I was in my husbands car today and found a movie ticket where he went to see on 3/20/06 during the day while I was at work. And the weekend before he didn't come home, he left Sat night and didnt come home until I left for work at 11am Sunday. Should I confront him, or let it go? For the past 3 weeks he has been keeping secrets from me and refuses to tell me anything. Am I waisting my time bringing up that ticket? I need to pack me and the kids and get the hell out of here but I can't because I don't make enough money and my 9 year old is still in school. How do you deal with a cheating husband when you don't have no where to run. How can I handle everything until I can save money? My husband acts like he wants to go out without answering to me and be able to come home with his clothes washed, house clean, and my legs open. Iam going crazy here. Iam ashamed to tell anyone that he had a affair. But I do believe I need serious help? Any suggestions? Thanks
2007-04-06 06:06:46 · 5 answers · asked by madblackwoman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can focus on his actions or look at what lead up to his actions.
People who are truly happy don't hurt each other.
So you were NOT truly happy.
Why?
What happened?
Did you both start to take each other for granted?
Same boring daily routine.
The strong you are as a person the stronger couple you will make.
Your spouse is not responsible to make you happy.
We make ourselves happy and we share that happiness with others.
I know its hard, but take a step back and look at the big picture
2007-04-06 06:38:23 · answer #1 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It feels horrible to feel like you are trapped. As he is being secretive, why don't you secretly hire an attorney and get some papers filed that give you the residential home, temporary alimony and child support until the divorce is final and everything is settled? He gets served (suprise, honey) and escorted out of the home with only his personal possessions.
You are not stuck - there are options. Sit down and think it through and you will come up with a solution. You can't make him behave like a mature man but you can leave him behind.
2007-04-06 13:20:06 · answer #2 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, please don't be ashamed of what he did.
I wish I had an answer for you on how to leave. You said that you don't have anywhere to run to, but what about asking a parent, other family member, or even a friend to help you out for a little while? I know it would be hard, but, I feel it would be better than dealing with a man who is acting as he is. If that is definitely not an option, perhaps you can start planning and saving to leave. Don't confront him, don't let him know what you are doing. When you are prepared, leave. Perhaps your workplace offers free legal advice, etc., that you can take advantage of. I know some even offer money for people in emergency situations.
Once again...don't be ashamed. His cheating is not a reflection of you.
Best luck to you.
2007-04-06 13:18:20 · answer #3 · answered by Abby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take a day off work and / or get a sitter and spy on him. Catch him in the act.
He is cheating he has left all the signs.
Or you can confront him ...... ( make him think you know who it is)
and say....... I know you are having an affair ........ When were you going to tell me about her? I know you went to the movies and I know you stayed with her all night. So I think you owe me an explanation. If he denies it ......... Pack his Sh_it and throw it outside and tell him to get an attorney because the only F_cking he will be doing will be to himself for wrecking your home.
Good luck
2007-04-06 13:18:56 · answer #4 · answered by harleychickfatboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confute him! with evidence and inform him it's over if he doe's come clean NOW!
2007-04-06 13:43:34 · answer #5 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋