but what if his momma was the one who told me that the child wasn't his because the child's mom had said it

Answer 1

So your trying to say is that your husband or boyfriend was cheating on you with another women and had a kid with her or are you trying to say is that his mom told you that he was cheating on you with another women and had a kid with her. Or are you trying to say is that you were cheating on him and had a kid with another guy? confused /:

Answer 2

Did the child's mother actually tell your mother-in-law that your husband is not the father -- or is it one of those, "baby's mom said to, so-and-so, who told so-and-so, who then told your mother-in-law that baby's mom said your husband is not the child's father?"

If the child's mother told your mother-in-law that the baby does not belong to your husband, then likely, your husband is already aware of this possibility and has chosen for one reason or another to disregard it.

I know if my son had a child, and the mother of that child pullled me aside and told me he's not the father, the very first person who'd be privy to that situation/information would be my son -- before I told his wife (which I would not do anyway, because that's not my place to do that. It would be his).

If he's aware that the child possibly isn't his and he's still behaving like a father and helping to raise and support that child because he loves that child as his own -- then you're very lucky and have a very good man. However, in that case, the child isn't actually entitled to financial support from him and the child's actual father should probably be located to take some of the financial burden off your family.

If the above is the case, then definitely, since your family is being directly impacted by the presumed paternity of the child you probably should mention to your husband what you've heard from his mother and ask that he speak to his mother about what she's heard. (Since she seems to be the one with all the info.)

If he's not supporting, taking care of, or helping raise child -- then who cares if he's the DNA father or not? He's not doing anything for the kid anyway. In that case, he's only a sperm donor, not a father, so the information doesn't really matter to anyone.

Answer 3

I'm having some pronoun problems here.

The child doesn't care who said what to who. The child has a child/parent relationship with your husband, no matter who's sperm started the child growing to begin with. Your husband should continue in that role in the child's life.

Answer 4

You still can't really do anything since you can prove it without a paternity test. Is the mom willing to submit the child through one? Is you husband willing to request a one?

Answer 5

Talk to your husband about it. My understanding is DNA test aren't as expensive as they were before. If the mother of the child made the comment she has created reasonable doubt. The test should be taken so the child can know who his or her father is. Even if it's just for medical reasons. I'm 29 and I'm stuck trying to learn about my father's family medical issues as I've developed different things that i was predisposed to thanks to him.

Answer 6

Does he love them and care about them? Do you think he would walk away after all these years just 'cause they are not his biologically? How shallow is he?

Are you being jealous? What do you get out of this, if you tell him? Why hasn't his own mother told him? What is she up to?

Answer 7

Have him get a dna test they don't lie like momma's do..

Answer 8

It does not change my response (which is posted on your other question). The answer is still the same.

Answer 9

What part of "It's none of YOUR business" are you not understanding?
It is none of your business. If his mother didn't bother to tell him, it's not your place to.
Leave it alone. BUTT OUT.

Answer 10

Sounds like the problem is YOU.