What should I do about a man who thinks his only job is work. I asked him today if he would help clean my house so i could finish dinner and he flat out told me again it isn't his job, he is the man, men don't do that.He use to help all the time but sense we got married he stopped. I am suppose to work 42 hours a week take care of our two sons and clean, cook, and well other things. I just can't do it all. He keeps trying to get me to quit my job but i can't i just made manager, and I making good money now, and that helps so much. I have been so busy trying to do everything else that i get so tired by the end of the night to do loving things with him. I am really stuck I just don't know what to do. Do I make him happy and quit my job even though it helps with bills so much. O r what.
2007-05-12 13:58:51 · 12 answers · asked by joseismyworld 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
first of all, NEVER QUIT YOUR JOB in this kinda situation because remember..work is on eof thig that u will need if your marriage don't work out...i've been there so it is my advice to keep your job at all cost.
second thing is..talk to him about it..tell him that it would be nice if he can help out. If he refuses still...well...cut down on his clothes laundry...his fav dinner making...when he will see this change..he will ask why..and you will tell him "what" exactly worng is...;)...then he'll learn his lesson..u are not a maide ok?
plus your are taking care of children at the same time
be brave you can do it!
2007-05-12 14:09:45 · answer #1 · answered by sweta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't quit your job. You need to tell him to help clean the house. Just because he is a "man," it doesn't mean he can just ditch you to take on every job in the house. He doesn't really sound like a man to me, anyways. A REAL man would be there for his wife when he knows that she's doing all she can to support the family. Tell him this, or tell him to get out! You can't take on everything- you're not SuperWoman.
2007-05-12 14:14:37 · answer #2 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not quit your job. Tell Mr. Manly that he can either help out or get out. Since you're making good money, you don't need him to be lying around like some helpless baby. Keep in mind that if you "make him happy" by quitting your job, you only end up trapped and miserable, and then nobody is happy.
2007-05-12 14:09:25 · answer #3 · answered by Jess 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Don't quit your job
2. Hire a maid to come in once in awhile
3. Buy a dishwasher
4. Get a sitter a couple nights a week and go out and enjoy yourselves.
5. Each of you should do your own laundry, otherwise wear dirty clothes.
6. Order pizza a couple nights a week (or any kind of take out food)
7. Do what makes you happy not always what makes him happy!!!!!
2007-05-12 14:20:10 · answer #4 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't quit. My hubby and I work at the same place on the same hours and we have 4 kids. I don't know what I'd do if he didn't help but I bet one of two thing would happen I'd have a iron skillet with many dents or I'd be divorced. My x didn't work or help and he was abusive so he got both.
2007-05-12 14:18:08 · answer #5 · answered by lyttledarlin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't quit your job.... Your going to need it when you get fed up & kick his a** out. I didn't know people like that still existed!!!!! Try NOT cooking dinner for him & NOT washing his clothes & NOT cleaning up after him. He will get the idea.
2007-05-12 14:04:08 · answer #6 · answered by texas tornado 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you cant talk to him like a person then you will need counsling but its going to be hard finding the time with all your scheduals . I suggest you get a part time maid if you can afford it . Dont give up your job if you dont know what your future with him will be.
2007-05-12 14:04:19 · answer #7 · answered by wishingstar5555 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try assembly up with him for a informal date and ask him...head to head quality technique to get reply. Give him advantage of the doubt til you understand for certain. If that had been his lady then she might have both requested "who is that this" or what the F***. If you name and continually get voicemail I might be worried-that would imply it dont wish to reply if she is there. what do you obtained to lose when you meet him for dinner?
2016-09-05 18:23:06 · answer #8 · answered by herbin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit your job and take care of your home. When complains about something he wants and you all cant afford, tell him its not your job.
2007-05-12 14:08:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask yourself if he fully satisfies you despite his home maintainence. Trust me you wouldn't want someone w/o a job.
2007-05-12 14:16:17 · answer #10 · answered by Kadija T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋