Please can you wives tell me if your husbands treated you the same and if husbands treat your wives the same. He (my man) is 31 yrs old and I am in my first trimester of pregnancy. I feel sick and debilitated from doing many stufff because of my constant intense nausea and vomiting. He asked me to go visit his friend and his wife, and I told him I feel ill- then he got mad at me and said that if I can't even make the effort to go to his friends then how will I go to Germany on holiday with him next month (a trip to visit friends and his siter and hubby) he then said sarcastically if I feel so sick then he won't let me come and he will go alone... he made the point of also then mentioning he will go on 2 trips for business (after he told me the last time he can't leave me and will want me by his side when he travels far for business) to taiwan also in the next 3 months and he will leave me alone home, he just returned 3 weeks ago from China on a business trip.Give opinions please..thanx
2007-05-12 05:11:36 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't agree with the embittered person who called me "whiney baby" ... you cannot be bitter because I have a man and you do not. I feel for you, but please stop being super-critical about others!
2007-05-12 05:31:31 · update #1
You need to get marital counseling.
2007-05-12 05:14:26 · answer #1 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he i s a bit surprised that you just can't "suck it up" and get on with everything that he wants to do "just" because you are carrying a little bundle. If he thought having a baby was not going to change things (now and latter) he was just naive. (typical male, unless you married a doctor) When he starts with his "I won't let you come" crap just stay calm (difficult I know) and tell him "whatever do what you want, I know what my limits are) Time to bond with your sister/mother/girlfriend, men just don't get it. If you think it is bad now, just wait until the little bundle arrives! You hubby won't have a clue as to where his place in the family is. Men really are big babies themselves and really do hate not being in the lime light and getting their own way. By the way after the first tri semester you should be done with the up chucking so that Germany trip just may be back on.
2007-05-12 05:21:50 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you have some family of your own nearby, sounds like you're going to be traveling down a very rough road for a long time.
You're pregnant, he's being a jerk. What's going to happen after you have the baby & he's gone on "holiday" or business trips for 3 wks. at a time. Sounds like you've jumped the gun on marriage & babies with a guy who's not ready for that yet.
Tensions are only going to get worse. Marriage counseling would be ideal, having family of your own you can rely would be better.
Good luck to you.
2007-05-12 05:23:06 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Emily1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally feel for you. Men do not understand what it is like to have a live being growing inside of them. Though it is the best miracle in life, you feel like total crap. He needs to worry less about his trips and more about his family. Sounds like he is a way from home alot, which means he doesn't have to deal with the daily responsibilities of being a husband and soon to be father. Hopefully his priorities will change when the reality of having a baby sets in. Good luck to you. Things have a way of working themselves out..Congrats on the baby..
2007-05-12 05:24:40 · answer #4 · answered by DarkStar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 07:18:05 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This does happen... pregnancy is a big test of a marriage. I recommend counseling together, if he will agree. If he will not, go alone, it will give you a consistent person to bounce ideas off of, get ideas from, and to get support from.
Good luck. Take care of you and your little one. Life is such an adventure.
2007-05-12 05:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a twenty eight year old husband of two children. All men including myself will probably never be sympathetic about your feelings, because we do not have the hormones for such behavior. But if this is your first child then he will soon see what you are talking about come labor time.
2007-05-12 05:20:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
He sounds like a low life scum ball. Divorce his sorry a s s and collect a fat alimony check and child support check. Anybody who abuses a pregnant woman should be in prison.
2007-05-12 05:22:30 · answer #8 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your being a whiney baby about the whole thing. dont foreget about us out here who are preg and the babies dad completely abandon us and wont asnwer the phone and were doing the whole thing alone including working/paying bills and all that, with no father for our kids. quit being such a baby and be glad for what you have.
2007-05-12 05:26:23 · answer #9 · answered by lady26 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well.........he got you pregnant. The nausea will go away. I think you do need to seek martital councel before that baby is born.
2007-05-12 05:21:06 · answer #10 · answered by jmom 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋