What's the big deal with allowing gays to marry?

Question

I dont see how it negatively affects society. Who cares what they do. Homosexuality is one of nature's ways to slow down the population.

Answer 1

Homosexuality has always been around. It's just more accepted.

The Holy rollers are the main ones with their cheeks in a knot over this. Quiet frankly, it's none of their business.
Marriage is a ceremony.
Commitment is made at the emotional level that no one or religion can de-value.

If they want to get married, then let them.

If the argument is about taxes or insurance, everyone is paying out the nose for it anyway so who cares?

Answer 2

Well, I assume you want to hear from people who do not agree with you, beacuse you asked to understand. If you want to know why I am against this, it is because it is a sin. God is very clear on that, regardless of how some people try to twist it so that it looks like God is just OK with everything, and people's attitudes are the real problem. If were up to me I would love the truth to be that everyone is OK, there isn't any real right or wrong, everyone goes to heaven, etc. But God is in charge and He says no.
I try to understand why, and I look at how He set things up and I see that marriage is not just about 2 people loving each other, it is also a model for teaching us things about ourselves and about Christ. The differences between men and women are good and there for a reason. I don't think we see everything clearly right now.
I don't believe that gays are evil and I am not a homophobe. I also know that we all sin and we are not to be going around judging people and then doing evil ourselves - we are all sinners. But in saying that, also we should not make sins legal and acceptable. Already we have made living together, sex before marriage, and divorce so common that people no longer see it as a sin. And we have to live in a society that no longer supports marriage and faithfulness and being chaste until marriage - that makes it hard to stay pure, stay married and raise your kids to get married and stay married.
In an attempt to raise my children by God's standards I do not want to live in a society that scoffs at His laws. Already we see this attitude that gays are normal and fine creeping into movies and TV and such. I don't want to watch a movie that has 2 girls kissing, or where one of the main characters has to be gay to make it seem normal. I don't want to have that be normal, because it is saying that it is not a sin. And soon the world will be more and more comfortable with the behavior and it will be everywhere. It will be in cartoons and Disney films.
I understand how most people will disgree, say that it is not a sin, how gays can't help it, they are born that way, etc. Even if you are born with a certain bent to a certain sin, that doesn't make it right. Some people are naturally violent and some are naturally drunks.
I'm not a racist - all people are God's children, but there is right and wrong.
If you want to be truly fair and say it is not a sin, you should also say that they should never have sex before marriage, because this is another of God's laws. The same standard should apply to all. So do you know any gays who want to be married who have never had sex?
I know my answer will not be popular. Please respect it anyway, because you asked for our reasons.

Answer 3

It is a big deal because no matter what the gay community's agenda is, homosexuality is wrong to a lot - if not most- people, whther it's "natural" or not. Marriage is a sacrament for the blessing and grace to be on a man and a woman to love, honor, respect and cherish each other and to bring children into the world - to raise them to be God-fearing and to follow the tenets of the Bible.

I certainly do believe that homosexuals should be allowed to do what they wish - so long as it doesn't hurt anyone - but leave the sacrament of marriage alone and call their union something else.

Answer 4

*I agree. I honestly do not see what all the hype is about gay marriage...I mean it's not "your" life, so people need to mind their own damn business.

*I don't know...these days it seems like everyone has a PMS issue with something that has NOTHING to do with them at all. And it is quite amusing....I mean the whole gay marriage bit, SO WHAT? LOL>...they are human just like everyone else in this world and have the same feelings and rights etc. just because they like the same sex, does not make them any less of a person than you or me. No matter how much people want to think so.

*I also think society has played a big role in the way people think about gay marriage, and they have the most influence on people. Because if they didn't make it such a BIG deal and overrate it and have all the mellow dramatics tied into it, then people might not be so frigid about it..or at least not as much.*

~~SO the way I see it, is that...it's their lives...leave them alone. And if you don't like their lifestyle, then get a LIFE and be a little more productive, and find something better to do with yourself and your time. And quit trying to terrorize someone else's life...because you don't have one.

**This world just keeps getting more and more chaotic and people just can't seem to get along anymore? What the hell?.

~Oh...and there is also that double-standard involved to on this topic..and that being: "It's okay for women to like women...but when men like men...OH NO...it's just WRONG!"

Haha...give me a break, did you know that there are women out there who actually get turned on by guy on guy action. (It's nothing new) and it's no different than guys getting all hot and heavy over two girls going at it. AM I RIGHT...yes I am.

**So everyone is entitled to their own opinions, okay...I get that...no problem. But this is mine. So accept it or don't . Either way I do not care.

Answer 5

technically its a union when gay people get "married" but anyways...

I totally agree with them being allowed to "get unionized" (i guess thats how you would put it).
The only reason its an issue is because of religion. But if my memory serves me correctly, religion and the state should not be mixed. Also I don't see how allowing it would negatively affect your religious beliefs. Its not you thats doing the wrong, so what are you worrying about? You're not going to praise God (or whoever it is that you praise) any differently because the guys down the street got hitched.

Its all around, so people need to wake up & smell the coffee because as sure as Sanjaya needs to be kicked off American Idol, like it or not, homosexuality is going to be around. Get over it.

I'm a straight female who just happens to be Christian. And from a Christian standpoint, only God can judge. I have plenty of gay friends & it doesn't bother me one bit about who they are. I accept that there are people who don't believe in the same things as I do, & so do the rest of the "Bible Thumpers" in the world.

Answer 6

I think to a lot of the population, if gay marriage becomes acceptable in society, it is one of the signs that we are all going to be damned to hell. It has a lot to do with the fear of God's wrath against all of us. To some it also cheapens what marriage is. Sex is the base of all intimate relationships, either heterosexual or homosexual, but in the homosexual union it is perceived to be ONLY about sex. It is hard for a heterosexual person to fully understand a homosexual relationship. It is seen as more of a sexual deviance that isn't natural. Whether or not it is natural, is still up for debate to most of the general public. This country has a hard enough time talking about heterosexual sex, let alone trying to explain something to our children that we just don't understand. I try not to judge anyone, but I admit it makes me uneasy to see two people of the same sex being physical with each other, like holding hands or kissing. It's how I feel. I can't help that. I try not to be that way, but it's been instilled in me my whole life that it is wrong. It has only been fairly recently that you hear so much about same sex couples. I feel sorry for them, because they can't have the same rights, as far as marraige, but I'm not sure if I back making marriage legal. I wouldn't be against a legal union so that they could qualify for insurances and what not, I'm just not comfortable enough to call it a marriage. It may sound silly to some, but that's just the way I feel.

Answer 7

It is more of a religious dilemma then anything because as it is stated in the bible it is a sin to have sexual relations with someone of the same sex. God loves us all though and he is the one who make's the final judgement on how you have lived your life. If a person is happy who are we to judge what they are doing. Really don't we have more important issues to discuss in society then gay's getting married how about healthcare systems around the world, insurance companies making money on the less fortunate, and what about world poverty and the homeless. What about Bush and all this
war crap in third world countries don't you think we should be more concerned about getting are friends, family members and spouses back from a country we should not be in to begin with? Really this question is over asked and we should just let people make up there on minds and how they wish to live there life.

Answer 8

I think it's just the word ' marraige' - it's a religious term and a lot of religions feel it would be abandoning God's word to 'marry' 2 people of the same gender.
Personally, if they want to go to the court house and have a civil union - go for it. They should have all the same rights as married couples - I just think it's kinda strange for gay people to want to stand in a church, in front of God, and ask him to bless something he very openly says he's not going to.
Let them be happy - I'm all for that - I just feel like the church would get struck down by lightening if they were 'married' there.
Maybe that doesn't make sense, but I think there's a HUGE difference between a legal union and a religious one.

Answer 9

This country was founded on christian principles and on the belief that God is our lord and savior. God is against homosexuality as it is unnatural and a sin. That is why people have a problem with letting them marry. I don't think they should be treated bad for being gay but I don't think they should force me to condone what they have chosen to do by saying, sure, get married, that's alright. As a christian, I can't say that to them because it isn't right and I will not recognize it as such.

However, not everyone will agree with me as some do not believe God exists and others believe he does but they pick and chose what they will apply to their life or kid themselves that today Jesus would see things differently. He won't.

Have a very happy easter as we celebrate the Lord rising from the dead.

Answer 10

Today if you can find love respect love and be happy together why not.There is no difference we all live breath laugh cry feel laughter and pain .We are al born to our destinies.We did not get to pick or choose who we are.we just are. Everyone is different that is what makes life fun.it would be so boreing if we were all like woulndn t it So live love and laugh And if you have a problem with gay people Get over yourself