Marriage & Divorce - 12 May 2007

I went to talk to my mother about the way her fiance' treats me/siblings. He doesnt want anyone watching the t.v. or on the computer when he isn't home.I told her when we are watching t.v. he would come in and just turn the channel or if I am on the phone he would take the cord out and put it in the line for the internet .She started arguing with me telling me in order for you to have a opinion about anything he does in his house you have to pay bills. I was telling her he is very rude and all this does it just causes tension in the house. She was like it is very rude for him to come in and turn the t.v. but this is his house its not right and if you dont like the way things going then get the F*** out. I was like I am home just for the summer and everyone is stressed out. We feel like we arre isolated. I told her they have been together for 9 years and I can't remember him ever buying anything for any of us on our birthday or the last time my mother taken us on a vacation as a family (which we have never been on), even though they have been to Florida, Paris (twice), Atlanta just to name a few places and we are at home doing nothing. I told her we never sit down and talked about we feel about anything it's not like we are included and I was trying to tell her what is bothering us. She got totally offended when all I did was talk to her. All she does is talk about the things from my past that I have done growing up and it hurts me when she brings up all those things and then I start telling her why does she always have to bring things up from the past and also she is quick to tell me what problems she think I have and I told her what are the problems that she have and its quick to judge others. I told her for everything he does she have an excuse for him. Its tearing my family apart and ever since he have been in the picture we have not been a family. I love my mother and I want her to be happy but how can I want whats best for her when she doesn't care what it is thats keeping us from being happy. I am totally confused and wished I had some type of support. Any advice?

2007-05-12 15:36:49 · 17 answers · asked by Hottie 2

I did in 1990.. I just had a baby ( he begged me to get pregnant) and I had a 4 yr old. Today the ex husband of the other woman stopped by to visit after 18 yrs. We talked about how terrible my life was back then, how poor I was and how hard I worked and got my life back together, and how sorry he felt for me raising 2 little kids with nothing. My daughter over heard, got mad and stormed out of the house. She is 19 now and she thinks I should not say terrible things about her dad.
I never had any more kids and never re married.
I refuse to pretend like he is a good person.
The other woman and her husband were married 19 yrs when the affair started. He was emotionally damaged and recently hooked up again with a new gal. He came to say hi and see how I am doing.
The affair devastated 2 families. He hasnt spoken to his daughter who was 12 at the time of his wifes affair with my husband in 10 yrs.
I think my daughter is old enough to know what happened. What do you think

2007-05-12 14:39:01 · 6 answers · asked by happydawg 6

I am owed around $15.000 I live in greene county ohio.I ve been to court with the state and with my attorney and they still refuse to lock him up or make him pay he has failed two drug test and I feel if someone would just get off their *** in the court system I might not have to struggle as a single mother.

2007-05-12 14:31:23 · 10 answers · asked by CATHERINE K 1

I have been w/o the same man for 13yrs we seperated for4yrs in between there where I conceived a child and he gained a marriage. We've been back together for the past five years. He barely works and he doesn't seem as if he is pushed to get a divorce from his wife whom he has been out of contact with for the past 5yrs. Tell me the truth even though he doesn't cheat cause he can't seem to be w/o me. What should I do?

2007-05-12 14:25:26 · 14 answers · asked by Kadija T 1

My son didn't come home last night it has been 24 hours. He is an adult (over 18+). I would not not be worried if he didn't stay with me, because I would not know about this. I try to stay out of his affairs and I only give advice when he allows it. I was not home when he left so I don't know where he went. I am very concerned. This is not like him, he left his truck in the drive-way. He has been depressed. He has a drinking problem. What should I do?

2007-05-12 14:03:03 · 8 answers · asked by Busy Lady 2010 7

What should I do about a man who thinks his only job is work. I asked him today if he would help clean my house so i could finish dinner and he flat out told me again it isn't his job, he is the man, men don't do that.He use to help all the time but sense we got married he stopped. I am suppose to work 42 hours a week take care of our two sons and clean, cook, and well other things. I just can't do it all. He keeps trying to get me to quit my job but i can't i just made manager, and I making good money now, and that helps so much. I have been so busy trying to do everything else that i get so tired by the end of the night to do loving things with him. I am really stuck I just don't know what to do. Do I make him happy and quit my job even though it helps with bills so much. O r what.

2007-05-12 13:58:51 · 12 answers · asked by joseismyworld 1

damn... ok some one help... when is mothers day>>

(its the year 07)

2007-05-12 13:54:43 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

If you'd been with a man for 8yrs + living together well over half that time, get along perfectly in every way. He is wonderful loyal faithful and your best friend, he loves you, his parents and family love you BUT he has already been married once and doesn't believe in marriage any more. Would you be content to live out your life w/him unmarried?

2007-05-12 13:39:17 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

How did you know that the one you chose to marry was "the one"? How did you guys meet? Tell me about it :D

2007-05-12 13:30:30 · 20 answers · asked by McLovin 3

2007-05-12 12:59:15 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

We are both well-educated and come from solid families, but we are also both divorced. He often accuses me of not understanding his position and troubles as a Chicano professional; I try to be sympathetic, but when it seems to lie direct blame on me as a white person, I get unreasonably defensive.

2007-05-12 12:54:08 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-12 12:46:10 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Over the last few months, I have become really attracted to a male co-worker who I see from time to time at the office.
About a month and a half ago, we started emailing each other a couple of times a day, about random stuff.
It was getting pretty exciting as we have so much in common and I love his personality.
About a month ago he spotted me outside and asked me if I knew he was married.
I had a suspicion, but never asked him about it directly.
Once he told me he was married, I did back off a bit from the emails but we still checked in with each other less often.
Over the last 2 weeks, we have been to lunch together a couple of times and have shared a coffee break for an hour or two after work. Although I would never do anything with him knowing that he is married, is it wrong to hang out with him as a friend? I have told him this and he said he is fine with it.
My friends think I shouldnt even go to lunch with him, but I would really love for us to be friends. Please help!

2007-05-12 12:45:14 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

My partner says that I am 'indiscreet' with others about our relationship - and says that I often say stuff about him that mortifies him. I think I am just being open as I feel that I don't have a lot to be discreet about. Having said that he recently 'almost' had an affair with someone - and I now blame myself for driving him to seek comfort from another woman because of my behaviour. How can I stop myself from acting indiscreetly especially with my close friends?

2007-05-12 12:33:59 · 26 answers · asked by Buggirl 2

No, I'm not going to harm her physically: RELAX !
She wants me to financially support her while she's sleeping around with her new lover.
We're divorced but she still lives at my place. Her new lover wants her to move in with him. She sleeps most nights at his place, but all her funiture is here. (is place is way too small !)
I just got a new job and I wish to move to a new apartment closer to work, but she's still in school till September and she wants me to stay and pay the rent. She has no job, studies full time, and the new guy won't pay a dime.
So WHAT DO I DO??
PLEASE; YOU DECIDE:

1) Stay till September, pay the rent until she gets a job around September, then leave. (while she's screwing him nightly).

2) Give my 60 day's notice now, and find a new place and let her fend for herself, possibly moving in with him when I go.

When we got married I promised to support and provide for her forever, now she's angry at me for changing my promise.

You decide her fate:

2007-05-12 12:12:15 · 35 answers · asked by honesty_counts 1

2007-05-12 12:09:14 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I are only 20 years old and his in the US navy as a corpsman. and he loves his jobs. I was woundering How do the wifes of Military men, How do you feel when you know what kind of job your husband has and you know the job you get or have isnt as high as your husbands. How does that make you feel. Does your husbands ever push you to do something great cause they know they did something great and they want you to do the same but that you would never be able to do what they did.

How do face the fact that your husband is higher then you how does that not bring you down.
Im going through a really hard time. I want to do something great with my life but knowing what my husaband job and what he does. I feel like If I do anything he wont be proud or that I will feel like I did something great with my life

2007-05-12 11:54:41 · 16 answers · asked by allie laught alot 3

I've worked for him for a year and a half. We mistakingly kissed one night and since then it's all he can think about. I've told him time after time to ignore it, forget about it, it was a mistake, and that the entire idea is just stupid. He doesn't agree. He put it all on the table and told me that this has never happened to him, he's completely fallen for me, I drive him crazy, and that he feels as though life has thrown him a curve ball. He asked me if I'm interested. Although I somewhat am, I over and over and confidently told him that this is just stupid and to get over it.

Since then, I cannot get his words out of my head. He's the first thought of mine when I wake up and the last at night. I do like him, but I can't tell whether I like him now because he likes me or because of his authoritative role as my boss. This is so hard since i see him every day. I told him this will all go away, but I'm now starting to think it may not.

Please help.

2007-05-12 11:41:30 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous

My girlfriend of 4 years married another guy 3 mos ago. Im a 29 yearold man and met her overseas back in 2002 when I was living there and we were together for one year there. In 2004 after many unsuccessful attempts of her trying to get a VISA to come to the U.S., she got a marriage visa and came to the U.S. After a few months i freaked out, had a lot of doubts due to the pressure of the visa, so I changed my mind and she went back home. She suffered alot and was very embarassed at what happened. We reconciled and since 2005 I have changed my mind 2 other times to get married.This girl stayed with me throughout EVERYTHING and I FINALLY I felt ready to marry her.I cant explain, I just knew i was ready so I returned 4 months ago to marry her on the spot. At that point she told me she was engaged to marry another guy. This is SOOO sad. I finally really wanted to get married, and she didnt wait!
I dont blame her, I am just sick to my stomach. What can I do to try to recover from this?

2007-05-12 11:40:56 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-12 11:37:22 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

We are not Catholic but my son goes to Catholic school. In his religion book, which I was reading, it described what an annulment meant. The church will grant an annulment for a marriage that has ended legally in divorce if the Church tribunal determines that the marriage vows were invalid from the begining - where one or both persons were not able to make a valid vow.

My friend's sister was married for almost 17 years with two kids. Her husband & her got a divorce. She met someone else a year or so later who would not marry her unless she got an annulment, which the Church granted - for a price I might add. The kids were very upset as were the rest of the family. It seems funny that after all that time, the Church can just say they were never legally married. What does that say about the kids, now 17 and 13. Bastards? Doesn't seem right to me.I can see after a year or 2 with no kids but even then, how can you prove you were not able to make a valid vow & what does that mean?

2007-05-12 11:24:47 · 10 answers · asked by lilith663 6

2007-05-12 10:51:35 · 20 answers · asked by Manuel A 1

i cheated on my wife she dosent want no answers like "divorce him"
she wants to no the best way to get me back by humilation
what should she do to me

2007-05-12 10:49:48 · 18 answers · asked by becky 1

Hi How are you love you. No reply or anything, though I know they talk. He is pissed off at me for snooping on his phone (its happened before...I know I shouldn't but why do I always find something incriminating). He told me its just a joke, and he is always joking/flirty with women, and I know that so I should just accept it. I told him today that whether or not I know what his personality is like, I do not have to accept him saying that to other women, esp since our marriage is rocky right now, and I would love to here him say that to me. That got him even more upset, of course, and he told me that I can't tell him what to or not to do. He told me a few times that anyone he's talked to says that he should leave me because I didn't value his privacy and looked in his phone. I don't understand what the big deal is...I'm his wife, and he shouldn't have anything to hide. This has happened before, and I don't get how he has the right to be so mad at me when I found what I did.

2007-05-12 10:42:31 · 12 answers · asked by Ruby S 1

Me and my 18 year old daughters boyfriend have been lovers 4 3 years he is the best ever my husband and my daughter do not know what do you think of it .i am 40 years old

2007-05-12 10:32:10 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I think he is interested in me, but I know he won't say it first. What exactly should I say?

2007-05-12 10:26:54 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

hello, I finally got my ex-partner to move out of my house last year, after years of physical and mental abuse. The problem is that I still have a lot of his stuff in my house because he has no room where he is living to keep it. I have asked him several times to collect it as I need the space and he did say that he would collect it before 1st January this year but he didn't. Can I class it as mine now and sell it in lieu of maintenance or would that be classed as theft?

2007-05-12 10:20:31 · 40 answers · asked by mumof4 2

Guy: "What's really wrong?" [Translation: "What's really wrong?"] Gal: "Nothing, don't worry about it." [Translation: "Suffer for a while, because you should know what's really wrong."]

2007-05-12 10:16:55 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

does anybody know the address of getting married in downtown san diego can u guys give me the information thanx

2007-05-12 10:13:16 · 2 answers · asked by ♥ i L0VE U S0 MUCH ♥ 2

after 30 minutes or so of visiting your rents ? its like, " ok were cought up, gotta go, stuff to do"
adults, not living at home that have to travel there,

2007-05-12 10:02:46 · 8 answers · asked by smoothopr_2 4