ive been with my boyfriend a year now and right now i can make it.....but i want to know how long is the right time to wait...??? when its too soon???
2007-05-12 07:27:06 · 18 answers · asked by **PrinCess** 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When you heart feels ready ....u will know when the time is right personally i think you should date a couple yrs no rush... my opinion.
2007-05-12 07:59:33 · answer #1 · answered by Brianna M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to know the person you decided to marry and spend the rest of your life with up and down, inside and out. In every way shape and form. Well time is the only thing that could help that happen.
The time to get married is (if you have been happy all that time) is 3-5 years. There is no reason to rush into getting married, because people that do, always get a divorce. One year is definitely not enough. All you can do now, is enjoy eachother as free as birds. Never wonder and never get pregnant. It's really sad, but 9 out of 10 people that get pregnant before marriage then feel trapped into the relationship and then the cheating begins, the divorce follows and the children suffer.
Just enjoy your man right now and live life to the fullest. If you wait like they did in the old days, it's really rare, but it always worked. Good Luck
2007-05-12 15:18:45 · answer #2 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait at least two years, but three is better. Yes, there is a reason. I assume you want to get married because you are completely in love with your boyfriend. However, what most people don't know is that this "in love" feeling only lasts 18 months. This is the raw, lustful, can't get enough of you, need you all the time feeling. All humans go through this period of intense attraction because lets face it, if we didn't have this period, no one would ever find (or stay with) a mate. After that the "being in love" feeling fades away you are left with true unconditional love for your mate. Being with someone for two or three years allows you to experience that person after that 18 month introductory period when the real person comes out and the representative of that person leaves.
2007-05-12 18:12:11 · answer #3 · answered by lyricsop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the only one that can know when the "right" time is. Just don't let your emotions totally take over as you make this decision. This is a time when a good friend might be able to step back and see some things that you might too blind to see at the moment with your relationship. Your friend would be seeing your relationship from a different perspective and not be quite as emotionally involved. Good luck. I wish I had listened to my relatives when I was younger. They really were older and wiser I now realize. But, at the same time, don't miss out on a wonderful opportunity if it does seem right.
2007-05-12 14:40:12 · answer #4 · answered by Stipisit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've answered this question in the past and have basically always told people that if they are happy and in love it is hard to set a time limit on something like that, my wife and I were married at 19 and everyone said "oh, they're too young" or "It won't last". I'm happy to say we have now been together for 10 years and I love her now more than the day I married her. The real question is do you love each other? If there is no doubt in either of your minds then I'd say go for it.
2007-05-12 14:34:57 · answer #5 · answered by reed7403 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much time have you spent together over the last year?
Have you seen each other at your best and worst? The reason that is included in most wedding vows because anybody can love someone when things are great but the true test of a relationship is whether you accept each other at your worst.
Have you talked about all marriage-related topics?
Not a complete list but...
-sexual compatibility (fantasies, frequency)
-financial roles (spending compatible, separate/shared accounts)
-conflict resolution
-family plans
When you have covered how you both feel about the important marriage-related topics, and you are both ready to merge your lives, then it could be time.
Should you get married? Well, if one of you gets the urge to ask and the other one says yes.
2007-05-12 14:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by Matt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The important thing is whether or not the two of you have taken all the time needed to discuss the issues important to both of you.
I'm talking about things like children, sex, money, careers, politics, religion, philosophy, etc.
You need to get to know each other "warts and all."
If all you've been doing is dating, being on your best behavior and having fun, that's not going to cut it. You'll get married and have a very rude awakening within the first couple years.
Get to know each other.
That's the key.
2007-05-12 18:58:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
at least 1year before becoming engaged, then engaged for another year total (2) years.of course the variables. how old are you? have you finished high school? how about college , do you have a plan for life. do you have a job? do you go too Church?....marriage is a covenant relationship with God in the middle..take it seriously..pray and ask God for guidance
2007-05-12 15:57:21 · answer #8 · answered by citygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no "right" answer to that question. Every relationship is different. My husband and I were engaged after only dating 2 months!! You'll know when it's right.
2007-05-12 14:44:26 · answer #9 · answered by Jacob's Mommy (Plus One) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you know EVERY one of his little quirks and habits and you are absolutely certain that not one of those quirks and habits is EVER going to bother you during your marriage it MIGHT be the "right time".
2007-05-12 14:32:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋