My husband had a nonsexual affair (he called her up & started a relationship via phone calls & flirty text messages, then kept it a secret until I found out -3 months of this went on.) with his ex-of 10 yrs ago. How am I able to trust him again?
2007-04-03 05:56:14 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oh damn i can relate- i have been through this too, except she was a more recent ex.
truth be told i just resorted to really disliking the sitation he created for us and now we are going to a counselor, shoot, if he wants to keep this womyn he will def. have to make an effort to show it (going is1) and most def. he better win me over every day.
2007-04-03 06:15:44 · answer #1 · answered by Tanyah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a question you have to decide the answer to. (Been there, done that.) I can tell you that after a LONG time, I still really do not trust my husband. I try to, but find myself wondering WHEN will he do it again? I have decided, I really don't want to live waiting for the other shoe to fall. It's the same "emotionally" as if he was doing it physically. The broken trust is the same. If you feel you will ALWAYS wonder what he's doing, who with, and what....then perhaps you need to move on. You have an inner voice. What does it tell you? Is he trying to earn your trust back??? Do you think he'll do it again? I can tell you, I was floored. I had SO many opportunities to do that and worse, and wasn't doing it, and the whole time HE was. It both hurt me, and ANGERED me. If you're the kind that cannot trust again after it's been broken, then for you, it's time to move on. Good luck.
2007-04-03 13:03:43 · answer #2 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry I do not know how to get you to trust him again. It will be very hard for both of you.. It all depend on him on how he want to gain your trust again. It need a lot of hard work n effort. 1st thing of all, he need to stop and terminate the contact with his ex 100%. There no way you can trust him when he continue this nonsexual affair.
2007-04-03 13:04:45 · answer #3 · answered by TO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's going to have to work hard to earn the trust. You must be open minded enough to allow him to re-earn your trust. You can survive this and get though it, but it's going to take a lot of time and effort.
2007-04-03 13:00:54 · answer #4 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know if ya can.....it takes years to build trust and seconds to destroy it, so sad.....
2007-04-03 13:10:29 · answer #5 · answered by NY Yanks Girrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋