...to a therapist...absolutely denies and if I take him she will take court action to stop me. We have joint legal and joint residential. Yet in previous email she tells me she will take him to someone and if I have a problem with it - "take it up with the parental coordinator". The parental coordinator is biased and gives her everything she wants yet will not mediate anything I want. She will not meet with me to discuss any of this - refuses. There is no DV. She constantly tells me waht she is going to do no matter what but if I suggest something she refuses everything. Any suggestions?
2007-04-03 05:11:09 · 13 answers · asked by RealEYES 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to contact an attorney or even the court system and she if she can legally stop you from getting your son medical care. If you have joint custody then you both have the responsibility to seek medical treatment for your child. I think she's upset with you over something and therefore she's using the child against you. You as his father, you really need to ask an attorney or the courts what legal rights to do you have when it comes to your son and his well being. Let them know that she's threatening you in email and hopefully you've saved those emails as proof. Right now if your son is in serious need a therapy you shouldn't care what your ex has to say, get your son the help he needs. It also sounds as though you may want to look into getting a new parental coordinator since the one you have seems to be more for your ex then they are for the both of you.
2007-04-03 05:27:17 · answer #1 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is anyway that you can get it in writing that she is denying your son care you need to do so. Even if it means spelling everything out in an email. If she responds to the email then create a folder and save all of the responses. In the same way if you can "voice" your concerns to the "parental coordinator" in an email and still get the same response then keep that as well.
I sounds as though you are trying to do what is in your child's best interest but there is something that your ex does not want to come to light.
Legal counsel!!! And a great one at that!! Ask around find the one that is a tiger in the court room and is well versed in paternal rights and is known for fighting for fathers!!
2007-04-03 12:27:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a matter that needs to go before the judge again! She is being controlling and manipulating your child. Tell her if she does not comply with the ordered visitation, you will take her back to court and then follow though with your threat the very next time she denies visitation.
Keep a journal or calendar of each time she denies visitation. That is hard evidence that you can present to the court.
Good luck!
2007-04-03 12:21:46 · answer #3 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Petition the court to have the current PC replaced. I see no reason your wife should object to a therapist unless she is afraid of something she is doing wrong being exposed. I'd make her take you to court to stop you. It's much easier to make the threat than it is to actually go. I mean think about it...what reason is she going to give the judge for stopping you?
You have to take control in this situation. You have as much access to your child as she does. Don't let her bully you like that with a bunch of empty threats. Once she understands that you have as much say as she does, she might respect you a bit more so that you can work together raising your child.
2007-04-03 12:19:50 · answer #4 · answered by J D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take it to court. If you feel that you aren't being treated fairly by this parental coordinator, then ask for a new one.
So, you both agree that the child needs counseling, you just can't agree on which one? Why not work with whoever she has chosen, for a while & see if your child is benefitting from that treatment at all, before demanding that it be *your* way?
2007-04-03 12:23:41 · answer #5 · answered by Maureen 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
all i can say is take her to court again and find the best lawyer. That is the only way. She probably thinks your not going to do it that is why she said yea take it up with the courts. So do it and let them know all that she is doing. trust me if they see that your trying with your son they will allow you legal rights too. your the dad you have rights. Don't let her push you around.
2007-04-03 12:17:44 · answer #6 · answered by shyhonney 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, hell, yes! Get in touch with your lawyer and tell him exactly what you just laid out. Especially the part about your feelings that the parental coordinator is seriously biased . Contrary to your ex wife's grossly overinflated belief in her "rights", she is dead wrong, and apparently you are going to have to involve the legal system to prove it to her. Good luck!
2007-04-03 12:22:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her take you to court. If your son TRULY needs help and she's stupid enough to think the court is going to deny that help to your son, let her take you. Make sure you request that she pay the attorney fees as well.
2007-04-03 12:29:40 · answer #8 · answered by declaude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an attorney, take her back to court.
Talk to the parental coordinators supervisor.
2007-04-03 12:18:59 · answer #9 · answered by salemgirl1972 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has NO LEGAL right to Stop YOU! GO FOR IT!
That is her simple THREAT to try and Still Control a situation!
YOU say White and She says BLACK
YOU say Yes and She will say No!
YOU say Good and She will say Bad!
Do you Get the Pattern?
Thanks, RR
2007-04-03 12:27:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋