Threatening Divorce?

Question

I know you aren't supposed to do this and it only hurts the marriage even more but... have you ever done this and not meant it?

It wasn't me. He said it but can't tell me he's 100% sure... do you know how tall that makes me feel right about now??
It's been said before but this time it hit me hard b/c things have been good... or so I thought... I just didn't expect it, that's all.

Answer 1

nope.....it's crazy to start threatening divorce; either you have both feet in the marriage or you don't; any talk of divorce means one foot is out the door......

oh, and threats of any kind are so immature....

Answer 2

Yes I have and he knows that I will file and we will be done. I only do this when I am really angry or upset over something. He just happens to catch the raw end of the deal. He knows I love him with a passion but that I will leave in a hurry. There is no point arguing and fighting and if it gets to the point that divorce is being brought up, time to call it quits, because someone just got hurt.

Answer 3

Don't threaten divorce. It only makes things worse. You open up a whole new can of worms if you don't mean. However, if you truly mean it - you need to say it and hopefully the both of you will want to get counseling. Don't wait until you are throwing the papers at hime to tell him - no matter what he does, your marriage deserves a chance.

Answer 4

Yes i have done it,, but this makes matters worse my 1st marriage i did this and that's exactly what happened, the power of life and death is in the tongue breath life in to your marriage and the one you love,, to say divorce is to breath death,, if you don't mean this then stop calling on it, cause when u do your predicting your own future and if you don't want this you could end up really hurt (feeling wise) in the end.
Good luck to you hope this all works out to me,, Divorce means death..it feels like it to when u still love that person.

Answer 5

I have not but a couple of different times my husband has said to stuff like" if this marriage doesn't work out ....blah blah blah...." or he said he was leaving but then we talk and he stays. the only thing it has done for our relationship is damage it. I always think that he may leave. I don't trust that he will always be there for me. I told him when he gets upset he has to think before he says stuff like that. It doesn't help at all only makes it worse.

Answer 6

That situation is a signal of very bad relationship;but not always is a true threatening;very often is used only to intimidate or to push a person to react and modify several aspects in the couple's life.

mentioning this very often,only damage the common life for the family.

Answer 7

I have never done it, but I think you need to bring it up to a spouse to get them to realize that there is a serious problem in your relationship. However, if hitting your spouse with the big "D" word does not make them want to work on your marriage, I think you need to seriously consider whether you want to be married to this person.

Answer 8

No. When I said I was getting a divorce the marriage was over.

Answer 9

That was my last resort threat, after he refused to change, refused counsoling, refused to acknowledge me as a human being... Finally I started saying I was going to leave. The first few times I didn't mean it because I truly thought he would change. Then one day I did leave, and never came back.

You never say it unless some part of you means it.

Answer 10

They don't take you seriously if you keep threating to do something you don't follow thru with. You have to decide if you want a divorce or not. If you don't...don't threaten with it or one day he may make the first move and file himself!