My son didn't come home last night it has been 24 hours. He is an adult (over 18+). I would not not be worried if he didn't stay with me, because I would not know about this. I try to stay out of his affairs and I only give advice when he allows it. I was not home when he left so I don't know where he went. I am very concerned. This is not like him, he left his truck in the drive-way. He has been depressed. He has a drinking problem. What should I do?
2007-05-12 14:03:03 · 8 answers · asked by Busy Lady 2010 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have tried to get him into counceling and he refused.
2007-05-12 14:08:00 · update #1
He is over 24 years old.
2007-05-12 14:11:48 · update #2
Not much you can do. God knows where he is ask him to look out for him
2007-05-12 14:08:33 · answer #1 · answered by Krazee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, it will sound very silly, but it works for me when I've had a particularly stressful day or I am upset: First, I scream into a pillow about as many times as I need before my voice gives out. I simply imagine all of my stress and frustration coming out with my scream and filtering through the pillow. So much of relaxing relies on visualization. I literally scream as loud as I can into a very thick pillow (I wouldn't recommend a down pillow). When I have done that, I go to a quiet room(my bedroom), close all the shades, make sure there are no noisy distractions, and just lay down with my eyes open, on my back, and stare at one spot on the ceiling. I try to breathe deeply every couple of minutes, because if you breathe deeply too often, you can get lightheaded. When I am bored with that, I take a very hot bath with some lavender baby bath, which is a very relaxing scent. I soak for as long as I can stand it or time allows, then I give myself a few beauty treatments; I exfoliate my feet, rub lotion into my muscles, and do some simple stretches. After all of this, I have a cup of hot tea and do a crossword, which clears my mind. If I am still tense, I watch a movie, usually a comedy or romantic comedy, then I try to get some extra sleep. I also agree that meditating, yoga and prayer can be excellent relaxation aides, but I think you have to find a technique that is simple, practical and relevant to your daily life, your lifestyle and your home. Good luck and I hope that you are able to find some clarity, relaxation and satisfaction.
2016-05-17 03:53:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son has a very dangerous problem. When a person has a problem that is this dangerous they need someone who will stand there ground and not enable them to make these choices. It is hard for a mother to tell her grown son no however this is your house and he needs to go by your rules in your house. Rule number 1 is never ever make your mother worry. Rule number to when it doubt see rule number 1. The other thing you need to follow is your own instinct. Your mothers intuition needs to be followed. All mothers have this I know because I have 6 boys. My oldest is 19 and my husbands son is 35. When our 19 year old brought home some wacky weed I got my Louisville slugger and broke everything we ever bought him. His computer, Ipod,guitar,and all other electronics that made his life easier. Now he has nothing. We closed his checking and savings account and now he has a prepaid check card that I control and he has no access to cash. I know what when and where he is buying something. That was the first time. It was over a year ago and we to this day have sent a message. It is our house and you are our child. We are not your friend, we are your parents.
Calm down, think things out, check phone records and start calling his friends. Once you know he is safe, lay down the rules. My prayers go out you.
2007-05-12 14:32:47 · answer #3 · answered by flateach33 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is ok for us to tell you to do not worry because we are not feeling the pinch of your shoes. That is your own flesh and blood. The best thing to do is to pray and ask the Lord for guidance and strength.
Call the police and give them the information. If he does come back try taking him for counseling but first talk to him and let him know that he has to change. This is putting undue stress on you. If you are not careful you will suffer with stress or something else.
2007-05-12 14:21:25 · answer #4 · answered by Highly Favoured 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay if it were my child I'd start by calling his cell if no answer I'd call his friends if nothing turned up I'd call the hospitals and the police department if he's not in one of them I'd see what my options were. He may be 18 but he should respect you enought to tell you if he's gonna be gone. I'd do it to my husband and definatly my kids. I love them and them getting angry over it would be my last worry. As far as ways to calm down don't know my ways of calming down wouldn't work in this situation...
2007-05-12 14:13:21 · answer #5 · answered by lyttledarlin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try not to worry to much and tell him the next time to call home so that you will not worry much until you know he can handle life.
2007-05-12 14:11:19 · answer #6 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
call his friends & see if they know where he is
call his cell phone if he has one
drive around & look for him
call the bars & ask if he's there
PRAY
hope he is OK & get him to AA , asap
2007-05-12 14:12:56 · answer #7 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can get some anti-anxiety meds. from your Dr. They do work.
2007-05-12 14:15:25 · answer #8 · answered by Irish 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋