Marriage & Divorce - 6 April 2007

Okay, my husband left me last year and he said that he wasn't in love with me anymore. He came back a month later and we got back together, well now that we have been having problems for a about a month or 2, he left me again saying that he has nothing left for me and that he wants to be single. I also found his personal profile online stating that he single. He said bcuz I haven't given the separation time, that he wants to be single. Everyone is saying that he is stupid bcuz he is leaving a good woman. He calls and he wants us to be civil and friends, and he asks if i thought about him and i tell him yeah, then he says that he thinks about me too. Then one minute were better off friends, then other minute were separated but were not talking about divorce. He says maybe down the road we can get back together, then its whatever decision we make, it wil be for the best. How can I not let him run my life, someone said that the question is what r u going to do when he comes back to u?

2007-04-06 08:42:18 · 20 answers · asked by MovingOnWithMyLife..Your Loss! 1

He gets upset if he goes to bed and I continue on yahoo, but in the past, when he was watching tv and I went to bed, he didn't mind.

What do you think this is??

2007-04-06 08:41:25 · 14 answers · asked by MARIA 2

My wife early in the marriage abused me psychologically by making me feel worthless (like anything I did was never good enough for her), acused me several times of having an affair even though I never had the time or reason to, and pushed me away sexually. She eventually brought another woman into our bedroom, even though I was mostly allowed to watch & not participate.

I asked in the past if my wife was the one having an affair and most of the answers came back as "yes she was" in an e-mail and few postings.

So my questions would be:
1) Would you get a divorce or have an affair and just stay married?
2) Would you allow your spouce to be in an "open marriage"?
3) Would you ever bring in a 3rd party or go to an adult club?

2007-04-06 08:41:14 · 15 answers · asked by ? 4

my fiance and i have been going out for two years, i love him sooo much. He's perfect, sweet, kind, loving understanding and a genius in Columbia medical school currently doing residence at 24. He is goreuous 6'9, broad sholders, tan, black hair, blue eyes, in amazing shape. One problem he is a virgin, by choice philosophical/religous reasons.I lied to him and said i was. He is Catholic, doesn't act holier than thou and very understanding. A friend of mine dated him for a while she told him that she wasn't a virgin from the start, they were together for awhile, she said he was wonderful, understanding and always a gentlemen she said he said it happens, id be lying if i said i didnt wish you were, but love you and thats what matters, she wants him back and she knows i lied. Anyway, we were dating for two months and he told me I though he was kidding and said i was. its true friends told me, and i lied more i was scared. I love him so much. this week made me feel awful

2007-04-06 08:31:59 · 14 answers · asked by blondebabe24x 1

Your fav. position, or things that just drive you wild!

2007-04-06 08:31:03 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do men really enjoys TFing? I mean really!

2007-04-06 08:17:52 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-06 08:11:18 · 9 answers · asked by love u !!! 2

A few months ago my husband said he had a job offer, but it was in a very tiny conservative town, so I was not thrilled. He convinced me to give it a visit and we both thought the job offer sounded positive. Then the pay rate changed and we had trouble finding livable housing in our price range. I asked him to back out because what they were offering after looking at the housing prices and the schools, etc. things weren't looking too promising. I didn't feel good about backing out, but I thought it would be better than making a bad move. Too make a long story short he told me he would drag me there kicking and screaming and that I would like it there.
Now we are here, and I have had to deal with rats, termites and undrinkable water in a house I was wishy washy about but he fell in love with. I have really tried hard to get problems taken care of, exterminators out, etc. I've had to give up some of my old activities for this move. Am I justified in being angry at my hubby?

2007-04-06 08:06:52 · 13 answers · asked by l m 3

2007-04-06 08:03:28 · 19 answers · asked by you_don't_say 3

It's my 23rd Wedding Anniversary tomorrow, I think my husband has forgotten. I've been looking for an excuse to tell him I don't love him anymore and think this could be the perfect opportunity. How should I go about telling him?

2007-04-06 08:00:54 · 43 answers · asked by shady lady 1

In some states a married woman who divorces is entitled to 1/2 a mans assets and sometimes alimony when divorced even tho she came into the marriage earning 1/2 as much as the man and had no savings. I can understand this if kids are involved or if it was a long marriage but why should a man who has educated himself and worked hard at his chosen profession so he could earn more have to split his assets with a woman who has contributed far less to the finances of the marriage? Understandably if there are children involved or its a long standing marriage the assets should be split but i can see no reason why a man should have to give up half of everything he has saved and earned over his lifetime to a woman he may only have been married to for a short time.

2007-04-06 08:00:50 · 13 answers · asked by wolfman 6

i love two ppl...one has a gf...and one had me...help!!!

2007-04-06 08:00:26 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have been living together since November and he has probably washed the dishes 3 times. We have two sons who require most of my attention when I am at home, one is 2 yrs and one is 6 months, I work and go to school full time. When I am home I have to feed the kids shower them and myself, feed the little one a lot because I breastfeed, and clean and cook for us, and in between all that I still have to find time to do my homework to keep my grades up. How can I make him understand that it is not easy for me to do all of this alone, he cant even watch both of the kids while I shower! What can I do? When I am not home he just watches tv or is on the computer, meanwhile the house is a mess. Do you think this is right of him? His mom and sister are housewives so he wants me to do that as well but with his income we will not make it with me at home. Please give me some good advice....

2007-04-06 07:53:57 · 10 answers · asked by Momof2 3

I know just talking about fantasies is good for a relationship, but should you act? What if it involved another person? Is it okay if it is just the couple involved? Wouls talking about the fantasy help a relationship, or could it hurt it? So many questions>>>I look forward to your answers.

2007-04-06 07:49:17 · 8 answers · asked by redsox75_1984ws 1

How many times a normal couple after getting married can have sex? I understand that both have to work but what is the minimun?

2007-04-06 07:46:36 · 8 answers · asked by nenena 3

We have been together a few years, and I can admitt that for the first year or so I was a little posessive of him. I can say I was wrong for that, but lately a lot of evidence has popped up without me even looking for it. The most recent piece of the puzzle was a text message it went somthing like "I didnt work today, I called verizon" I didn't reconize the number it was sent to so I called it and no surprise it was a female's voice on the other end. He also has a second cell phone that I have found on 2 occasions. each time I confront him he says I'm making false accusations. what can I do?

2007-04-06 07:44:16 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-06 07:43:48 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

My partner and I are watching "Fire in the Sky" right now or at least he is, while I ignore it. He keeps asking me what I would think if he said aliens got him. I said, I would think he was either on drugs or had some sort of psychotic episode. Now he is angry, as he doesn't deny the posibility of aliens and says that if it happened to him he would have to lie so that I didn't think he was an idiot. I don't like that. I'd rather he tell me what's going on. The risk that your partner will think you are an idiot, but taking it always is part of marriage! What do you think?

2007-04-06 06:55:46 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I mean how important is it to you? Can it effect your marriage? Should it be overlooked? I ask because sex before my marraige was wonderful and after it is not too good anymore. It is too quick and feels like hubbie hardly puts any effort into it, therefore I rarely want to anymore. I almost feel like why should I bother if I am never satisfied. I have talked to him about but i wonder if i should still continue to tell him or just get over it and keep my mouth shut. Is it really big deal? Am I exagerating?

2007-04-06 06:46:25 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

Girls, if you found out that your husband had been having an affair, and the cheating rat told you who the other woman was, where she lived and worked, would you confront her? If so, why?

2007-04-06 06:41:48 · 36 answers · asked by friendly_funlover1 1

and why?

2007-04-06 06:38:12 · 19 answers · asked by dad 6

I don't want to take my husband's last name when we get married in a few months. I like my name and it is part of who I am. I also don't want to have to go through the ordeal of changing it with banks, credit cards etc. Also (not to be pessimistic), but I don't want to worry about having to change it back if we get divorced (remember, there's a 50% chance - I'm realistic). I think hypenating it is a pain and I don't want to. My family is making a huge deal about this. Why does it matter so much to people?!?

2007-04-06 06:25:23 · 58 answers · asked by C-Bunny 2

2007-04-06 06:16:22 · 22 answers · asked by Nila 1

I dont see how it negatively affects society. Who cares what they do. Homosexuality is one of nature's ways to slow down the population.

2007-04-06 06:06:59 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was in my husbands car today and found a movie ticket where he went to see on 3/20/06 during the day while I was at work. And the weekend before he didn't come home, he left Sat night and didnt come home until I left for work at 11am Sunday. Should I confront him, or let it go? For the past 3 weeks he has been keeping secrets from me and refuses to tell me anything. Am I waisting my time bringing up that ticket? I need to pack me and the kids and get the hell out of here but I can't because I don't make enough money and my 9 year old is still in school. How do you deal with a cheating husband when you don't have no where to run. How can I handle everything until I can save money? My husband acts like he wants to go out without answering to me and be able to come home with his clothes washed, house clean, and my legs open. Iam going crazy here. Iam ashamed to tell anyone that he had a affair. But I do believe I need serious help? Any suggestions? Thanks

2007-04-06 06:06:46 · 5 answers · asked by madblackwoman 1

Is this not enough for a family to live modestly, perhaps I am naive but I think a family should be able to live on 60K without starving, is it really necessary for that second income?

2007-04-06 06:02:58 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

Due to the feminist movement a lot of women are getting a college education(excellent!!) and earning more than husbands (1/4), however this has led to women having a harder time finding husbands(women are naturally wanting husbands who have at least equal earning capacity) and not having children(1/4 of women who earn degrees do not bare children) and waiting too long for kids(down syndrome, retardation, and much lower fertility).. Also women are suffering a lot of stress because they find it hard to be mom(natural role ) and career lady(very satisfying)..Are we better off as women or have we bitten off more than we can chew..Do you think the ladies who wait too long to have a baby(career) are going to be sad and lonely later on, or will careers be enough?

2007-04-06 06:00:43 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Just wondering if this is still done today and if you plan on staying home so long what will you do for a job when you re enter the labor market?

2007-04-06 05:55:01 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, my husbands ex is a controling B**ch! My husband has only stood up to her once since we have been together. The other day their 10 year old son was vomiting. 2 weeks ago she asked me what we do over here, becasue every time he comes home he is sick. Well, I told her that she should take him to the doctor because I think he has an ulcer. Needless to say she took him and then she called my husband, talked for 45 minutes and told him that his problem is me and my 13 year old daughter. That he does not like coming to our house and that she is taking him to consueling because of "the issues he has with me" Well, I think that my husband should stand up for me. He said that she did not talk bad about me. How can she blame me for his problems and that not be talking bad about me? He simply just listen to her, and for all I know he could have agreed with her. HE says he did not, but when he doesn't disagree, isn't that the same as agreeing? He would rather fight with me than disagree with

2007-04-06 05:46:40 · 10 answers · asked by Jackie 2

Is it too bad to have affairs? is it an anomaly to stop loving the person you made a family with? is it actually avoidable?
if so it is true that a lover is guilty for allowing a cheater husband committing adultery, why at the end he just gets back home while the lover is the villain here??? If it is the other way around, a cheater wife, most likely she will be punished or pointed at, the male lover will walk away almost with no charges as it is "his nature".
Does this makes sense or am I just talking from my very own perspective. Isn't this a gender issue also?
I agree that women should help each other, therefore not to allow cheating would be a good thing. I experienced it myself and doubt I will ever do that again.But is this a reality? should this be a rule or we just have prejudices and marriage itself is just wrong!?...
To my very weird (evil if you want) understanding, there are no victims here, no villains, and no innocent bystanders. Only "lovers", with all the responsibility the word implies.Any thoughts without prejudice here?
I know this question implies rocks coming my way, hope you answer without prejudice and a lot of honest thought.

2007-04-06 05:44:55 · 5 answers · asked by Acuarela 1