too good. You should talk to him about about how you feel tell him all the drinking needs to stop. Or maybe just drink on weekends?
but yeah talk to him.....hope everything will work out or the best thing happens.

Answer 4

Wow you sound like me.... but I'm not Mexican I'm Canadian and I'm with a non Canadian man.He has excuses for drinking all the time .He's celebrating,he's sad,he's sick ....and so on the best one is I make him drink.....Girl don't think it's because he is not Mexican cause I'm sure you will hear from people that their Mexican wife or husband are the same way .It's an alcohol problem not a race problem .My advice would be follow your feelings .When you've had enough it will be enough. Don't get pregnant that will just complicate everything.I have Five children and 17 years later I'm still here. Not easy ....I wish you well .

Answer 5

Get out.

Its not your fault he drinks. You seem like a very sweet, intelligent person. He seems like a horrible man. This has nothing to do with it being an interracial marriage, it has nothing to do with you being in different countries. You need to get free of him and move. You deserve someone who respects you, loves you, doesn't drink so much and doesn't cheat on you. You're a strong person. You can do it.

Answer 6

Its not about race at all....

There are serveral American men that are wonderful to be with. You chose the wrong one.

You need to re-evaluate why you married him, did you really love him or was it because of your "legal status". If I were you, I would move on and leave him.

But, remember that this is NOT a race issue at all

Answer 7

these issues have nothing to do with being in an interracial marriage so that doens't need to be mentioned.You just have some marriage issues to address such as alcoholism and a past obviously because of the website he is on.ITs up to you to deal with those issues the way you see fit not others.Don't blame it on a racial issue that is a cop out.

Answer 8

It doesn't sound like you have much of a marriage if you, his bride, are out of the country and he, a loser, is on the internet trying to get sum. It's not a matter nationality - he's an idiot. If you love him and he is worth fighting for - then start demanding/pushing/encouraging him to get help and stay strong. It doesn't sound like you love him though. Good luck. I am sorry for the pain you are going thru.

Answer 9

i don't think your problem is because you are in an interracial relationship because this scenario could have been easily played out if you married a mexican.

now what your problem is that you married an alcoholic. he needs help. as a wife i think it is your position to point that out to him. he uses you as an excuse to make him drink and return you are falling right into his hand of guilt.

until he gets it together, you need to walk away for your own sanity. tell him you will return when he is ready to admit he is an alcoholic.

Answer 10

Goodness if he's "hocking up" people he should see a doctor...that can't be good. Sorry, couldn't help myself.
See the grass isn't always greener over here, huh? And Hispanic women aren't always so giving as American men think. They have the same desire to be loved and respected as any other woman.