Marriage & Divorce - 12 May 2007

2007-05-12 09:39:19 · 34 answers · asked by Christina 2

Thanks to all for the very interesting points of view on my question.
A little more detail on why I left my husband. He had 7 years sobriety (supposedly) when we got together. I found out that he was drinking again 1 year into our marriage. I later found out that it started before we got married. The lies and dishonesty and the non payments of our bills and everything that goes with alcoholism was just too much for me and my kids (from a previous marriage). I tried to stay and work it out for 2 years. It just never ended. I realized that I couldn't fix him....only me!
He is a good man when he's not drinking. He was also a counselor but refused counseling for himself or us.
I know that there is still compassion on my part for him but I just couldn't live that way any longer. As far as this new guy, hubby does know and of course doesn't like it at all. But I don't believe he's sitting at home baking cookies either!!!!
I really do like this guy and we are good together

2007-05-12 09:35:15 · 14 answers · asked by NCchic 1

I get the state min in Illinois for child support and he is suppose to pay 20% on bonus money which he always hides. I have sole custody. I have not moved. He makes 73k and I barely make 17K. Now he wants 1/2 of the money it costs to fly out pick her up and fly her back. He did not have to move he chose to move. He does not pay for her extra activities, he does not EVER buy her clothes, school supplies or anything else. What are the chances he could win? Can I make him pay for my attorney fees? Could I get him to pay for the extra activities?

2007-05-12 09:33:04 · 10 answers · asked by carriesredhorse 1

http://www.mybrotha.com/quiz/quiz.asp?qname=WomanSpeak&qtype=new

I got 39 out of 50.

2007-05-12 09:29:54 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

if you were walking out on your marriage and you had a whole week with two of your siblings in your home without your wife around, wouldn't you make sure that you removed the most important things to you that are not replaceable out of the home first; such as baby albums, family pictures....etc? or would you leave it behind?

2007-05-12 09:25:35 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-12 08:47:33 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-12 08:47:05 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

yesterday, i found out that my husband and his siblings had a bow-wow about our marriage and his brothers strongly encouraged him to divorce me. so yesterday i called him and asked him about it and he told me that he was waiting until he can come by and get the rest of the things that he wanted from our place and then he was going to give me the divorce papers. I told him just to send it in the mail and that I would have them sign and he got upset and asked why I did not want him to come over and because I was so hurt I told him because I just rather not see him ever again. All he cares about are the material things that he wants from our home, he has already taken more than half of the house hold furniture, but he still wants more. I just want to get through this. I guess my question is will I ever recover from this hurt and pain? My husband still has not once admit any fault or taken any responsibility for his bad choices in our marriage and still points the finger at me.

2007-05-12 08:45:28 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-12 08:34:10 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am trying to keep possitive> Am 51 ( nice guy.... Sorry!!!) and looking forward. Should I lay dormant for a while????

2007-05-12 08:23:50 · 21 answers · asked by bornagainandy 2

Legal Aid won't take my case because of some conflicts of interest. I don't have money for a huge retainer up front, any ideas welcome.

2007-05-12 08:21:02 · 2 answers · asked by uthinkso 3

I was just wondering what your thoughts are on this. We have been in a monogomous relationship for 6 yrs now. Recently, he went to a class event for his son and didnt invite me. I have the feeling I am being left out of things deliberately by his ex wife and family just to be mean.
I went to a large sit down dinner recently with everyone who is anyone in our area, and paid for his ticket and he was very excited about going. Of course it was an open bar, free entertainment and all of the people who are considered
I feel like he should have reciprocated even though it was just a little cheap event with nothing really happening. Am I being overly sensitive? If I was married to him, I think I would have been asked to attend with no questions asked. He also did not ask me to attend his high school reunion. I was asked to attend someone reunion, who I dont even have a relationship with except for friends. Just tell me what you think please.

2007-05-12 08:19:52 · 13 answers · asked by happydawg 6

she has never made the effort in the past and now my daughter is 13yrs. Should I let her?

2007-05-12 07:58:48 · 15 answers · asked by loving U 3

I live with my boyfriend and we've been together for 1 year. I've known him for fifteen years. He acts really distant. He only calls now when he needs something. He's been having work problems. He told me 2 weeks ago he isn't happy with me. He said he wants us to stay together to try and work it out. When I call him now-which isn't that often - he acts cold and distant. H e doesn't say I love you much anymore. I've been very sweet to him and I don't nag him. He said there's not someone else. He still stays around the house at night , he doesn't disappear. He only wants to have sex once a week now. Please help because I moved to another state for him (because we were best friends) and I need to know what to do so I can move on if need be. I'm very confused. Thanks.:)

2007-05-12 07:38:44 · 17 answers · asked by butterflies1992 1

we and my ex have been divorced for almost 10 yrs now, We have two children together, I'm now remarried and doing really well. I'm not sure how much he make I'm guess between 900 and1200 a mth. he pays $300 a mth child support, He is a wonderful father to his kids. but I'm really worried about the vehicle he drive and their saftey as his car and house are falling apart. I honestly think hes doing the best he can. And I would like to know what he should be paying. We did a do it yourself divorce and he decided the amount, but know his wife is legally blind and can't work and they have a child to raise. please help..

2007-05-12 07:37:45 · 14 answers · asked by tatsmom4ever 2

I know it sounds dumb. I am in love with a person who never makes time for me physically. I am underweight but I do not have abs. I am living without sex while he masturbates to porn. He says he loves me or he wouldn't be here. I feel that I would be superficial to end a relationship over sex. He is good to me in all other regards. This has profoundly effected my self esteem and my body image. Although most people tell me how pretty I am all of the time but it only matters to me what he thinks.I have done everything I can think of. Bought costumes, etc...I am a very physical person and the intamacey makes me feel loved. We have discussed this for over two years now and he knows how I feel but he won't stop the porn and turn to me. I have tried everything!!! I do not want to nagg him anymore about it. So right now I just go without a physical relationship with my partner.

2007-05-12 07:35:31 · 20 answers · asked by need advice 1

ive been with my boyfriend a year now and right now i can make it.....but i want to know how long is the right time to wait...??? when its too soon???

2007-05-12 07:27:06 · 18 answers · asked by **PrinCess** 2

It's no secret that a womans brain is smaller and less developed than a mans. Hey, I think I just answered my own question!

2007-05-12 07:19:49 · 22 answers · asked by booger 3

I'm not asking which one has a worse manifestation of vindictiveness, which would have to be men, with the in-person stalking (but, women do plenty of stalking remotely) and murders and all. I'm asking which gender is more likely to be vindictive, rather than neutral or "helpful" after a breakup.

2007-05-12 07:13:24 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boss took advantage of my hubby's absence & he raped me all night right at the bed I share with my hubby. I was crying the whole time he was abusing me, & he left only early morning today, when i told him that my husband will be coming back anytime. He said he'd rape me again once i'm back in the office. What should i do? I don't want to ruin my very young marriage by telling my husband waht has happened. & my boss placed his kissmarks all over my body, mostly in my breast & armpits. My husband will be back in two day's time. Will these kissmarks be faded by then? Please advice. I don't plan to go back to the office anymore.

2007-05-12 07:06:08 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

more than 10 years after saying she doesn't want any help, that she can manage, etc.

I know someone this is happening to - they were never married so no real comitment was made between tham.

2007-05-12 07:00:45 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband wanted to marry me the moment he met me, is it that the men don't feel this way about the mother of their child? Are they just waiting for something better to come along?
Do some people not have the money for a wedding? Do they not believe in marriage?

What's the reason, I would like to hear from men and women.

No need to get angry, I don't have a problem with it I am just wondering. Mostly curious about what men's reasons are.

2007-05-12 06:18:09 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

like leave his momma and put his feet under his own table. but like he never cut the umbilical cord. i see him as less than a man because he has always allowed himself to be put in the center and enjoys the tug and pull between his maamma and his wife. about 10 years ago i gave up. just let her have him. i dont want him. i am tired of hearing i am the one with the problem. so since then its been a sexless loveless marriage. has this happened to any other girlfriends. do you ever reach the end of your rope and say i love you hubby but you are not worth the trouble? do you ever just walk away emotionally and just give up?
i am tired of fighting in my home due to the mother in laws interference. i live a moderate married single life now. no physical or emotional binding with my hubby. go through the motions. talk about the kids and his day at work. as if i really care.

2007-05-12 06:14:58 · 12 answers · asked by WORKING OLDER SMARTER BLONDE 4

says its a prank should i beleive him

2007-05-12 06:06:10 · 19 answers · asked by :..WIzDOM..: 1

i think my mom in law delights in keeping her claws in her son rather than go ahead and let him grow up. i think she would rather have him still nurse at the breast rather than give him the freedom to grow up and have his own life. how many girlfriends out their also have the mother in law from hell? if i knew then how she would always be intruding i would have run run straight out the door of the church. do you think a man is a mammas boy just because he always looks for good in his mom and gives her the denefit of the doubt in issues where she is concerned.? should not he be able to love her without creating this fantasy world that she lives in? i could stand it if he loved her if he was just willing to look at her for what she is and be honest. but instead his moms on a pedestal and i am the dirty bad guy cause i see his mom in a different light. oh yes we really dont discuss her at all. so dont tell me to keep my opinion of his mamma to myself because i do.

2007-05-12 06:02:02 · 3 answers · asked by WORKING OLDER SMARTER BLONDE 4

So my fiancée has been arrested for an old DUI charge from 3 years ago. I understand why he did not do his time mostly because he has a 7-year-old daughter and wants/needs to pay her child support, and her health insurance. Here is my problem. I knew about this DUI when we started dating (a year ago) but the story that I was told is different from what really happened. I have found out from the courts that he had a probation given to him but because of his child support was created in Alaska Tribal (from his army days) he has a percentage not a set amount taken from his check and comes home with about 25% of his paycheck give or take and was unable to pay for his monitor anklet. Here is my problem I have found out all these lies and now he is in jail and might have to do 80 days. I can’t write him about my thoughts for it can be used in court and I do not want to make this harder for him. I am committed to our relationship to a full extent hence the marriage.
What should I do?

2007-05-12 05:44:08 · 18 answers · asked by Miss.lace 1

i think he should split the day between spending time with me and spending time with them. he leaves at noon and comes back at bedtime. we live 20 minutes apart from his folks which means i spend my holiday alone. i do want him to visit. but i also want him to make some time with me. i think he is punishing me because i wont go and therefore he wants me to feel bad. and alone. also my kids then i dont get to see for any holiday even christmas. i think my husband is choosing his family over me and i resent him for this. i usually go out eat-read a book do shopping and go to a movie. i sure wish that i had someone to spend the holidays with. actually i have told my hubby to just go move in with his mamma.
he doesnt get to sleep in my bed for past 6 years. mostly because i hate him. like i said why cant he split up the holiday. its like he says you want to be with me you go to my mammas. its like i say you want to have sex with me than you give me some holiday time. l

2007-05-12 05:33:53 · 15 answers · asked by WORKING OLDER SMARTER BLONDE 4

I think its the mom or woman. Seems like it's every womans dream, goal or mission to be a mother one day but thats not every mans wish. Seems like they won't feel like a woman or lady until they have a baby. I'm 51 don't have and dont' want to be a Father ever. I'm okay. I know that the women do, I just don't. The women I meet are basically moms of 2 or more so they do not need any more from me. The job is already done by her HS Sweetheart, her former date or former husband. Usually the former date. Its a mystery to me to see womens profiles that say "Never Married has 4 children" How in the world did that come about. Everyone knows you don't bring children into the world without a married Husband. Thats his job only.

2007-05-12 05:23:32 · 19 answers · asked by Housecat 3

that he had a life already. I love him but its just too much to handle. Whats bigger love or the nasty feelings a have? What do I do? HELP!!!

2007-05-12 05:17:39 · 28 answers · asked by Steph 1

Please can you wives tell me if your husbands treated you the same and if husbands treat your wives the same. He (my man) is 31 yrs old and I am in my first trimester of pregnancy. I feel sick and debilitated from doing many stufff because of my constant intense nausea and vomiting. He asked me to go visit his friend and his wife, and I told him I feel ill- then he got mad at me and said that if I can't even make the effort to go to his friends then how will I go to Germany on holiday with him next month (a trip to visit friends and his siter and hubby) he then said sarcastically if I feel so sick then he won't let me come and he will go alone... he made the point of also then mentioning he will go on 2 trips for business (after he told me the last time he can't leave me and will want me by his side when he travels far for business) to taiwan also in the next 3 months and he will leave me alone home, he just returned 3 weeks ago from China on a business trip.Give opinions please..thanx

2007-05-12 05:11:36 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous