I was in a relationship that had a lot of verbal abuse and was closed to turning physical. A friend of mine thats about 73 years old I started talking to, bought a house in a low income area that i found. He told me as long as he is alive i will not have to worry about rent. He comes around maybe once a month. He's a very busy person and owns a lot of property etc. He said when he dies to just start paying rent as if i have been paying it all along to his wife. He said he used money that was in cds thats would have gone to her after he was gone. My sister thinks I should get him to just give me the house and I say no because of the fact that i know his wife will need the money when hes gone. She is totally dependent on him anyway. What do you think? I have been in the house for three years now.
2007-04-03 05:13:40 · 26 answers · asked by Diamondbch 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have been blessed by the good will of another which is rare this day in age for the exact reason you are asking this question. Because alot of the time when people are nice they get screwed. Please do not screw these people. Pay the rent when he passes. If he is not sick it could be some time still before he passes. My grandmother lived to 94. You just never know.
You are truely lucky to have this help in your life. I hope you pay it forward to another needy soul one day.
2007-04-03 05:24:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since you're not paying rent; you need to start saving some money, because you have no way of knowing what his wife will do with the property once he's gone. If his plan was to give you the house, he would have done so from the start. He told you that he used CDs that were for his wife to buy the property, so you're already living off of her money. Be thankful that the man is letting you live rent free and next time, keep your sister out of your business.
2007-04-03 12:56:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is completely and utterly WRONG!!
You should have been paying rent for 3 years but if he is not willing to allow you to pay now then that is his choice.
If you want to stay in the house after he is gone either pay rent or offer to buy it from the widow.
Give me a break just because you have lived there rent free for three years does not entitle you to anything but a feeling of shame that you have been living off of this generous man. You should have been able to get a job and be a contributing member of society by now so start doing it!!
Respect yourself enough to know that no one owes you anything and we all need to pay our way in life.
2007-04-03 12:21:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Golly. A kept woman that has ethics and some moral sense. Congrats. I think you are correct. The deal you have is you live free, he gets to come by now and then. I won't bother commenting on what this relationship is. Apparently, your sister thinks you should somehow convince him, (perhaps by blackmail?) to give you the house. You should thank your sister. She apparently feels that you are living as a whore, so you should insist on being a well paid whore. You say you've been there 3 years, so at even $500 per month, you've been paid $18,000. You should stick by the deal you've accepted.
2007-04-03 12:59:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How dare you (or your sister)!
First of all he is doing you a favor by letting you live there for free and now you want the house for free?
He told you what to do! Start paying the rent when he dies. End of story.
If you don't like it buy your own damn house!
2007-04-03 12:22:39 · answer #5 · answered by Bren 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Why should he give you the house? he is doing you a good deed by letting you live there rent free, and now you expect him to give you the house for free? Maybe you should get a mortgage and buy the house from him
2007-04-03 12:34:22 · answer #6 · answered by Mama~peapod 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't MAKE him do anything. The house is in his name and you are merely "renting" it. You have no right to it nor can you ever have any right to it. Unless it's in writing and on paper, you're screwed and unless you have a written lease, if he dies and the wife finds out you've been living there rent free, she can have you evicted faster than you can bat your free-loading eyelashes.
2007-04-03 12:36:31 · answer #7 · answered by declaude 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, dear, you don't have a legal leg to stand on. When this man passes away, there will be a summary made of all his assets, including properties. If you want to be able to stay in your home, you are going to need a lease, or you will most likely wind up being tossed out on your ear.
2007-04-03 12:27:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be happy u are not paying rent all these years... and taxes... hes been very generous... i dont know if u had a sexual relationship or not.... and it doesnt matter... his wishes were to let u pay rent to his wife after he dies.... and u should abide by it... and I wouldnt dare let his wife knows about this whether he is alive or dead.. why hurt her? just be greatful that he was there to help you.. and u had time to get on ur feet to afford it....
2007-04-03 12:26:41 · answer #9 · answered by gina B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are living how everyone would like to live for free as of right now...he is using money that should go to her just so you can live how you are. You owe it to her to make the rent after he passes.
2007-04-03 13:45:32 · answer #10 · answered by memyslf&I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋