I get the state min in Illinois for child support and he is suppose to pay 20% on bonus money which he always hides. I have sole custody. I have not moved. He makes 73k and I barely make 17K. Now he wants 1/2 of the money it costs to fly out pick her up and fly her back. He did not have to move he chose to move. He does not pay for her extra activities, he does not EVER buy her clothes, school supplies or anything else. What are the chances he could win? Can I make him pay for my attorney fees? Could I get him to pay for the extra activities?
2007-05-12 09:33:04 · 10 answers · asked by carriesredhorse 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Who signed her up for extras?
It is wrong for him to ask for half, especially since he makes much more than you and it was his choice to move out of state. But who's choice was it for her to be involved in extras?
2007-05-12 10:44:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
These are all questions you need to be asking a lawyer. If he chose to move away then he has the sole responsibility of paying for his own air fares. If he wants to see his daughter, and considering how much money he earns, it wouldnt be a burden to him. He sounds like a real ********. Call his bluff....tell him if he wants you to pay half the fares then you are not going to, and then let him decide if he loves his daughter enough to pay for the air fares. Im not a lawyer, but if you refuse to pay for the fares, then what other option does he have? You dont have any obligation to pay for his air fares...it was his decision to move, so he has to take responsibility for that. I would also be speaking to the child support agency and tell them about the extra money he is hiding and let them follow it up. He is using his daughter as a tool for him to get out of paying money........what a jerk. I dont know if I would even want an idiot like that around my daughter. Obviously money means more to him than his daughter does. Or he simply may be trying to hurt you deliberately by saying all these stupid things. Of course you dont have to pay half of the airfares for him to see his daughter....thats his responsibility.
2007-05-12 09:56:45 · answer #2 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would recommend that you talk with your attorney and child protective services. Provide them both with the information and allow them to intervene. Abuse in any form is unacceptable, so very important that your documentation be accurate and precise. You have a better case in front of a judge if everything is what is in the best interest of the child. But do nothing until you speak with someone that can provide you with concrete evidence that will protect you and your child.
2016-04-01 08:25:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stick it where the sun don't shine..he is really trying it with you...tell him to take you to court. IF he does, counter sue for harrassment big time, go after $500K in punitive damages, get a lawyer who will take the case on a percentage of the take...you will win. He has NO leg to stand on, and do NOT allow that child to leave your custody..if he wants to visit, fine, keep it supervised at all times, or you will end up with a kidnapped child.
2007-05-12 09:49:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would definitely go to court over this. Find out as much as you can about his yearly income including bonus and take that to the judge. He may have to pay more and depends on both income as it if he would have to pay travel expenses. Generally that is shared from both parents. You might have to meet him half way. I would check into alimony
2007-05-12 10:09:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he has alot of nerve asking you to pay 1/2 of transportation costs when he himself does not pay for her extras . Who does he think he is . no he would not win i think he is a bluffer and a bully who likes to intimidate people . I hope your daughter does not take up this habit from him . Tell him to blow it out his horn .
2007-05-12 09:51:04 · answer #6 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to kiss your ***, you're not paying for anything and you'll see him in court first. Attend court if he chooses that route and ask for more child support.
2007-05-12 09:37:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i say to set a court date in family court. let the judge decide. i bet the judge will order him to pay more. and the costs of travel.
2007-05-12 09:38:40 · answer #8 · answered by waljac6108 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I’m guessing that you can read. Why don’t you get the original decree out and read it. That is where most people would start.
2007-05-12 16:37:44 · answer #9 · answered by jajls 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my ex pays for my whole trip to bring her
2007-05-12 15:08:50 · answer #10 · answered by *never give up* 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋