Marriage & Divorce - 9 August 2006

I've been married over 12 years and we have a beautiful three year old daughter. I will admit right away that my marriage is strained for a variety of reasons. Due to recent strain, she has told me several times that she has brought up topic of divorce.

I have become very close to an ex co-worker of mine. She is married also. Have known her for over 4 yrs and we have kept in touch. We have a strictly platonic relationship, I enjoy her company and we have a great time together. We have both gone out of our way to stay in touch with one another. She is lot of the things that I have always looked for in a woman. Do I tell her that I have feelings for her or do I keep it to myself? I have told myself that it is worth the risk of losing her as a friend to possibly be something more. Or do I bite my tongue. I don't want to wait 5-10 yrs to tell my ex co-worker how I feel about her.

Thank you in advance for your response

2006-08-09 16:14:43 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

seperated with my husband som 8 mths ago. I do not mind him coming back to visit the grandson, but he does every other day and eat and drink what is on the dining table like as thought nothing has happened. I told him that I don"t like seing him so often in my house and he said there"s nothng wrong. He does not think he has done anything wrong as it normal for man to have affairs. What do you think I should do?

2006-08-09 16:08:55 · 31 answers · asked by jan 2

my boyfriend and i are getting married, but I'm not going to have an engagement ring. I've always dreamed of haveing one my whole life, but he doesn't beleive in wearing jewelry. I guess its not that big of a deal, i just was wondering what you all think about this. I'm not the type of girl who only wants a man who buys me stuff....I'm just not like that. So should i just forget about my "ring fantasy"? what do you think?

2006-08-09 16:07:22 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-08-09 15:57:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Any positive 'second' marriages out there?

2006-08-09 15:54:35 · 25 answers · asked by Notanothernickname 2

2006-08-09 15:50:35 · 25 answers · asked by holly l 1

When my husband and I got married he agreed to get rid of his playboys. I did not want them in our house because I did not want to catch him masturbating while looking at one because he has me and I am very attractive. Well he told me he had gotten rid of them, but the other day I found him masturbating in the shed looking at one. What should I do? He's lied to me several times already.

2006-08-09 15:49:03 · 26 answers · asked by rkb12584 2

Married people how many of you get along with your in laws

2006-08-09 15:41:04 · 28 answers · asked by soundlady 5

It seems to me that today, the original nuclear family doesnt exist anymore!!! I feel like Im the only one out of my large group of firends whos parents are still together. Id sure love to get married, but if I get married, I want to STAY married, no matter what, but what the hell is the point of putting your trust in someone, giving them your heart and soul and vowing to spend the rest of your life with them thru thick and thin, rich or poor, sick or healthy when 2 years down the road you find out you have "differences" in which you cannot get passed. Or you're married for 14 years, you have 3 beautiful children, and you find out your spouse has been cheatin on you with a younger person for the better part of your marriage? Or you "grew apart" You split up, and your kids see you with another man/woman and your spouse with someone else. My dream looks like it can be crushed waaaaaaaaaaaaaay before it even gets a chance to begin?? What do ya'll think about marriage?

2006-08-09 15:40:33 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-08-09 15:40:11 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I told him I think of having more children sometime. Then He asked me "And other times?" I said I am realistic. He said"Ok."

2006-08-09 15:34:23 · 9 answers · asked by jhaiop 1

2006-08-09 15:33:50 · 12 answers · asked by froopy 1

Is there something he does that just makes you feel like he really loves you?

2006-08-09 15:32:14 · 8 answers · asked by lachichippie 3

Here's the story, I have been married to my husband for 2 1/2 years. I love him very much and I am in love with him. I wouldn't have married him if I wasn't. We had an in depth conversation and he revealed to me that he loves me but he is not in love with me and he never was. I don't understand. He couldn't explain it to me either. How could you marry someone you're not in love with? Can anyone out there help me understand? I'm not sure that I can stay married to him if he does not reciprocate those feelings. I do understand that marriage is about more than love...but isn't that the foundation of a marriage? Isn't that why we marry in the first place? Help!!!

2006-08-09 15:31:14 · 5 answers · asked by It's me Snitches 2

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2006-08-09 15:24:26 · 2 answers · asked by Tell S 1

he isolated me from all my friends and family for three years. he used emotional and real threats such as physical violence or saying he'll kill himself. it's been couple of years since it's over but i am afraid i still carry the emotional baggage. how do i know if i carry the baggage? i think even if you're well-adjusted and happy now, the signs of such trauma may show in your interactions with the others (especially in dating) without you realizing it. I really do not want this experience to hurt me or disadvantage me in any way any longer. i suffered enough. in other words, if a car hits you you can see when your body heals, but how do you know whether you healed or not from a psychological trauma?

2006-08-09 15:24:25 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-08-09 15:14:59 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Was married for 5 years. seperated 9 months ago. Me and the wife are still friends and see each other often, but only as friends. I really long to be back with her and have told her so. Marrage was not horrible, we didnt cheat or any thing, no physical abuse ect.... Just had a hard time communicating. Really wish she was with me and cant shake the feeling. Need advice on winning her back or how to let her go. Have a girl firend now for the last 3 months. Great gal, lots of love for her... but not anything like I have for my wife. Help me pls. I'm 37 and this was my 2nd marrage.

2006-08-09 15:02:46 · 18 answers · asked by poppacat422 2

2006-08-09 15:02:36 · 17 answers · asked by tammette39 3

i married and been with me husband for seven years but i still love him but i also check out other guys and wonder if me and my husband should be together or is it just a faz

2006-08-09 15:01:04 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

your husband cheating on you? My friend just told me that the guy she is so inlove with is married. I don't know what to tell her.

2006-08-09 14:53:22 · 9 answers · asked by Angel365 Devil365 2

I mean when husband that really loves his wife, but is away on a trip for 2 weeks or even half year? My husband claims that man can last 2 weeks without sex, but probably after 0.5 year without his wife might lead to being unfaithul and have sex with other woman....Any thoughts?

2006-08-09 14:50:23 · 22 answers · asked by Ada 1

There is this girl who has been a good friend...she works with me...one of my friends told me that if you love a girl, make her feel special...I started making sure while I am around she shouldn't have to worry...I was always there to support her...I would wait for her at lunch...but lately I felt she was not comfortable....I aksed her and she wrote me an e-mail that "give me some space...one can not be in mood to talk, joke or party all the time...there is some problem which i wan to solve at my end and dont want to discuss..."

I wrote back..."That I inderstant that sometimes I crossed my limits. And that I will not interfere in her work, crack jokes or sms her any more...be happy"

To which she replied "Thanks for understanding.."

Now friends I dont know what to do...now I have distanced my self from her, but i am very unhappy...what to do..?

2006-08-09 14:41:03 · 15 answers · asked by Arnie 2

Who would you like to sit down and have a drink and a conversation with?

I am not looking for Girls to answer Pierce Brosnon and guys to answer Jenifer Garner because they are your favorite movie star or you want to do them.


Someone famous you would like to have a conversation with and what you would talk about.

Not a conversation where you tell them what to do.

Just two guys or gals in a bar.

2006-08-09 14:24:06 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

on her pubic hair, can this was quite ofter. Bruises on her thighs. Took quite a while for me to catch on, that she was have sex all the time. I never suspected cause I was blinded by love. She worked at night and would call and say that she'd be late she was going to the supermarket and that she loved so much. But it was to see that I was home and couldn't catch her. went for at least 3 years, she that I never really loved her that is why she did this. Could I ever ever forgive such cruel things she did. Had at one steady boyfriend.

2006-08-09 14:18:28 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-08-09 14:13:10 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husbands ex wife has had a baby that was born addicted to meth. My husband has 2 children by her(not the baby she just had) and she lost the baby. Do you think she will lose my 2 stepchildren also. My husband has custody of the children she only gets them every other weekend. But we had recieved a call from DCS and they told us to not let her have the children without supervision by my husband or her mother.

2006-08-09 14:10:13 · 4 answers · asked by felicity t 1

ok me and my husband have been married 9 years and together 14 years. we have 4 kids and it seems like we cant stand each other. we avoid eachother at all cost and dont speak unless we are fighting. i want some lovin but dont know if going elsewhere is wrong. i mean i know its wrong but is it understandable.we havent slept together in almost a year and i miss him. i have told him but his attitude is like oh well. am i stupid to think he is cheating? or do i want an excuse for what may be to come for me if things dont change.

2006-08-09 14:09:57 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Our son is five years old and he walked in on me and my husband having sex. We immediately stopped and pulled the covers over us but I know he saw things. Will he remember this? Will this scar him for life?

2006-08-09 14:07:17 · 37 answers · asked by luvinmjc 3

and she told me that her ex bf had a 15 inch penis. I totall think that has got to be BS! It just seems totally crazy doesnt it? But then again why would she lie?!

2006-08-09 14:05:30 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous