i just turned 29 last week, am a mother of 3 beautiful kids, 2 girls and 1 boy. i met my husband when my oldest daughter was 4 months and we have been together since. we got married 2 years ago on new years eve..it was something very small and plain.. this weekend he asked me to start preparing everything for out big wedding by church. he wants to get married next year in may..i just feel so weird because we have 3 kids. my kids got so happy when he told them that we were going to get married. my oldest daughter cried she said she wants to see me in a big wedding dress and that she and her brother/sister will be my flower kids...i told my mother about it but she was not to excited....should i proceed and start preparing everything or should i just stop we are legally married already but just not by church.....
2007-04-03 05:50:33 · 20 answers · asked by olive oil 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For some Churches, such as the Catholic Church, getting married in the church is very important. They still regard your civil marriage as valid, but not sacramental. The idea is that marriage is something that is HOLY. So its not just a question about whether or not you are legal, its about your faith and the place it has in your life. You did not mention whether or not you have an active church life, if not, then this may be just an expression of love on the part of your husband. Perhaps he feels that this is something every woman wants and you missed out. Talk to him and see if this is the case.
In any event, I suggest that the wedding be kept small. There is no need to spend a fortune on this. Invited you family and close friends. Wear a beautiful dress, and get your children to participate. The bigger question for me would be, will there be a honeymoon or a family vacation?
2007-04-05 02:56:29 · answer #1 · answered by Dr. D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think you should wait until your 5th or 10th anniversary and have a really special celebration celebrating those 10 years and welcoming the next 10+. You can even say new vows, in a church, affirming your love and your looking forward to the rest of your future together.
I think your guests would feel more comfortable attending something like that rather than the whole wedding thing. I am sorry you missed out on the traditional stuff, but the real blessing is that you guys are "making it" work. That is far better than many of those couples out there that did actually have the white dress, flowers and bridal party.
I say go for the Anniversary celebration instead. :)
Hmmm... looks like everyone else thinks differently. Maybe I'm wrong. With three kids, I can just think of all the things that money could go for now and waiting for an Anniversary sort of kills two birds with one stone, since you are almost to the 5 year mark anyway. So on that note, since majority typcially rules, maybe you should go for it then. :)
2007-04-03 12:56:43 · answer #2 · answered by NONAME 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is really magnificent that after all this your husband wants to declare his love for you and your kids to everyone! I say walk that aisle proudly! Wedding dress, flower kids and all! You go girl! Congratulations! Get in the spirit of it and plan away! You should be so excited and proud and giddy, let yourself go and fall into the spirit of it all! Good luck with your wedding plans and May God always Bless your marriage this way!
P.S. I know 80 year olds who have done it with a big wedding so you can too.
2007-04-03 16:12:13 · answer #3 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your husband are both Christians, I think it is the best thing the two of you can do - getting married in church and having your marriage blessed. It sounds like your children and husband are very excited about the idea - I think you should be too! Not only is it the wedding you both deserve, but it will be sanctified under God. Congratulations, enjoy your wedding! God Bless!
2007-04-03 15:06:57 · answer #4 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey1 Congrat!!! Go for it....it will be good and is also a form of bonding for both of you...its not easy for a guy to plan for wedding with a mother of a few kids...he must really love you and heck the comments from the rest....plan for the wedding unless you have your reservation about him....Best of Luck & have a Great Wedding in advance!!
2007-04-03 12:57:42 · answer #5 · answered by R T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is that important to your husband I would go along with his plans of getting married in the church. If you get to plan it then you can decide how big or how small you want it to be.
I think it could be a wonderful time for you and your children and create some happy memories, not to mention pictures.
2007-04-03 12:56:21 · answer #6 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will give your kids the sense what marriage is really about. Also, as a woman, this is a day dreamed about since a little girl. Go for it! Of course your mother is not excited, she probably feels you could use that money elsewhere.
2007-04-03 12:57:26 · answer #7 · answered by John 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U should be excited. He probably feels like now is the time for you guys to be officially official. There's nothing like your friends and family there celebrating with you. So what you have 3 kids what does that mean. The only thing you are doing is renewing your vows. He wants everyone to be there. I would be overjoyed.
2007-04-03 13:04:01 · answer #8 · answered by Chen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It SURE IS refreshing to hear about a renewal of marriage, rather than a divorce! GO FOR IT! Marry the guy again, in front of God, and everybody! You have made my day! Thank you!! Include the whole family...kids, parents, friends....make a party of it! Am I invited, lol? Do it!!
2007-04-03 13:01:22 · answer #9 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it's not a budget-buster, I say, go for it. It sounds like everyone (especially your kids) are very excited about it.
If you think it's weird, just send out your invites as a "vow renewal" because that's what it really is.
2007-04-03 13:00:11 · answer #10 · answered by daisyk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋