Marriage & Divorce - 5 August 2006

I have just found out my b/f has the hots for another guy ......

2006-08-05 23:44:45 · 21 answers · asked by Fiji_bound2007 2

My wife and I are getting a divorce. She keeps saying that this is the best way for us to find our way back to each other. She keeps giving me a sense of hope, as long as her parents are not around. I still love her and want to be with her. So am I?

2006-08-05 23:41:41 · 19 answers · asked by finis b 1

Theme weddings what would yours be ie robin hood? Heavey metal? nude?
Ok this is getting reposted in marraige and relgion and singles to see different results...

But if you are getting together as in love, as its fun to be together, to express ive... and as you love seeing each other naked and feeling up and making love...


Why have a formal wedding so what theme or alternative wedding would you like or just traditional...


ie Nude wedding or couple nude like Star treks Dians Troys's culture,


Robin hood style everyone dressed up in or near a castle with a banquet and the boys jousting type games?

Roman style with or without the orgie with the bride turning up carred on a seat with vestal virgin girls (ok fake virgins) scattering flower petals in front with bride as a princess cleo

Scuba diving wedding

Sky diving wedding.

Biker bash with a harely davidson parade.

Heavey metal rocker with slash like guitarist and Song like November rain or better...

2006-08-05 23:36:46 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Would you let someone sleep with your spouse once for one million dollars?

2006-08-05 23:28:24 · 17 answers · asked by hiclaude 3

2006-08-05 23:23:52 · 35 answers · asked by Shiela 1

sex just for my husband who was told about this before marriage, but I guess he didn't believe me. My lack of enthusiasm is a turn off for him. I don't think that because I don't want sex he should be deprived. I believe I can handle infidelity. He says it would be disrespectful and he is satisfied to masturbate with porn because of the threat of AIDS. Also he is 47 and I am 64 (I look 47 and am otherwise together).

2006-08-05 22:50:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Before i filed for a divorce, my wife would not even touch or have sex with me, now that she has moved out, she wants or is willing to have sex with me. She doesn't care if I say she is just a hole to me now. She is willing to come over to my house and let me just do anything i want. Is she trying to use sex to gain something, she is asking for money now, and i have helped her, now she wants to have sex, should I have sex with her?
What do you think she is up to? She tells me there is no preussure now. I am confused, she didn't want me when we were together and now she does.

2006-08-05 22:47:21 · 7 answers · asked by petey43 1

As new parents with a baby 6m, seems a greater spotlight has been placed on our relationship. Over enthusiastic inlaws wanting to stay weekends regularly has brought a rift between us as I gently asked them to space their visits to us. I am overwhelmed as a working mother and have my own large family wanting to visit. My husband who is close to them was furious + his crying mother on the phone brought response: upset them, you upset me. Further things said by him was that I am selfish; I don't understand you. I pleaed for him to have empathy with me + that the visits situation is not an all or nothing, but a balance. He barely spoke to me for days

Our financials have some pressure now, my own self employed work suffers for lack of time with baby. I have a business dept to manage. He says it is my debt to sort myself, but recently u-turned to say it is ours.

We are at peace but I worry he's not yet said words that bring me emotional security.Can we get back on track?

2006-08-05 22:37:37 · 18 answers · asked by sweetpeachmummy 2

2006-08-05 22:18:52 · 11 answers · asked by Lothario 1

2006-08-05 22:07:53 · 9 answers · asked by c 1

I got married two years back. My wife always inspires me to live separately. My parents & other members were coperative to her but now they dislike my wife due to her talkative nature & complaining attitude. She left me two times & stayed with her parents. I and my family members broght her our home after many requests. But again she leaft our home quaralling with my mom & younger brother. She tells me over phone that if I sepatelely live then she will come to live with me. In fact, my parents are very old due to their age. They need good behaviour. In this situation I can not live with her seperately. My wife's parents also dislike my parents & my brothers. Please advice me how to modify my wife.

2006-08-05 21:53:42 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

We R great friends now. She asked me to go to Six flags through my girl. Our kids R 13 & 11.

2006-08-05 21:44:20 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

You r feelin guilty and not comfortable to go on with your life ...

2006-08-05 21:32:14 · 23 answers · asked by saroja 1

I can't avail of divorce because we're financially strapped for cash. Neither can I get an annullment. I just want him to vanish from the face of the earth and give me some peace and quiet. I don't love him anymore either but he doesn't want to move out of the house because he's so scared of what his family will say about any separation. He tells his parents I'm such a lousy wife but when they asked him why he stays, he said it was for the kids. The children don't like him either because he neglects us and makes me cry all the time. I just want him to vanish. Does that make me a bad person? I work, I share in the expenses of the home. He pays for everything but curses us for being "expenses" in his life. My daughter once asked for a few cents to buy ice cream and he shouted at her but he affords himself $100s worth of whey protein mixes. I want to put something in them to make him suffer for what he does to my children.

2006-08-05 21:29:34 · 17 answers · asked by Equinox 6

2006-08-05 21:25:24 · 6 answers · asked by abcdef 1

2006-08-05 21:23:24 · 6 answers · asked by c 1

I left a rather abusive 30yr.marriage for my own saftey and health. The house is still mortgaged and he is trying to get my name off the ins.but the mortgagors wont because they are written with my name first.He seems to think that I'm not entitled to anything .The house caught on fire and he is saying that the ins. money is his.I'm afraid that he will take that and not spend it to fix the house so it can be sold .I dont understand why he is so greedy but I can't even get another loan because of him. He has financialy destroyed me and I need help.I live in PA anybody know what I should do for help?He has already signed my name on one of the checks from one of the mortgages and he will probably do the same on the ins check and selling of the house .How do I stop him?

2006-08-05 21:14:31 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-08-05 21:13:20 · 11 answers · asked by persian.spirit 1

My ex husband and I have only been separated for over a month. I've only met his cousin 2x. Most of the time I see him, we don't talk. This was the time my husband and I were still together. After being separated over a month, I didn't have a place to stay and so I stayed with his cousin for 4 days. His cousin and I hang out once in that 4 days and got a bit drunk. Nobody flirted but I could sense some chemical energy going on. We have not yet have sex (only talking about my ex husband's issues) but I assume he wants to have sex or some kind of sexual affection. Should I flirt with him and give him a kiss to see if he kiss back or would this just be wrong? He cares a lot and has a better understanding what I am going through with my ex husband. Sometimes his cousin can't even figure out my ex husband's behaviour towards me and our little son together. I only been with my ex for a year and a half before we got married. Our marriage only lasted for 4 months. Please help guys! Thank you

2006-08-05 20:56:18 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I met 17 years ago. We decided to move in together after we found out that I was pregnant with my first child and got married many years after our third child was born, mainly because "it was just the right thing to do". He never respected me as his wife and mother of his children. I always felt as if I was last in his list of priorities, he was selfish and didn’t care how I felt. After a while I got tired of feeling left out and met someone else, while I was still married. We got divorced two years after we got married and two years after our divorced we decided to get back together. I guess we both were lonely and felt that we had gone thru too much together to give everything up. Our relationship is not going well and I wonder if it’s because I cheated. Will he ever trust me again? Am I doing the right thing by staying with him? What should I do?

2006-08-05 20:44:03 · 18 answers · asked by Calis_Shygirl 2

What would you do if your husband only has sex with you to shut you up?

2006-08-05 20:37:27 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

If you are a married woman who is currently having an affair or has had an affair, what was the reason for you having the affair? Since women are the gender that are the more committed and are more family oriented and loyal, why did you have an affair?

2006-08-05 20:16:36 · 10 answers · asked by WhyNotMe 6

I was with my girlfriend for 1 and 1/2 years. She helped me through all kinds of things in my life, including giving me a place to stay when I left my parents house for various reasons. We recently broke up because of my religious actions, like choosing not to celebrate her birthdays or holidays. It has been three months, and I have just mustered enough courage to finally come out with it and tell her. We recently made the decision to be friends, but by things she says and her saying she recognizes I am trying to change and I love her, I believe there is part of her that still loves me. She currently got with another guy like a week ago, and is really afraid of bieng hurt again, which is her reason not to be with me. She says she wants a new life, yet she gives hints she wants me to fight for her. What should I do? Wait for her boyfriend to mess up? Keep asking for another chance? What? I really love her, but she is really afraid of bieng hurt again.

2006-08-05 19:52:55 · 12 answers · asked by Help Me 1

2006-08-05 19:48:06 · 36 answers · asked by barbaradjt 5

2006-08-05 19:47:17 · 12 answers · asked by barbaradjt 5

2006-08-05 19:46:50 · 8 answers · asked by barbaradjt 5

She is wonderful girl. We decided to get engaged within only one week while I was spending my vacation in Palestine 2 months ago where my father’s family live and we signed the marriage contract to get the process of getting her visa moving faster. I’m American doctor and I started my pediatric residency by my arrival to the US. I became very busy as my schedule was too crazy. And I believe if I have to spend the rest of my life with someone I want to have time to get to know them. And I don't have the time right now. So we broke up a week ago. The last thing I got from her was as below. Kindly you read it patiently and tell me what to do. I am extremely frustrated with how things are and I don’t know how to make it up to her.
“I know things get so bad lately by the process of contract dissolution. It was converted to families’ conflict which was easily to be avoided if your father just waited until you and I had chosen to end it in a civilized way. I know you don’t care about the way my family and I want it to be. But you should realize that this will cause a big problem to me and to my family too. In here we agree to sign the marriage contract while we realize very well that we choose the person we want to spend the rest of our life with and this is not a stupid thing. For me, I know exactly the general aspects I want in the person I want to be with so it wasn’t difficult to know enough about your personality during the short time I saw you before engagement and then the other things that I’ll detect will be treated because any other bad things I may detect could be easily treated for me as the general good things were existed indeed. And I thought the same you were thinking as you were very enthusiastic for my personality and attitudes that I thought gave you good idea about me to choose to sign the contract so as to be the first step to get married. I didn’t know that it is normal for you to end the contract whenever you want, and I still couldn’t imagine that your excuse was because I got angry when you fell asleep and when you didn’t respond to my phone calls that night while I was burning that may be something bad happened to you. I just wonder if all engaged people break up just because one of them gets angry at the other! You know also this is a culture which makes me in a very bad condition to be insulted and rejected by my fiancé. I do not want to tell you about the pain and the heartache this caused to me because I know you do not care about it at all, but I just want you to know that this would make the people here to ask for a long time what happened and what things got you to reject me like this. Unfortunately I made a bet on this relationship in front of myself, my family, my friends and all the people here. I had overconfidence that I finally did the best for myself. Yes I was mistaken. My fault was that I followed my sense, my heart and my imagination. Okay I was disappointed then and I spent a very bad time that made me sick at home for days ago as I couldn’t understand how you decided that we would never carry on this relationship, I always believe there must be a terrible thing should make us to break up as we couldn’t find any other solution to solve our problem.
My illness and sadness made my family got angry from you and your family. They tried to do their best to make me refreshed again. My parents said a lot of things about Allah willing and about the best things that Allah wrote for us. I believe this is not your or my willing. This is what Allah wants us to do. He wanted us to get engaged for reasons I still don’t realize and he also wants us to break up now. But finally I can’t forgive the game was played with me. I understand what you said that you didn’t know that it would make this terrible situation to me. And it is not my fault that your family here and your father over there didn’t tell you about these things and they didn’t tell you about your obligations after ending the contract, and I can’t understand how your father did not tell you about all these obligations that are normally related to the contract signing. He is from our town, so he surely knows about all these things and when he called your family here to end the contract, he must have been realizing that this will hurt me a lot and this will affect my social status, my reputation and my family name.
You remember the jealous people who tried to make us upset after our engagement. They started to send me some messages to say: hey…hard luck… you lose the bet!
Well finally I don’t care about what people said but my family do. My parents said that if I forget the pain they will never forget how their daughter was suffering and getting the hard insult and pain in front of their eyes!
May be you did not mean to hurt me, may be you did not mean to cause me this pain… but unfortunately this was happened. I need long time to overcome the misery and sadness, I need long time to retrieve trust in my sense and in my feelings… also it needs long time to trust people again. All these things will take time to be cured. And this is because of you whether you accept this fact or not.
All my family and my friends ask me not to forgive you and they do pressure on me to take the money written in the contract… this is not to compensate what happened to me because money will never cure the wounds this thing caused within me. They ask me to do because this is the only way I have now to punish you!
But this is not my way to punish people who hurt me. I don’t punish them by taking their money.
May be you will be so angry to give me the money that you did not know you will pay if you choose the divorce. And you insist that this is a sin to be done according to your readings about Islam. But I wonder if you read something about playing with others’ feelings and reputations and if this is a sin or not!
I don’t try to play the victim role in here. I know it was also my fault to agree to get engaged that so fast way. I think we both were misleaded to this trap that your family here wanted you to get engaged to a girl form the toen to keep their hope that you could come to stay here some day. And may be this made your family over there to feel threatened of losing you after a while. May be you thought that I agreed to get engaged to you just to get out Palestine as well as to live the America dream. May be you finally thought that I hidden the information about the money in the contract just to catch you in a trap so as to force you to marry me. May be you think that I’m looking for your money now to spend them on myself and to be rich of! I still can’t forget how you insisted to insult me by saying you would send some money for me to purchase what I need… how terrible you are!
You will never understand how you hurt me… you will never understand what the pain you caused to me.
You only care about yourself and about your money… you only called me to ask why I should take money for divorce and this is what made my family to be more angry at you. But I still want you to be sure that I will never take any money from you. I just want to let you know that I’ll face some problem with my family for not agree to take the money but I only have the right to take them or not. So don’t worry about this. I promise I’ll do my best to end the contract without getting the money from you. This is the point I want you to be sure about. Firstly I have to convince my family that I don’t want to take the money as I do not have any plans to punish anyone. But you know I don’t want them to be angry with me for this… I just want them to keep on giving me their love and support during this difficult time and I don’t want to face any problems with them now… they believe that punishing you is the only way to retrieve my lost dignity and esteem. But please please please do not tell any one about this deal (especially your parents because I’m scared your father would do another stupid thing that will make me in a very bad condition in front of my family and that will make them keep their mind).
Other thing I want to talk about that I’ll send back the ring and the other gifts to your family here. Also I’ll send back you your 200$ that you gave me before you left. And if I miss any thing, let me know please. And if you have anything to say before ending this, just let me know. And please update me about the paper.
Take care of your self and good luck,”

2006-08-05 19:43:41 · 3 answers · asked by Heartache 1

We go out to eat a lot. Sometimes we go to the movies. We have done fun weekend stuff, but what is something fun yet romantic just for the evening?

2006-08-05 19:41:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm in love w/ my highschool sweetheart but do not know what to do. I don't even think he cares for me. There are different types of love people have for others, there is the logical love, you love them & need them b/c you know they are right for you & then there is the "in love" emotion. That's how I feel for this other person. However, I feel this other person doesn't even care for me or like me. I don't want to be in love w/ this other person but it's alot harder than just not to be in love w/ him. I tried hard to forget this other person & move on but it seems like I can't. I am starting to believe this other person & I are soulmates. I don't know what to do b/c I am starting to become depressed even more so. My husband deserves the world & not this. I know I am being selfish & I am trying not to be, think about the movie, The Notebook, my situation but the other person isn't aware that I feel this way. I haven't even communicated w/ him for a yr. & never told him I loved him.

2006-08-05 19:32:57 · 15 answers · asked by Sapphire 3

Play World of Warcraft instead! Please don't say it was just me!!

2006-08-05 19:26:56 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous