My ex-husband, daughter and I were thinking of getting back together as a family. We would have to leave next week if we do since he lives in another state than my daughter and I.
He sent me a task list on Saturday of things that I should be doing like selling the things from my storage facility, revising my resume and packing.
I was busy with other things and did not do any of the things on the list.
I spoke with him today and he was upset with me.
I can not make up my mind as to whether to go and be with him or not.
But, I wonder if its normal for him to be sending me a task list or priority things to focus on.
My plan was to donate most of my stuff in my storage facility and not bother about selling them. He is pushing me to sell them.
I wonder if his behavior is still controlling or if he is looking out for my best interest. He was very upset with me this morning.
2007-08-13 10:06:20 · 5 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can only speak for me when I say this. I would feel offended to know I would have to follow a task list. I would feel like I was capable of handling a move especially if I am managing a household by myself and raising a child. Is he in some kind of financial bind as to why he insist on you selling all your things in storage. You should just donate them as you were going to do in the first place. He wants you to update your resume and start packing as if he is already sure you are going back to him. Seems to me he still has control issues. You seem to also be up in the air about moving back also. Take all the time you need to make such a major decision. Make sure that what caused you to get divorced has been resolved. This is not all about you and him, you have a child to think about. Good Luck.
2007-08-13 10:25:06 · answer #1 · answered by flirty30 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is trying to tell you what to do with your stuff, and get's upset with you when you don't do it. He is trying to control you.
If you are serious about getting back together with him, or considering it, it would be a huge mistake to just leave your entire life behind to move in with him. That would be disastrous.
These things take time.
2007-08-13 17:14:15 · answer #2 · answered by three6ty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't made up your mind then chances are something in your gut is telling you not to go! Ask yourself why you divorced him in the first place and seriously think about it. Once you move, how hard will it be to get away from him again, if you need too?
2007-08-13 17:15:02 · answer #3 · answered by Atropabelladonna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no lecture here- its straight up control. Now let me ask you a question- are you really going back to all of the manipulation and control. It is not normal for any partner to leave list for one to complete unless your a parent asking a child. ummmmmm-j makes one wonder.
2007-08-13 18:33:59 · answer #4 · answered by sylviavnpttn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is your ex-husband for a reason!
2007-08-13 17:13:24 · answer #5 · answered by Kathleen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋