Marriage & Divorce - 3 April 2007

I am 25 & have been married for almost 6 years. We have 2 children. Got married because I was pregnant. It wasn't because of love. There was a time when I was in love with my husband, but the feeling was not mutual. Now almost 6 years later, he is so in love with me, but I do not feel in love with him. I met another man & am so drawn and smitten by him. So what do I do? Tell my husband I do not love him and chance loving the other man, or stay with him for the kids. I don't want to hurt him. It would break his heart if I told him.

2007-04-03 06:04:04 · 13 answers · asked by bad beauty25 1

I'm married 4 yrs & know my husband 7 yrs. We were v close & thot I found my soulmate & had a perfect marriage, so I concentrated on my career & worked late due to hectic proj schedules.

He started having an affair a yr ago with a woman who's 9 yrs older than him. The woman got pregnant & now they have a daughter. He has been holding off our marriage life cos of this & it has since been unresolved on both sides. He's been staying at his parents' hse. I've given him a lot of time to think about what he wants & yesterday, he told me he wants me back but need to break up with other woman fairly without making her feel that he hasn't given her a chance to prove that they could be together after divorcing me.

He asked me to let him fake divorce papers for her to see & give him another 6 mths - 1 yr to be with her & let her know that he still wants me back. If not, he said she will do crazy things to us.

I find this approach stupid & ridiculous. Should I get a divorce? I'm v fed up.

2007-04-03 06:00:51 · 27 answers · asked by marion_shelby 1

2007-04-03 05:58:31 · 12 answers · asked by rayray 1

My husband had a nonsexual affair (he called her up & started a relationship via phone calls & flirty text messages, then kept it a secret until I found out -3 months of this went on.) with his ex-of 10 yrs ago. How am I able to trust him again?

2007-04-03 05:56:14 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

All THis Romance We Do And Talk About I'ts Like You Went A Againist What Me And You Talk About As We Was Togerther So Don't Try To Butter Me Up Mr Vanilla Man It Won't Work Try Something Better Then That To Make It Up To Carmel

2007-04-03 05:51:11 · 8 answers · asked by michelle m 1

i just turned 29 last week, am a mother of 3 beautiful kids, 2 girls and 1 boy. i met my husband when my oldest daughter was 4 months and we have been together since. we got married 2 years ago on new years eve..it was something very small and plain.. this weekend he asked me to start preparing everything for out big wedding by church. he wants to get married next year in may..i just feel so weird because we have 3 kids. my kids got so happy when he told them that we were going to get married. my oldest daughter cried she said she wants to see me in a big wedding dress and that she and her brother/sister will be my flower kids...i told my mother about it but she was not to excited....should i proceed and start preparing everything or should i just stop we are legally married already but just not by church.....

2007-04-03 05:50:33 · 20 answers · asked by olive oil 1

My hsuband has refused to hav sex with me for the past months. When i confronted him he said there is not problem but i shoukld give him some moths till end of June

2007-04-03 05:48:32 · 12 answers · asked by fad 1

besides a weed-eater lol

2007-04-03 05:41:02 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-03 05:40:36 · 13 answers · asked by Brown Sugar 1

someone has to carry the shopping.i am carrying the car keys

2007-04-03 05:38:53 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

We met senior year of college and have been together for over a year. We live in different cities (100 miles apart) and see each other 2-3 times per month.Recently our true differences have been coming out. She is very logical, fact based, plans a lot, needs stuff to make sense. I am "feeling based", trust my gut instinct, happiness-driven, in the moment type of person. At first we seemed to complement each other, but now we have been fighting, especially over issues like money (she nickel and dimes everything and gets mad when she has to remind me to pay her back)(i think it all comes back in the long run) and thinks I am immature with leaving stuff out, toilet seat up, dishes in sink etc.We seem to have a strong bond for us to have stayed together this long, but is it too much of a sacrifice to deal with such different personalities? Am I being unfair to not change some of my ways?What is the best route to take here?Take a break to realize what we truly have? Beginning to be unhappy.

2007-04-03 05:36:35 · 14 answers · asked by Charles D 1

I am faced with a law issue. A wife sacrifices her education to work and pay so that her husband can go to school and gets his law degree. The husband graduates and finds a very lucrative job making over $150,000 a year. 15 years later, he cheats on her, divorces her and she is left with nothing. What is the wife entitled to in a state that isn't common law??

2007-04-03 05:25:47 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

HI ladies....Do small breast bother ladies?? If you have small breast do you worry about what others would say if they know, or seen them....Think about what men complain about with size do you feel the same about about your size.....and do you believe it when guys or your mate says size does not matters???? P>S> what is your size

2007-04-03 05:20:38 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

In my past, i was with someonelse and i then got married to my husband...I dont regret marrying my husband, i am happy but THEY say husband and wife shud tell everything to each other so i am struggling to decide whether to tell my husband that i was with another guy before i got married to my husband...I have left my ex...I hate him...But shud i tell my husband that i slept with my ex...?! I am worried that he will think differnently about me and not love me like he does now...
But i really feel guilty not being honest with my husband...!
Please someone help and tell me, give me advice on what to do...?!

2007-04-03 05:20:22 · 68 answers · asked by Nadi 2

I was in a relationship that had a lot of verbal abuse and was closed to turning physical. A friend of mine thats about 73 years old I started talking to, bought a house in a low income area that i found. He told me as long as he is alive i will not have to worry about rent. He comes around maybe once a month. He's a very busy person and owns a lot of property etc. He said when he dies to just start paying rent as if i have been paying it all along to his wife. He said he used money that was in cds thats would have gone to her after he was gone. My sister thinks I should get him to just give me the house and I say no because of the fact that i know his wife will need the money when hes gone. She is totally dependent on him anyway. What do you think? I have been in the house for three years now.

2007-04-03 05:13:40 · 26 answers · asked by Diamondbch 2

2007-04-03 05:12:32 · 16 answers · asked by lilmomma 1

...to a therapist...absolutely denies and if I take him she will take court action to stop me. We have joint legal and joint residential. Yet in previous email she tells me she will take him to someone and if I have a problem with it - "take it up with the parental coordinator". The parental coordinator is biased and gives her everything she wants yet will not mediate anything I want. She will not meet with me to discuss any of this - refuses. There is no DV. She constantly tells me waht she is going to do no matter what but if I suggest something she refuses everything. Any suggestions?

2007-04-03 05:11:09 · 13 answers · asked by RealEYES 1

My ex-wife makes my life so miserable. For example, the other day she left me a message "reminding" me that her support check is due on the 1st, and by the way, the 1st is on Sunday so I hope you're planning on dropping it off on Saturday. I've snapped back at ther in the past but she always gets "revenge" by pulling some BS stunt with my son, like scheduling soccer practice on my day to see him.

2007-04-03 05:05:30 · 28 answers · asked by me_on_360 1

I have heard of some married couples who don't allow eachother to see their finances. They have separate bank accounts and bills.

2007-04-03 04:59:33 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-03 04:55:59 · 18 answers · asked by lilmomma 1

if your husband lied many times to you than abandoned you while you were 7 months pregnant and than you found out he left to be with a 17yr old girl in high school but still wants to be friends, would you be friends?
I have to see him due to our child but he wants to buddy buddy like nothing ever happened. how would you act tourd him?

2007-04-03 04:55:16 · 20 answers · asked by I♥Karma 4

We had a very bad divorce and I know his family hates me. I know my kids need to go and I want them to go. The kids are old enough to drive themselves. I'm just not sure if I should go or not.

2007-04-03 04:51:51 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was wondering if it was just me, but are girls wearing clothes these days that show off everything God gave them. Showing cleveage and there T-stamp!!. Woman think guys are pigs for always looking at them, so why wear the clothes that don't hide anything. Do you like showing of cleveage, nips and your T-stamp?

2007-04-03 04:47:45 · 15 answers · asked by saucerossman1313 1

I was just curious if there are any married people (one person in the marriage) that chat online, even flirt, and it actually spices up your marriage or your sexual passion?

2007-04-03 04:33:06 · 22 answers · asked by ripped_2007 1

When do you know it's time for divorce?

2007-04-03 04:31:02 · 17 answers · asked by the man 1

I have dated almost every race of woman here in the unites states and I have to say that I haven't found any that are submissive and god fearing. Since the 60's movement of woman wanting to be equal as a man woman are too independent and dont want to lean on their man as he is head of the wife and christ is head of the church. wives submit to your own husbands in everything. I recently was divorced by a rebellious type woman that was more interested in pursuing her schooling and living her own life and decided to cheat and run off. My question is i am really thinking about marrying a woman from outside of united stated? Is anyone else having the same problems with American women?

2007-04-03 04:27:16 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Okay, so I understand the origins of the woman must change her name, but it's just tradition these days. I've been trying to decide whether or not I want to change my name. On one hand, I was told since I was a little girl "when you grow up you're last name will change when you find a man...blah blah blah" You know, the 'normal' crap mothers shoot their children with and then of course, my partner makes this silly face when I tell him I might take his name. I know he wants me to and would feel bad if I didn't. He said he was excited to call me Mrs. Whatever, but isn't marrying him enough?

My name is part of my identity. Why should I have to give that up? It's like losing a part of my self and like he is sort of absorbing me into the 'family name' identity. I know, it's just a name, but it's my name! I've had it all my life besides, I think it'll be a pain to go changing my name even if it just requires a marriage cert.

What did you or your partner do? Why? How did you feel?

2007-04-03 04:18:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

hello all,

my gf cheated on me a couple of times. she has now latched on with another guy from work.. she says she 'loves' me... but still has SE* with other guy?? i dumped her a few days ago but she wants us to work out and says she is working on her issues. the other guy doesn't wanna lose her for whatever reason.. he went to th extent of telling he 'loves' her and wants to marry her too.. she told him - 'u wanna marry me only cuz you don't want me to go back to my bf'.

my question: is this guy just trying to trick her so he has a good provider for SE* in the back burner or really wants to marry her?? he is american.. she is indian.. she is an attention craving person... thats how she very easily falls for other guys who give her attention.

what do you think?

2007-04-03 04:16:40 · 6 answers · asked by ? 1

For the most part (like 95%) my wife is a great partner and friend... and yet I can't seem to let go of petty stuff she does that bugs me... like for example... she says she is going to use the shower "right now" and so I wait for her to be done... and she doesn't get in the shower for 30 minutes... and I get bugged but I don't wanna say anything 'cause really, so what? But then I carry around this bugged feeling inside, instead of actually "letting go." And then I do something like get into a dumb fight at work or a stupid argument with someone on the subway or in the street...

So how do you "let go?" I mentally know it's a silly thing... I mentally know I'm being stupid, but how do you make it really go away?

2007-04-03 04:11:56 · 17 answers · asked by aspicco 7

But he made a statement that she should let him know beforehand when she take money out. She was furious, for he kept promising her yes I'll put you on my account and never did. What's your advice?

2007-04-03 04:10:47 · 14 answers · asked by Rose 3