I have been w/o the same man for 13yrs we seperated for4yrs in between there where I conceived a child and he gained a marriage. We've been back together for the past five years. He barely works and he doesn't seem as if he is pushed to get a divorce from his wife whom he has been out of contact with for the past 5yrs. Tell me the truth even though he doesn't cheat cause he can't seem to be w/o me. What should I do?
2007-05-12 14:25:26 · 14 answers · asked by Kadija T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dump him and work on yourself. Learn to love yourself and expect the same in return. Run, don't walk as fast as you can from this relationship.
2007-05-12 14:29:10 · answer #1 · answered by Dance 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would leave if it were me. Especially since he doesn't work much. Maybe he will make up his mind if it's not too late then. The main thing for you to consider is you and the children. He should be working and helping you out. There is a reason he is not getting a divorce. I don't understand completely because I don't know enough of the story. From what you are saying I feel he has already made a decision to not make a decision. Now I feel it's up to you. Be prepared for your relationship with him to end, if you do leave him. This could push him to the edge.
2007-05-12 21:39:21 · answer #2 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cost Money for a Divorce that could be why!!! I'm sure once the both of them decide to remarry, they will have no choice but to get a divorce. Maybe there both waiting for the otherone to make the first move.P.S. she probably hasn't met anyone serious enough to marry her yet, but until then it seems like there waiting for the other one to make the first move.
2007-05-12 21:41:49 · answer #3 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and spend your energy on improving your life for yourself and your child. Love is an action word -- his lack of action (working, committing himself to you) reveals his true heart and the path your life will take with him. Write down your goals, your hopes and dreams and identify the steps and barriers -- then gather a support network of family, encouraging friends and community resources around you to pursue a HEALTHY life filled with true relationships and people who will build you up, stand by you, support you, and be honest with you. Great places to meet guys: Barnes & Noble bookstore, Airports, Churches, Golf Course, Bowling, dance lessons, parks, fishing, and places of interests - hobbies, art galleries, museums etc., avoid newspaper ads, internet ads, and bars. If a guy has friends that are nice that you respect and they respect you, and he seems to be liked by coworkers, have friends and healthy relationships with family members, that is a good sign. If not, keep looking.
2007-05-12 22:28:48 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
didnt remember why you got separated in the first place you had to try it again? sorry i dont understand your logic as we have been together for 18 years now . I dont say this often but really ,get some counseling .
2007-05-12 21:31:49 · answer #5 · answered by gands4ever 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
think of the reasons that you do broke up in the first place , if yo wernt with him for 4 years then he got married , then he went on with his life and you should go on with yours , you tell him that you wont ever be second to anyone , its first or nothing .
2007-05-12 21:34:07 · answer #6 · answered by dawn p 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him there's plenty of nice guys who appreciate a descent woman, maybe you just aren't looking in the right place.
2007-05-12 21:31:07 · answer #7 · answered by Ty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should support him for the rest of his lazy life,why make him work he may get a blister or something.Kick him out!
2007-05-12 21:51:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are expecting a lifetime commitment from this guy, you are out of luck.
He isn't going to commit to you.
2007-05-12 21:30:53 · answer #9 · answered by QT 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you ladies out there ask for equal rights and all that? Tell me how would you get it when you do not respect yourself.
2007-05-12 21:41:52 · answer #10 · answered by Dongfeng!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋