I have been paying what I can for child support to my children living in another state. I had a job where I made very good money. i was layed off. then I started doing something else that pay 3 times less to start. but they were trying to still take $2000+ out of me when i wasn't even making that in 2 months. i tried to get it change many times. a i got from them was you pay or you go to jail. Note: I have neveer been in trouble in my life. Always paid my taxes and yeah i might get a speeding ticket here and there. But they want to lock me up for something i can't pay for If you don't have how are you to pay? I pay something every month even if i don't have money to feed myself. Can anyone help me find a way make these changes I'm willing to go All the way to the white house with it. Don't get me wrong I love my children i would do anything for them. I just can't send what i don't have. They make me out to be a bad dad. When I wish I could just bring them here to live with me.
2007-08-13 09:47:06 · 9 answers · asked by Justin G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The specifics will vary depending upon the state is which you live, but you can always re-petition the court you were divorced in, and inform them of your new income--and be prepared to back it with paycheck stubs, etc.. They usually go by tax returns, but you will have to cvonvince them to accept what you have, as when they go to put liens on your wages, and the net amount is less that what they are trying to grab, they will have to re-consider. (Actually, it is illegal for anyone to garnish wages in any amount greater than half your net check; so there is some hope.) But still do alert the court, or the difference between what they CAN legally collect, and what they have documented as owed, will pilew up as a back-owed child suport bill!
And don't worry...the last thing they want to do is put you on jail, where they will not only get no money from you, but have to pay for your living costs (plus for some overpriced babysitters for you), but also, some county--where ever your wife currently lives--will very likely have to start coughing up welfare-type bennies to support your kids while you are vegetating away in jail. not a smart move on for anyone concerned. However, some of the games they DO play is to make it hard for you to function (again, depending upon where you live): can't get a driver's license, register a car, cash in a lotto ticket, recieve a tax return, ect., ect.
I had kinda the opposite situation, where my inccome had gone up over the years, and I had only a court order for the bare-bones amount, which was never changed, so they could get no further amounts for back child support (I was battling the various counties my ex had gone off and got on welfare in); but my ex at that point could have gone back to the county where we were origionally divorced, and gotten the current support amount raised to what I was already paying (over 3 times the original amount, because I could, and it was the right thing to do)--but she didn't, and it came back to haunt her later, when she was trying to claim 10 billion dollars in back support I supposably owed from time when I was incarcerated!]
LOL, and do not give up. I just hope you have a relationship with your kids still too; they need that just as much as (or even more so than) the $$$!!
2007-08-13 10:26:41 · answer #1 · answered by grapejuice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dads look bad because a certain percentage of them are. You have a child and someone has to pay for it. Some fathers are gone before the baby is born; others disappear over the years. Some with lots of money don't care that their kids live in poverty or next to it as long as they have money for boats, etc. Some enjoy keeping their exes on short money so they can give big gifts when the kids visit and look like the "good guys."
Frankly as a taxpayer, the child support source of last resort, I wasn't in on the thrill of making the baby; it will never wrap its arms around my neck or visit me when I'm old and in the nursing home. Those who have had or will have those chances need to be the ones paying.
It's bad that you got caught in something when you were trying to do the right thing, but we're ALL taking off our shoes at the airport because ONE man put explosives in his shoes. The good suffer with the bad--that's the way of the world.
2007-08-13 17:01:14 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you have to do is notify the court that you are making less money now and take it from there. If you were still living at home would you be able to take such a low paying job? You might have to work 2 jobs, you still have mouths to feed, kids to cloth and provide for financially. There is cynicism in our society because there are men out there who take lesser paying jobs or quit jobs so they don't have to pay so much or any child support. Sad, but true.
2007-08-13 16:57:17 · answer #3 · answered by gma 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In case it did not dawn on you...you need to make more money...pehaps a second job. Dad's who don't have the kids are usually just satisfied to shell out the money and don't really spend quality time with the kids...thus...they look like a devil. So common today. Don't feel like the lone ranger..you are not alone with this issue and perhaps you are a good dad.
2007-08-13 16:59:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all of you out there bashing supporting your kids, you all should go to hell. the reason the courts are the way they are, you don't hear of a man leaving because the wife beat him and he doesn't take the kid, it always the other way around. or the man leaves his wife and 4 kids for another woman the only way women know how to make you pay for ruining their life is to make you pay. but the courts are supposed to go by how much you make. they are not supposed to be able to take more from you than you can live on. you need to be able to pupport yourself too. you need a better lawyer.
2007-08-13 16:59:37 · answer #5 · answered by sarcastic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How dare you suggest that you go to the white house to make it so you don't pay what you should for your kids. Ok stop thinking about yourself and think about if you have a hard time making your bills and feeding your kids how do you think the mom has it. Lets see rent or mortgage payments, water, gas, electric, car payments, car insurance, doctors bills, medicine, clothes, shoes, food and food for when there dozens of friends come over to eat what food you have for the day, dentist, orthodontist, eye exams and glasses if needed, future college fund, school field trips, graduations, when they want to go places with their friends or buy something at the store, summer vacations(cant have your kids sitting around alll summer.) Christmas, birthdays, hmm should I realy go on. and you have what the necessaties to pay for just yourself. Also think about all that before running out and having anymore kids you don't want to pay for. You love your kids go out get three jobs if you have to and live for them cus when you have kids your life is null and void its all about them. And they deserve every bit of it.
2007-08-13 17:00:20 · answer #6 · answered by youcandoit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with a lot of what you said. The problem here though is that this is court ordered. I think you need to get a lwayer to go back and have the order changed. As long as it's ordered you can get in trouble so get it changed ASAP
2007-08-13 16:55:04 · answer #7 · answered by Jessie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless, they should only be on a percent scale...that way if your pay changes your payments to as well.
2007-08-13 16:53:11 · answer #8 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
child support is the newest form of slavery and the dads are stuck being slaves the only way to get out is to die
2007-08-13 16:51:53 · answer #9 · answered by jesse j 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋