yesterday, i found out that my husband and his siblings had a bow-wow about our marriage and his brothers strongly encouraged him to divorce me. so yesterday i called him and asked him about it and he told me that he was waiting until he can come by and get the rest of the things that he wanted from our place and then he was going to give me the divorce papers. I told him just to send it in the mail and that I would have them sign and he got upset and asked why I did not want him to come over and because I was so hurt I told him because I just rather not see him ever again. All he cares about are the material things that he wants from our home, he has already taken more than half of the house hold furniture, but he still wants more. I just want to get through this. I guess my question is will I ever recover from this hurt and pain? My husband still has not once admit any fault or taken any responsibility for his bad choices in our marriage and still points the finger at me.
2007-05-12 08:45:28 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do not let him remove anything else from the house until you cosult a lawyer. Yes, you will recover from the hurt and pain, but not if you're waiting for him to admit his fault in anything. Time will heal you. Good luck and keep your chin up.
2007-05-12 08:51:16 · answer #1 · answered by Jess 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you will get through this. I had nothing after my divorce, since he sold just about everything from under me and our young son. You get to the point where you just want out and the material stuff is just that.......stuff. You can start over again and be happy. If he were to take any responsibility for his part in the breakup then he would have to face himself and admit he wasn't such a great person either and his pride will not let that happen. My advice would be, not to be concerned about him, who he talks to, what he says, or does. It's time to think about yourself and what will make you happy.
2007-05-12 09:08:37 · answer #2 · answered by April First 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people loose focus when going through a divorce, that the things they argue about have nothing to do with the relationship, and those things become so important. I know it seams so hard right know , but if you get divorced, you don't want the stuff anyway, to Meany pain full memories, get new stuff, because its all replaceable.
Focus on whats important, your dignity and any possibility of saving your marriage.
2007-05-12 09:46:27 · answer #3 · answered by fstmx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not let him remove one more item from your home. You need to take of Numero Uno and not let him have his way with everything. You will recover and the day will come when you can look back on this and be glad you're no longer with that loser.
2007-05-12 08:58:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah uh in the divorce court settlement didn't u two list your marital assets and then have them divided evenly? the lawyers should have done this. and mailing the papers is a good idea. change your locks too. i understand never wanting to see him again. he is just trying to control the situation. don't answer his phone calls either.
2007-05-12 08:51:25 · answer #5 · answered by michelle b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not easy but try getting him out of your system.
2007-05-12 08:54:22 · answer #6 · answered by sholly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋