My hsuband has refused to hav sex with me for the past months. When i confronted him he said there is not problem but i shoukld give him some moths till end of June
2007-04-03 05:48:32 · 12 answers · asked by fad 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Part of having a good relatoinship is all about communication. He may or may not be honest with you and there could be a problem of Why he hasnt... If you dont like it then you really must tell him how YOU feel. Or try your best to fix the relationship
2007-04-03 05:53:36 · answer #1 · answered by Blax 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriosly you need to ask him why he needs this time to have no sex. If this is because of an STD then you want to get checked out. Maybe he had penile implant surgery and is not suppose to do anything until it fully heals?. Really though be it medical or something else you must get to the bottom of it NOW. Tell him he either tells you what is going on with him or your going to go stay at a hotel for a few days until he can talk and be honest. There shouldn't be secrets in a marriage and right now it sounds like he is keeping a big one!
God Bless and Good Luck.
2007-04-03 13:13:23 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ask you ask your husband why he doesn't want to have sex, or did you confront him....there is a difference. I would tell him that you are concerned that he may not find you attractive, or that he might have a health problem that is causing his lack of interest.
Good sexual chemistry is one of the components to a happy, more connected marriage. I'm not saying that you can't have a connected marriage without sex, but sex does help you feel closer to someone regardless of how bad everything else in your relationship is.
Work on asking him what his reasoning for the refusal. If he can't give you an answer, I would be prepared for the worst.
2007-04-03 13:08:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does he need to wait til the end of June to have sex? Is he waiting for some type of STD to clear up? I would go have myself checked to be sure. Then I would sit him down and MAKE him tell me just why he can't until then.
2007-04-03 12:59:50 · answer #4 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's being controlling and manipulative because he can. Why is he refusing? I believe that when you start neglecting your spouse, that's when the big trouble begins. He cannot expect you to go forever this way. You need to decide if you want to continue living like this. I'd just tell him gently what I need, and if he's a weenie about it, then I'd let him know I love him, but didn't intend on living like this forever. Do you want to live with someone who thinks so little of you and your needs that he does this to you? If it's because he's experiencing embarrassing lack of libido, that's one thing, but if it's just because he wants the control over you, it's time to set him straight.
2007-04-03 12:59:16 · answer #5 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmm...you have lots o advices to engage him for an answer... not wrong but you may like to consider a soft approach (if seducing doesn't work as suggested by one) via getting a close male friend to help find an answer....this may avoid confrontation and embrassesment by him too...if he did contract anything...good luck!
2007-04-03 13:07:47 · answer #6 · answered by R T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would imagine the thought of STD's are going through your mind right at this point. I would go get checked for them.
2007-04-03 12:52:47 · answer #7 · answered by Stefka 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you confront him? come on. try to seduce him instead.
definitely he has a problem.. maybe he too troubled at work or you did something wrong and make him unhappy without knowing it.. try to be more attentive to him.
2007-04-03 13:00:44 · answer #8 · answered by TO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? Either he has another woman or there's something medically wrong with him. Either way, you need to check this out.
2007-04-03 12:58:34 · answer #9 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
um do you think he is cheating ? if you don't suspect cheating than maybe its physical maybe he cant get an erection ! if i were you i would hound him till i got answers!! this doesn't sound normal :(
2007-04-03 13:00:28 · answer #10 · answered by notyochic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋