We have been married 10 years, and I am his first. He is my.... well, he's definitely not my first. I enjoy sex, and we are together at least 3/4 times a week. My problem is that he is turned off, or grossed out at how wet I get. He says stuff like, why are you so slimy. Is there anything I can do to help him enjoy it more? I keep a cloth with me during the act, and am constantly having to wipe, to make sure I am very dry, so he doesn't feel disgusted. I want to be able to enjoy this part of me with him. Any suggestions???
2007-05-03 05:33:10 · 48 answers · asked by sarah h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what the hell...? and he is turned OFF by this?
women get wet...and EXTRA wet....when they are turned on...so that is just weird that he's turned off by that..
if i where you...i'd tell him: "well, if YOU think this is too wet...you can go down there and clean it up!" ...you KNOW what i'm saying girls!
2007-05-03 05:39:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
Something is definitely wrong with your husband if he thinks that is a turn off. There is nothing wrong with you and you shouldn't have to keep a cloth with you during sex. You can't even enjoy yourself because you are too busy worried about how he feels. I find this to be very strange because most guys, apparently not yours, would think that there was only a problem if the woman didn't get wet at all, not that she is getting TOO wet! He should just enjoy the feeling...
2007-05-03 05:56:42 · answer #2 · answered by benz s55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that seems kind of petty on his part. What is he OCD? Wet is a very good thing and will serve you well as you age, because you'll lose some of that over time (a lot of more mature women have a problem with dryness).
I think you need to tell him that this hurts your feelings and that it's not something you can control; it's just how your body works. Tell him that you enjoy being with him so intimately, but if he makes you self-conscious that you will eventually rather avoid feeling this way, which means you'd be with him that way less. I think he'll stop making those comments pretty fast. Besides, it's not slime, it's what you're body's supposed to do. If you weren't wet, it would hurt. Then you wouldn't want to have sex at all.
He should be grateful that you are not one of the rare minority of women that ejaculate (that would really freak him out!).
2007-05-03 05:46:50 · answer #3 · answered by Dino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I have never heard of a man having a problem with this. Its usually the other way around. I'm sorry but there is nothing wrong with you. Its a very natural thing that your experiencing and very strange that your husband has an issue with it. Let him know that if you were not turned on by him then you wouldn't be so aroused and that he should feel like " THE MAN" not grossed out.
My only suggestions would be if your using any kind of lube then stop because you prolly don't need it. Other then that your a women and cant control your body. Unless he completely turns you off your gonna have this problem. Sorry and good luck to you!!!
2007-05-03 05:52:42 · answer #4 · answered by Kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to believe that you have sex with him 3 to 4 times a week if he is "that" disgusted. Assuming you do though, I would tell him that you get that way because of how he makes you feel. Build up his ego a bit. Let him know that he is special and not just anyone could make you feel that way. One thing to consider is the nature of the "wetness". If this is your natural lubrication due to excitation then that is fine, but if you have some kind of discharge (with possible unappealing odor) then perhaps "that" is what he is really referring to. Ask your gynecologist if there might be a problem. He might be able to shed some light. Hope things improve.
2007-05-03 05:48:53 · answer #5 · answered by jimkirktrek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.....I have that same "issue" (I won't call it a problem) and my husband loves it because he knows that he is the reason for it. Too many women have a problem with dryness, which makes it uncomfortable, and can cause more problems. It has absolutely nothing to do with how many partners you have had....it is just your body, over which you have no control. Explain to him that it isn't "slimy", it is WET, which is what he needs to dive right on in! Maybe a sex therapist might help him understand your body better ~ I am sure he would choose Niagara Falls over the Mojave Desert!
2007-05-03 05:42:03 · answer #6 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I have the same Wetness but my guy likes it! So for your keep a cloth with you its ok! YOUR wet because he is doing his job! and that is good do what you have to do for your man and make dry! Do the Wipeing when change positions He would enjoy that! Good luck!
2007-05-03 05:48:06 · answer #7 · answered by Ms Gia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damned if you do and damned if you don't most men would get pissed or disgusted because you aren't getting wet at all and here you are clearly attracted to and turned on by your husband and yet he still has found something to complain about that just adds to the theory that men are idiots not calling your husband an idiot and not by far calling all men idiots because my husband is great but he is still a man and they do and say stupid s h i t If you weren't getting wet he would start accusing you of not being attracted to him God love him you can't live with em' and you can't kill em' damn what a shame
2007-05-03 05:44:02 · answer #8 · answered by mrsknowitall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does he think vaginas do when a man is doing the right thing in bed??? He does not get it does he?? After 10 years he may never. Have you explained to him there would be a bigger problem if he could not arouse his partner?? That atleast he knows you are not faking it?? Or how much it can hurt a woman to have intercourse without lubrication???
2007-05-03 05:51:09 · answer #9 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol, See I have to agree with the guy that wrote "marry me" above. My husband is the total opposite of yours. That is just a sign that you are really into it and he should be flattered, not disgusted. I'm suprised that his nagging hasn't caused a problem with your..."flow" if you get my drift. If at all possible, don't get into it or turned on at all the next couple of times you have sex. Show him what a frigid woman is like and he'll be so happy to have you back.
2007-05-03 05:43:01 · answer #10 · answered by flowerbug26 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Good grief...the wetter my wife gets the more fun I have. It shows me I'm doing things right and that her body is enjoying the sensations. Like someone else mentioned earlier, your hubby needs to be educated about human sexuality and how the body responds. He comes across (the way you have written) as being rather selfish as far as we are concerned. After 10 years of marriage..he complains about this? Sheesh!
2007-05-03 06:19:27 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋