Okay, my husband left me last year and he said that he wasn't in love with me anymore. He came back a month later and we got back together, well now that we have been having problems for a about a month or 2, he left me again saying that he has nothing left for me and that he wants to be single. I also found his personal profile online stating that he single. He said bcuz I haven't given the separation time, that he wants to be single. Everyone is saying that he is stupid bcuz he is leaving a good woman. He calls and he wants us to be civil and friends, and he asks if i thought about him and i tell him yeah, then he says that he thinks about me too. Then one minute were better off friends, then other minute were separated but were not talking about divorce. He says maybe down the road we can get back together, then its whatever decision we make, it wil be for the best. How can I not let him run my life, someone said that the question is what r u going to do when he comes back to u?
2007-04-06 08:42:18 · 20 answers · asked by MovingOnWithMyLife..Your Loss! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What he really wants to do is live the single life, while he keeps you on the backburner...just in case it doesn't work out for him out there. And he's doing all these at your expense. I think it's time for you to take charge of your own life and happiness and stop letting this man use you as a doormat.
2007-04-06 08:54:34 · answer #1 · answered by Maricel S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want him to run your life, then don't allow it to happen. If he is running ads as a single person, then let him be one. Giving the separation time has nothing to do with that. Get yourself involved with something you enjoy and shut off the revolving door. You can't come and go as you please and make it work. And stop stroking his ego by telling him you have been thinking about him. I'm sure that when he starts thinking that you may not want him anymore he will change his train of thought. I bet he could not handle the thought of you with someone else. You have more control here than you realize dear lady.
2007-04-06 09:01:34 · answer #2 · answered by doctdon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to look at the situation and determine what is better for you:
1) Keep going the way it is now where he pretty much seems to be "married" whenever it is convenient to him.
2) Tell him, no more. Ifhe wants to see if you guys have a chance at working it out, you both need to go to counseling together, and this means no more him going off and being 'single'.
or 3) You determine that you can live without him, and talk to a lawyer and get a divorce.
Personally, I'd offer option 2, and if not then do option 3.
2007-04-06 08:49:30 · answer #3 · answered by sirade1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems right now he wants his cake and eat it too, being he is putting he is single he may already have someone else but is keeping you just in case, sounds mean but just move on dear he is not worth the effort, would not play all these games of coming and going out of your life, and just go file for divorce and make his wish of being single true....
2007-04-06 09:04:31 · answer #4 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with those people who say that he is stupid. He can't possibly love you anymore, he just likes the fact that you are there. He wants to be able to go out and find the perfect woman for himself, but just in case he can't, he wants to keep you in his back pocket. Tell yourself you would be damned to let any man walk all over you, that is including your husband. Time for you get that divorce.
2007-04-06 08:49:15 · answer #5 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mature answer is to move on and get rid of him. He's bouncing back and forth for whatever the reason and it's taking it's toll on you. You deserve to find someone who likes you and who WANTS to be with you , not for them to be with you on their convenience or time, you know? I would file for divorce and get your ducks in a row so you can move on with your life. You don't need the headache and the energy it takes to 'figure" him out =) Good luck!
2007-04-06 09:17:35 · answer #6 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi let him go if you seem to move on he'll come running back for fear of losing you sounds more like he wants to play around and know your waiting for him!! Put your name on the same site and state your single lookin for fun etc !!!
2007-04-06 08:56:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your husband likes playing the field hon . get a divorce on mentaley crultley and get a life he is using you when tossed out by the others women . in my opion?
2007-04-06 09:31:08 · answer #8 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what he is doing is playing the field and when he can't find anything out there he comes back to you I say that is fine as long as its not sex involved.
As for me that is what it sounds like on his side try not giving into him that way and see how long he sticks around then
2007-04-06 08:54:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to just let him go. I know easier said then done, other wise do you wanna live the rest of your life like this?
2007-04-06 08:49:17 · answer #10 · answered by shorte716 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋