I like almost everything about him but the sex part. Please help
2007-05-03 04:17:09 · 36 answers · asked by anonima 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no chance. divorce now!
2007-05-03 04:22:02 · answer #1 · answered by Tadow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a big part of being married, but it's not the only thing.
not liking sex and still doing it won't ruin your marriage, but not understanding the reason behind not liking to have sex will. Did something happen in your past or as a child that makes you uncomfortable with sex? If so, you need counseling and you need to communicate that with your husband. You don't need to withhold sex from your husband, but if you're having troubles with it, you should feel comfortable enough to talk about it with your life partner, your husband should be loving enough to work through this. But don't withold it, It will only cause other problems. Everyone needs to have a feeling of intimacy with someone else. The wanting to be touched is in all of us. If you don't want to be touch and loved in an intimate way, you should have thought it to be worthy enough to have mentioned before you said I do at the alter. Please find help for yourself and in return will help you and your marriage. good luck
2007-05-03 05:25:07 · answer #2 · answered by mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation and I do think that your marriage can last. First you have to be honest with yourself so that you'll know exactly why you don't like having sex. Meaning, you have to determine if the cause is you or him. If its him...tell him exactly what's turning you off. Be totally honest but nice about it because you can easily bruise his ego if you do it the wrong way. If its you... again, be totally honest with yourself and find out how to change it. Like me, I realized it was a lot of reasons I didn't want to have sex anymore. For one, I wasn't pleased with the way I looked anymore and didn't feel sexy. So I had to start exercising and eating right. Two, being that we had been married for a while the 4-play changed. At first it lasted for an hour or two. Then it was only for a minute or two. So I had to be straight with my husband and I told him that if he wanted to get something out of it he needed to put something into it (literally). That was just 2 reasons but I hope you get my drift. Anyway, I hope things work out for the best but its going to take effort from the both of you. Don't throw your marriage away because of something that can most likely be fixed. That is if you want it to be fixed. Peace.
2007-05-03 04:41:38 · answer #3 · answered by Nia P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation, every other aspect of my marriage is wonderful, but I have NO interest in sex, at all. First of all, are you on any antidepressants, they and other medications can cause a low libido. Does he not take care of himself like he used to? If you can figure out where the problem stems from, you may be able to find an answer. Another possible reason, if you have ever been sexually abused, it may be a subconscious thing with you. I hope you find the answer to your question. My marriage has survived under these circumstance, hopefully your husband will be patient with you and help in finding out where the problem is. good luck
2007-05-03 04:25:35 · answer #4 · answered by livin'life 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No - no excuses! Intamacy in marriage is paramount. You need to figure out why sex is not good for you and figure out a way to change that. Is it something he's not doing that you wish he would? Is it something that you can fix on your own - such as maybe medically speaking? Communicate with your partner that maybe you could try different positions or include some lotions, etc., but DO SOMETHING!
The lack of enjoying the imtamacy in your marriage will cause you great stress and unhappiness & that will lead to bigger issues!
2007-05-03 04:39:52 · answer #5 · answered by martiek7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you not like having sex with him? or is it just sex you dont like? I have somewhat of the same problem with that with my wife and it does stress out our relationship. I unfortunately have to deal with it but it is very difficult as it is a big part of your relationship. You know, everyone says that marriage is a two way street so I would recommend you try as much as you can for the sake of the marriage! P.S. I don't know how you cannot like sex, its the best thing there is.
2007-05-03 04:24:37 · answer #6 · answered by borcap 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so cause sex is a very big part of a relationship if you dont like sex with him then your bound to go elsewhere. then he'll find out and you know what happens next. If you want it to work try to make the sex better. If it's his size thats the problem then i dont know what to tell you.
2007-05-03 04:22:03 · answer #7 · answered by Crystal M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is not everything in a relationship, but it is very important. You should try going to a therapist or something. Why don't you liek the sex? Is it sex in general, or sex with just him? You need to figure out what the problem is and fix it.
Good luck!
2007-05-03 04:21:12 · answer #8 · answered by Tammy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as long as you don't mind him having sex outside the marriage, but then is that a marriage? What don't you like? Seems like the 2 of you have a lot of talking and then hopefully practicing to do.
2007-05-03 04:22:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Sex is an important part of a marriage. You should find a way to enjoy it.
2007-05-03 04:22:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it can but that is more like having a roommate or best friend. IF hes okay with it then sure your marriage will last forever with out sex
2007-05-03 04:21:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋