Marriage & Divorce - 3 May 2007

I LOve my wife - She is my friend, lover, my partner. However, she is the biggest slob in the history of time. It is almost as if she does not even see the filth, and it is driving me insane.

Example - She wanted to organize/clean/arrange the basement, and would get upset if I tried to help. She has been trying to clean the basement for 4 years now, I finally went down there, threw everything out & washed what was left.

Dirty dishes are completely invisible to her. Food is left drying on the stove overnight.

Don't tell me I need to help - I already do, plus I work 14 hours a day, plus I take care of the bills. She does not work - All I want is a clean house - I am at the point of blowing my stack - HELP!!!

2007-05-03 08:06:24 · 23 answers · asked by John Q Harris 3

If someone told you that you look too young to be married?

2007-05-03 07:48:29 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

He kept lying for months about his divorce, detailed lies that were so elaborate it's as if he played the whole scenario out in his mind. Something about it just didn't settle well with me, so I pressed further and found out the truth...No divorce in progress! I feel so manipulated and hurt. Why can't he admit he made this up just to get my reaction?

2007-05-03 07:43:49 · 17 answers · asked by Perplexed 2

I'd like to show/tell him how proud of him I am. He's been thru some very rough times (divorce, moving a lot, death of loved ones, mental and physical abuse, not from me of course!!) and I want to tell him how well he's turned out after all he went thru!!! He's the 1st one in family to go to college!

2007-05-03 07:41:41 · 5 answers · asked by ♥bigmamma♥ 6

2007-05-03 07:40:38 · 10 answers · asked by donnelly_1925 1

2007-05-03 07:40:35 · 5 answers · asked by lisa f 1

I mean, if every gay person alive got married it would only be a 10th of the people getting divorced, right? So why all the attention on the gay thing?

2007-05-03 07:39:06 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I hate my sister for cheating on her husband. They are now divorced. Her lover is a conflict of interest for our family business. She is disruptive at work because she does whatever she wants with no regard to fellow employees. I know that she is looking for a new job but she is so dishonest about everything that she doesn't have the decency to let my Father know her plans. This business is 30 + years old and was supposed to be for the both of us. She would rather lose her inheritance and be with this creep. By the way this creep is only a few years younger than our father and looks like he could be Jaba the Huts twin brother. My sister is beautiful. I don't understand how an outsider can come in and ruin 2 families. I don't understand how she can be so easily swayed by someone she barely knows and shut all of her family.

2007-05-03 07:38:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just found out my husband is using meth. im leaving this weekend with my kids. does anyone have any suggestions on how to encourage him to go into rehab? ill have emergency custody but im afraid my kids may eventually have unspuervised visits with him. it is so scary. but for now my kids and i will be away from him and safe from his violent mood swings and the drugs in his garage office.

2007-05-03 07:37:54 · 5 answers · asked by breezzstar 1

we live in New Jersey and have not lived together in 8 yrs. He has an addiction problem and is institutionalize most of the time. i also have proof of physical abuse.

2007-05-03 07:30:14 · 18 answers · asked by c r in little falls 2

I know you aren't supposed to do this and it only hurts the marriage even more but... have you ever done this and not meant it?

2007-05-03 07:10:35 · 14 answers · asked by Nina Lee 7

2007-05-03 07:00:52 · 26 answers · asked by Lily P 3

is it bad to blow after your married?

2007-05-03 06:48:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have my daughter 3 nights one week and 4 the next i've sighned over the house to the ex to keep our daughter at the same school. does anyone know were i stand on weather i still have to pay for my daughters up keep when she is with the ex and not with me

2007-05-03 06:38:03 · 23 answers · asked by DOROTHY M 1

2007-05-03 06:35:19 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous

We've been married for almost 6 years and have one 2 year old daughter. I'll admit our first year was more than rocky. Getting used to each other was tough because we had never lived together. The last couple of years have been the best of my life. My husband is a successful business owner, we moved into a brand new home and I am a stay at home mom to our baby. I've been happy...extremely happy. After an argument over something very petty yesterday he decided to say that he may not want to be married anymore. He said he's not sure. He wants to go to counseling. I am devastated. This came as a huge shock to me. How do I go through each wondering if today he'll decide to end things? I feel like I'm in limbo and that I can barely function because I don't know if I have a marriage or not. He said I need to relax and we will work through it. How can I relax if our marriage is potentially ending? I called a lawyer for advice but I don't even believe in divorce. I love him.

2007-05-03 05:59:37 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

My gf is 5 months pregnant and she broke up with me and I had no clue anything was wrong. I was happy with the pregnancy and wanted to get married and two days after she discussed marriage is when she told me she needed time to think and then broke up with me 2 days after that. Well we are talking now and I want to be a family together. I already had a ring and every thing and she knows it now. Well I met her to give her a gift I had bought her and we talked for a little while and it was good. Well I asked if we were ok and she said we had a lot to work on. But she also said she wanted to be married before the baby was born and asked when she would get the ring. I then asked if she would come over to spend some time with me the next week and she said it depends on how things go when we talk Friday. She said she is making a list of things to discuss and I made a list to. But her words confuse me is all. It sounds like she wants marriage but it sounds different to. Help me with this one!

2007-05-03 05:53:00 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have been married 10 years, and I am his first. He is my.... well, he's definitely not my first. I enjoy sex, and we are together at least 3/4 times a week. My problem is that he is turned off, or grossed out at how wet I get. He says stuff like, why are you so slimy. Is there anything I can do to help him enjoy it more? I keep a cloth with me during the act, and am constantly having to wipe, to make sure I am very dry, so he doesn't feel disgusted. I want to be able to enjoy this part of me with him. Any suggestions???

2007-05-03 05:33:10 · 48 answers · asked by sarah h 1

2007-05-03 05:29:51 · 10 answers · asked by smitty 1

me and my fiancee are working together at a call center and sometimes i feel like its not a good idea to be working with him since we already spend a lot of time together. what would you do in this situation?

2007-05-03 05:22:25 · 14 answers · asked by out of control 1

i have almost given up on men cause they either cheat or married and some don't want a commitment how do you find love these days when you haven't dated in a whiledue to the fact you were married and now widowed

2007-05-03 05:21:43 · 19 answers · asked by wounderwoman44 3

i had a baby 17 months ago and i still havent got my sex drive back infact scince i had my son me and my husband have only had sex once i really need some help please sumone

2007-05-03 05:02:50 · 17 answers · asked by charlotte s 1

Since I got some good feedback on watching porn, what are some different ways to spice it up in the bedroom?

2007-05-03 05:02:07 · 16 answers · asked by Badabing 1

Now our story is rather complicated. we been together 5 years & 4 kids. the oldest is not his but we had 3 together. anyway he has never worked any real jobs, but since we have been together and had the babies I have been the one working everyday, while he stays home with the kids wich was good for us up until we moved into a bigger house wich obviusly cost alot more ($1400) a month for rent. plus the van payment ($300) a month. car in surance is also $300 a month. now we also have to pay for heat,hot water,garbage removal,and every other expense you think of. my monthly in come does not cover this. he has a roomate living with us to help out on rent, wich in my opinion is a way out of him paying. It has come to the point were i can not do it alone anymore we are falling into debt bad
we absolutly love each other to death but our relationship is crumbling, fighting everyday because of bills, he knows that he has to work but getting him there is hard what do i do?

2007-05-03 04:58:30 · 35 answers · asked by A Proud Marine's Daughter 3

My fiance and I watch porn almost everytime we have sex, is it normal to always have it on?

2007-05-03 04:50:17 · 12 answers · asked by Badabing 1

Should your partner show you a little jealousy once in a while? My husband is not jealous at all, which is good, but sometimes he makes me feel he doesn't care at all about what I do. Nothing worries him...could it be that he doesn't love me enough?

2007-05-03 04:38:14 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

...ex calls to talk about getting the kids this weekend, when all the sudden he gets quiet and says, "I love you..." then silence. I thought he was talking to someone else (maybe the new girl?) he was still quiet and I said "who, me?" "yes...I mean cause your the mother of my children, and ya know just in a Christian way...I mean I care about you, ya know." OK, so is this weird or what??? HE left me, said he never really loved me...so is he just saying he cares because we'll always have to deal with each other (bc of kids) or what? We've gotten along rather well since the seperation, bc of the children, but to just come out and say this now...it's throwing me for a loop! what do you think?

2007-05-03 04:21:52 · 17 answers · asked by Lisa Bee 3

I like almost everything about him but the sex part. Please help

2007-05-03 04:17:09 · 36 answers · asked by anonima 1

I"ve been married almost a year, and I've known my in-laws for the same time. I've always sensed he didn't like me, but my husband always said I interprete too much.

But after I caught him mockimg me, do you think it is now SERIOUS?

My hubby cannot accept his brother is faulty, and he didn't react now that I've been warning him almost a year. I'm hurt, bcoz he is not concerned about my feelings. Now he is saying what I want to hear, bcoz I've been on his back with the subject and crying a lot....

2007-05-03 04:13:57 · 24 answers · asked by She-whom-shall-not-be-named 4

My husband has been cheating on me since June of 2005. With the help of the advice from people on yahoo answers, I was able to pull myself together and leave him. I have moved to another city but sill have several items in the house. I want to get these items, but my question is--Do I need to call the sherriff of the police to escort me? My plan was to move out of the house during the day while he was at work. The house is in his name and it was purchased before we got married. We are still married and I have not filed for divorce or legal seperation. I just want to move all of my items out of the house before I file, he can be vendictive, he has already shut off my cell phone on monday evening and installed a local alarm on the house (it just makes a sound for about 5 minutes, it does not alert the police or anything). As of last week, he has not changed the locked on the house, but I am afraid he might try to do that. I only want my personal bleongings. What should I do?

2007-05-03 04:13:09 · 13 answers · asked by Cassie 2