i had a baby 17 months ago and i still havent got my sex drive back infact scince i had my son me and my husband have only had sex once i really need some help please sumone
2007-05-03 05:02:50 · 17 answers · asked by charlotte s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You may be experiencing postpartum depression or you may simply be exhausted with a new baby. You need a reliable babysitter then an evening out, preferably at a hotel, for some alone romance time.
2007-05-03 05:06:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off congradulations on the baby. Second this is really normal. I am not a doctor or anything but... I had a miscarriage and it took me a REALLY long time to come back from that.
Do something for yourself to make yourself feel better... You have spent so much time being a mother and a wife you probably haven't spent a lot of time on you.
Go out, get a hair cut, buy a new outfit, have a date night and the best advice I ever got is, make a point to have a 10 second kiss EVERY day, make the time... it is 10 seconds. It makes you feel more connected and makes you feel good.. it is good for your marriage.
This isn't about sex drive, it is about self esteem most of the time. You need to feel beautiful within yourself and then you can make yourself feel sexy and you will want to be intimate again. Try it out.. i bet it works!
2007-05-03 05:09:16 · answer #2 · answered by Interestedinknowing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband to help out more around the place, coz a tired women is a frumpy women (sorry about that, only way I could describe it)
My wife was constantly tired after our first child, but the more I did the better she became and she gradually got the Drive back. We now have 2 kids well, you can work the rest out ;D
2007-05-03 05:10:19 · answer #3 · answered by rusty_2003uk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooooohhh.....one time in seventeen months? Sweetie, something is terribly wrong there. While motherhood puts a damper on the libido of many women, it should not be a full on drought. I recommend talking to your OB/GYN about this. Likely your hormones are to blame....maybe they are low from the birth and have yet to recover. Blood work will give you the answer if so, and a few months of hormone therapy will fix that right up!
2007-05-03 05:30:01 · answer #4 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey...this is not a problem ok? your body/hormones are adjusting...i lost my sex drive after my first child...but it came back...hence another child after the first one....about a year ago i gained 2 stone and i hated the way i looked so that stopped me making love with my partner....i have lost the weight now and well lets just say that things are healthy again....it takes time hun....talk to your husband about this, he may need some re-assurance that you have not stopped loving him, having a baby takes the wind ou of you...thers never enough time for YOU when theres a baby on board....maybe you should go se your doctor also and tell him/her what's happening...
2007-05-03 05:11:19 · answer #5 · answered by Dazzlebox 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Had the same problem you need some time for both of you think back to when you first met . Take a day away from bay call mom or grandma.
2007-05-03 05:08:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing happened to me. I went to the doc and she told me that after you have a baby the nerves are stretched and it takes a while for them to get back to normal. Don't worry though, my sex drive came back with a vengeance :)
2007-05-03 05:23:15 · answer #7 · answered by motherof2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to go to see a doctor - you'll need to find out if it's a physical problem or a psychological problem. Don't worry though a lot of couples have similar problems after having a child!
2007-05-03 05:07:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
New baby and no rest time can cause this...take some time out and maybe a little get-away wkend for u & hubby can help.
2007-05-03 06:38:32 · answer #9 · answered by memyslf&I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know what to say. Mine dimished quite a bit after my daughter was born. SOmething you have to work at. See your doctor and see if they can help you out on this.
2007-05-03 05:45:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋