Girls, if you found out that your husband had been having an affair, and the cheating rat told you who the other woman was, where she lived and worked, would you confront her? If so, why?
2007-04-06 06:41:48 · 36 answers · asked by friendly_funlover1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I should add that the affair is now over and she knew he was married.
2007-04-06 07:28:46 · update #1
I would not. I understand that huge temptation to do so but what would you achieve. Perhaps this woman is a nice lady who didn't know that your husband was married - he has probably told her a pack of lies, "his wife doesn't understand him" bla bla - just like he has been lying to you. If the other woman was aware - do you think she is going to sit down and discuss it with you?. Keep your self respect. I hope you are going to leave your husband - he is the one you should be mad at - he is your husband, has lied to you and made you look a fool. Divorce him and forget about the other woman - she won't be able to help you. Don't do what a lot of women do and blame the other woman!! Good luck. x
2007-04-06 06:49:09 · answer #1 · answered by Bexs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing is to make a decision about our marriage if we are both willing to save it. I would confront my husband first and it must be his decision to end the affair. No use confronting the other woman if my husband decides to go with her anyway. But if my husband breaks off the affair and decides to save the marriage and if the other woman keeps on hanging on to him then I will confront her just to show her I won't take this sitting down.
2007-04-06 06:53:32 · answer #2 · answered by TWP_07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, the problem here is definitly your husband. I would definitly suggest counseling. Don't confront the other woman. What good is it going to do? It won't undo the fact that he cheated on you, it won't make you feel any better and it will just cause more problems (i.e. that home wrecker gets smart with you and you break her jaw, then you spend a night in jail). Work on your husband, and don't worry about that homewrecker unless she was a friend of yours. In which case you have just rights to beat her with her own shoe. HaHa
2007-04-06 06:47:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband cheated after 20 years of marriage. I already knew the woman and knew that she was the sort that would break up marriages and then move on to the next. I left him and will be divorced in the next couple of weeks.
As for confronting her, I havent, actually she left town after she dumped my husband. I dont think I would confront her because I dont want to stoop to her level. Trash is all she is and all she will ever be and I dont dirty my hands with trash.
2007-04-06 06:49:26 · answer #4 · answered by ncgirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all it is not her fault, if she didn't know he is married. Second, even if she did - it will hurt, if she tells you, sex was great...and I am sure it was...also she had feelings for him, of course...Do you want to hear all that? Also, if she cheated on you with her, he will probably cheat on you again. My advice: forget about confronting his girlfriends, and find out the way how to get as much money out of him while still married. Use his credit card and go to spa, buy yourself a brand new Dior boots, and look where to go on holiday by yourself...That's the difference between being married and just a girlfriend, you know, so use your advantage, and spend his money, so that he can't spend it on his girlfriends...
2007-04-06 06:51:15 · answer #5 · answered by Fuku 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure would! As a matter of fact, I did just that!
Why? Because I knew that I really didn't exist to her until she was confronted with a real person and not just a name. People get caught up in the adventure and secrecy. When it is exposed, it is no longer a challenge!
Do it!
2007-04-06 06:49:35 · answer #6 · answered by llou2u 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Possibly. Find out if she knew he was married, if she did not know, leave her alone, or atleast be somewhat civil with her. If she did know, by all means, yes I would confront her. I would stay away from her work though. I would go to her home instead. Be careful cause she could get you for harassment.
2007-04-06 06:47:32 · answer #7 · answered by littleitaly1377 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i would confront her. I could care less who it was unless it was someone I knew. I would tell the cheating ****...that she can have my loser husband because she's done with the relationship...and then tell my soon to be ex husband that he's made the worst mistake of his life and now will have to live with it...because i'm outta here!
2007-04-06 07:44:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say I would, but not sure. It would depend on the circumstance I guess. I am a very confrontational person, but in the end, she may be just as defensive as he, or she may feel like the bigger person and try to belittle me by telling me what a bad wife I am, which wouldn't help my situation at all. That's a toughie!
2007-04-06 06:47:30 · answer #9 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know if confront is the right term but I would definatly give her a call and let her know what he is married in case she didnt know and then I would tell her that she could have his sorry behind! Be careful though about making phone calls or visits, she could get you for harrassment.
2007-04-06 06:46:51 · answer #10 · answered by Crystal F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋